Men dating younger women gives me the ick

[Anonymous]

It depends on the couple but I think sometimes it's just that someone with more maturity would not put up with the guy's issues. The young person is too naive to really see him clearly. I remember thinking this about Sean Penn and the young woman he married during the pandemic. She divorced him quickly.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’m a 36F married to a 36M, two children. All of our friends and associates (mainly lawyers and other professionals) are in similar age appropriate relationships.
Recently I’ve observed a man we know from university, who has aged poorly due to stress of running his own law firm, posting his new younger (mid 20s ish) girlfriend all over social media. She looks like his little sister or niece and it gives me the ick. He is always posting photos of her in revealing clothing hanging all over him like she’s some trophy.
Older women dating younger men don’t seem to give me the same feeling. I’m wondering why that is? Is it because biologically there is much less likely to be children resulting from that type of match, while older men can impregnate younger women with their inferior sperm and have kids well past the age they should become fathers?
Is it because I feel bad for these attractive young women who should really be able to find a decent looking successful man their own age, and instead are settling for an older version?
Or am I having some sort of deep seated insecurities because this woman is younger and prettier than me? To be fair, I am not bad looking and still in decent shape after two kids. I’ve also never had any romantic interest in this man posting on social media.
Fascinating! I suppose I will see more of this type of situation as we get older.

Instead of attacking the guy, maybe you could try being happy for him? Maybe he was depressed and didn’t think he’d meet someone and then he did and he’s over the moon happy? His spamming is tacky, sure, but people in love act stupid. And it’s not like married people don’t spam lovey dovey crap on social media.

[Anonymous]

Unfortunately most men even when partnered with a woman the same age still look at younger woman via porn so it’s their preference either way.

[Anonymous]

I’m in my 40s and date younger women. Upsetting people isn’t the reason I do it, but it is a nice bonus.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm a man and I find older women with younger men incredibly creepy.

Me too. It's weird (I'm a woman). I think a 10 year gap is OK, but 15 is pushing it.

Oh well so sorry, my (very good-looking btw) guy is 20 years younger.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Eh. I don’t think it’s necessarily ick. Usually when I see this dynamic, the older person just got divorced and is looking to feel young again, the young person just graduated college and is looking to feel “grown-up”.

Very, very rarely do they work out. They mess around for a few months and usually the younger person decides they’d rather have someone their own age, without all the baggage.

I went through this at 23. Dated a 45 year old, recently divorced man. It was exciting because he seems so mature and I thought he’d be everything men my age weren’t. But pretty quickly I got tired of his body (he was in decent shape, but 45 is still 45), I realized most 45 year olds aren’t even all that mature, and I definitely did NOT want the drama that would have come with being a stepmom to his kids. So we had fun, then I found a guy my own age.

If I got divorced (I’m 40), I could see myself having a fling with a 20 year old. But ultimately I’d get bored pretty quickly and want someone on my level.

I should probably do this before I run out of time.

-42 year old divorced guy

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Imagine a middle-aged anyone unironically using the phrase “gives me the ick.”

Imagine a 40 year old man posting anything, let alone his flavor of the month, on social media.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Imagine a middle-aged anyone unironically using the phrase “gives me the ick.”

Imagine a 40 year old man posting anything, let alone his flavor of the month, on social media.

She probably makes him.

[Anonymous]

I’m 48 dating a 34 year old man and I definitely get looks like I’m a cougar or a MILF. We both have different long term relationship goals as he’d like to be a father and I really would prefer someone at a similar point in life as me. But until one of us finds the ideal person this is a relationship that works. He’s very tall and fit and many of my married or single or divorced GFs pester me about my sex life. Curious, jealous or both!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’m 48 dating a 34 year old man and I definitely get looks like I’m a cougar or a MILF. We both have different long term relationship goals as he’d like to be a father and I really would prefer someone at a similar point in life as me. But until one of us finds the ideal person this is a relationship that works. He’s very tall and fit and many of my married or single or divorced GFs pester me about my sex life. Curious, jealous or both!

Im the poster above with 20 yr younger bf.

VERY similar here, also he's tall and very handsome ...and more

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’m 48 dating a 34 year old man and I definitely get looks like I’m a cougar or a MILF. We both have different long term relationship goals as he’d like to be a father and I really would prefer someone at a similar point in life as me. But until one of us finds the ideal person this is a relationship that works. He’s very tall and fit and many of my married or single or divorced GFs pester me about my sex life. Curious, jealous or both!

Im the poster above with 20 yr younger bf.

VERY similar here, also he's tall and very handsome ...and more

I was going to post something mean because I thought you were dating a 20 year old but I realize it was 20 years younger.

As a mom of a teen son, I would find it gross for a women in her fifties to be sleeping with a 20 year old. It isn’t sexy. It is more like child molestation. I do think the same as men dating a teen.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’m 48 dating a 34 year old man and I definitely get looks like I’m a cougar or a MILF. We both have different long term relationship goals as he’d like to be a father and I really would prefer someone at a similar point in life as me. But until one of us finds the ideal person this is a relationship that works. He’s very tall and fit and many of my married or single or divorced GFs pester me about my sex life. Curious, jealous or both!

Im the poster above with 20 yr younger bf.

VERY similar here, also he's tall and very handsome ...and more

I was going to post something mean because I thought you were dating a 20 year old but I realize it was 20 years younger.

As a mom of a teen son, I would find it gross for a women in her fifties to be sleeping with a 20 year old. It isn’t sexy. It is more like child molestation. I do think the same as men dating a teen.

No, hes not in his 20s

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’m a 36F married to a 36M, two children. All of our friends and associates (mainly lawyers and other professionals) are in similar age appropriate relationships.
Recently I’ve observed a man we know from university, who has aged poorly due to stress of running his own law firm, posting his new younger (mid 20s ish) girlfriend all over social media. She looks like his little sister or niece and it gives me the ick. He is always posting photos of her in revealing clothing hanging all over him like she’s some trophy.
Older women dating younger men don’t seem to give me the same feeling. I’m wondering why that is? Is it because biologically there is much less likely to be children resulting from that type of match, while older men can impregnate younger women with their inferior sperm and have kids well past the age they should become fathers?
Is it because I feel bad for these attractive young women who should really be able to find a decent looking successful man their own age, and instead are settling for an older version?
Or am I having some sort of deep seated insecurities because this woman is younger and prettier than me? To be fair, I am not bad looking and still in decent shape after two kids. I’ve also never had any romantic interest in this man posting on social media.
Fascinating! I suppose I will see more of this type of situation as we get older.

You’re jealous of her. 10 yrs is not that big of an age gap. more common than you think.

[Anonymous]

Some cultures are very obsessed with youth. Even if the young person looks old or not so great, all that matters is how old they are, which is odd. Even if they don’t want kids, they focus on the person’s age. It seems to be a fixation on some message boards and not others. I’ve never understood why, but find it fascinating.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’m 48 dating a 34 year old man and I definitely get looks like I’m a cougar or a MILF. We both have different long term relationship goals as he’d like to be a father and I really would prefer someone at a similar point in life as me. But until one of us finds the ideal person this is a relationship that works. He’s very tall and fit and many of my married or single or divorced GFs pester me about my sex life. Curious, jealous or both!

Im the poster above with 20 yr younger bf.

VERY similar here, also he's tall and very handsome ...and more

I am in a similar situation, 51 dating 36 year old man and he is so hot. He doesn’t want kids or get married, so it works for us right now.