Men dating younger women gives me the ick

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Despite what a lot of women on this forum say about younger women dating older men it has not matched my experience in the real world. I have been divorced 2 years now. I am 49 and currently dating a woman who is 46. She was the best fit for me. However I was honestly surprised how women as young as 32 were genuinely interesting in me. Yes I make a good living, I am attractive, in good shape etc. But I just never understood the appeal of a man older than a woman by 17 years and who already has kids and done having kids. At first I didn't care about the age range I was going on old to have fun but every single woman under 35 that I dated after a month a so not only wanted a serious relationship but a couple were actually in love. It is as if women don't care about the age gap. Perhaps society has conditioned them that it's okay to be with a man of any age.

I bet if you told those younger women you already had a vasectomy they would drop you like a hot potato.

"Oops" babies happen all the time with divorced high-earning men in their late 40s - 50s and women in their 30s.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Infertile women give men the ick. As do women who with lose morals in their past.

IN what way have they lost their morals?

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Anonymous wrote:Older women dating younger guys gives more people the ick than the other way around

That’s going to depend on the IQ, education level, geographical distribution, religion-adherence, and political party of the people surveyed. Most people I know would be far more grossed out by an old guy targeting a younger woman. There’s much more likely to be exploitation involved.

My 28 year younger gf tells me she loves me more than any other past bf/lover. She previously dated a man 20yr older than her

She is smart as hell - medical student

She is very attractive - solid 7 in scrubs and 8.5 when she gets dolled up for me

She is super liberal and I’m somewhat conservative (not a trumper) and she describes herself as feminist

She comes from “decent” family - PHD/professor parents. Three siblings. Tight knit

She tells me I treat her so right. Unlike the boys her age

We have hours long conversations several times a week about meaningful things in life. Unlike boys her age who want to talk about video games getting wasted and other stupid immature conversations

She loves how I make her come 3+ times and make love for hours each time we are iintimate vs the boys her age who finish in 10-30mins and get excited pretending they are porn stars

She tells she she appreciates the life lessons about money, savings, financial security that she received from me (her parents as highly educated as they are are academics with little practical knowledge on wealth building)

I told her from day 1 we are not a forever couple (due to age gap) but she appreciates “the healthiest relationship” she has had and that I’ve set the bar so high she would never waste time on guys who don’t treat her right - when she is ready to find her forever relationship

We don’t do date nights a lot because I always tell her she needs to socialize with her peers / age group etc. I sometimes get texts from her late weekend nights how she is bored with her friends and rather be home with me. Happened Saturday night lol!

She is not a sugar baby. Apart from she lives rent free at my place

Anyone who thinks there is exploitation in this relationship can best be described as .. mentally challenged 🤪

Is she Asian ? You always brag about your GF on this board but never responded to this question.

Np but is being Asian an issue?

I think the person asking “is she Asian” is referring to the fact that Asian girls tend to focus on money/wealth/status more than other ethnicities.

Yes - nothing against Asian or other minority immigrant women but they do tend to prevail in large gap couples in my circle . I consider “large” gap 15+ years.
He also said PhD parents and it’s rare to have both parents with doctoral for US where UMC women were primarily SAHM in 1960-1980s. More typical for China, former USSR where women were in the labor force

Asian American here. This is so insulting. I’m an Asian American woman married to another Asian American man. We met in grad school and 1 year apart. Almost every couple we know the couple met in their twenties or early thirties and are <5 years apart in age.

Yes, Asian women tend to marry men who are not total losers. I don’t think they marry for status or wealth. What a ridiculous thing to say. In my culture, education is very well respected. Many women marry educated men who also have professional careers. That is just status quo. We are also well educated so it isn’t like we aren’t qualified to marry a fellow well educated partner.

It’s well known Asian women are very practical. If it wasn’t for status upgrade, she would have married a young well educated Asian guy. No deficit of fellow educated men of same age group in this specific community.
But if it a white make it will be almost always a much older dude.

If we are talking about American-born Asian Americans, they usually marry same-age partners they met in college or grad school. Same as any other highly educated US-born group.

[Anonymous]

I went to grad school for a 2nd masters degree when I was 40. In my first semester I met a 22 year old undergrad in his senior year. He was my friend and lover for 2.5 years. He wanted to continue but i knew we would not last longer than another year or two. It's been 10 years and it is hard dating 50 year olds when the freshness of a 22 year old is so memorable.

PP, I hope your second master's degree was in abnormal psychology so you can help your (mommy-fixated) former flame unscrew himself.

Friend and lover? Yuck. Freshness so memorable? Double yuck. Please tell us you no longer troll the GMU student center looking for fun.

OMG. How disgusting. This ho dances her dirty leg around campus to lure men young enough to be her kids into her parlor. It is hard for her to date men near her age now because they instantly note how screwed up she is and run.

He was not your "friend and lover." Instead, you were the "dumpster" for whatever products he would dump into your body. I am sure that he was happy that you could not get pregnant. I know his family was.

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I went to grad school for a 2nd masters degree when I was 40. In my first semester I met a 22 year old undergrad in his senior year. He was my friend and lover for 2.5 years. He wanted to continue but i knew we would not last longer than another year or two. It's been 10 years and it is hard dating 50 year olds when the freshness of a 22 year old is so memorable.

PP, I hope your second master's degree was in abnormal psychology so you can help your (mommy-fixated) former flame unscrew himself.

Friend and lover? Yuck. Freshness so memorable? Double yuck. Please tell us you no longer troll the GMU student center looking for fun.

OMG. How disgusting. This ho dances her dirty leg around campus to lure men young enough to be her kids into her parlor. It is hard for her to date men near her age now because they instantly note how screwed up she is and run.

He was not your "friend and lover." Instead, you were the "dumpster" for whatever products he would dump into your body. I am sure that he was happy that you could not get pregnant. I know his family was.

Genuine question do you think women can't get pregnant at all at 40? My grandma (who was married, also an evangelical, before you call her a hoe) had my dad (her 7th!) when she was 43. And that was in the late 50s, so it's not like she had IVF.

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OMG. How disgusting. This ho dances her dirty leg around campus to lure men young enough to be her kids into her parlor. It is hard for her to date men near her age now because they instantly note how screwed up she is and run.

He was not your "friend and lover." Instead, you were the "dumpster" for whatever products he would dump into your body. I am sure that he was happy that you could not get pregnant. I know his family was.

Genuine question do you think women can't get pregnant at all at 40? My grandma (who was married, also an evangelical, before you call her a hoe) had my dad (her 7th!) when she was 43. And that was in the late 50s, so it's not like she had IVF

Genuine question: All you got from the post was whether I knew women could remain fertile past 40? Yes, I know that women can get pregnant after they turn 40.

The important point is whether you want your 22-year-old son to come home from college with a pregnant 40-year-old graduate student. You seem to misunderstand what makes the PP a ho (hint: preying on boys young enough to be her son is an excellent place to start.)

Why would anyone call your grammy a ho for getting pregnant by her husband? Grammy was an evangelical Christian, yes? With seven kids, she and Grandpa were doing more than singing hymns and leading prayer circles. Good for her. The Lord blesses us all in different ways.

[Anonymous]

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I went to grad school for a 2nd masters degree when I was 40. In my first semester I met a 22 year old undergrad in his senior year. He was my friend and lover for 2.5 years. He wanted to continue but i knew we would not last longer than another year or two. It's been 10 years and it is hard dating 50 year olds when the freshness of a 22 year old is so memorable.

PP, I hope your second master's degree was in abnormal psychology so you can help your (mommy-fixated) former flame unscrew himself.

Friend and lover? Yuck. Freshness so memorable? Double yuck. Please tell us you no longer troll the GMU student center looking for fun.

OMG. How disgusting. This ho dances her dirty leg around campus to lure men young enough to be her kids into her parlor. It is hard for her to date men near her age now because they instantly note how screwed up she is and run.

He was not your "friend and lover." Instead, you were the "dumpster" for whatever products he would dump into your body. I am sure that he was happy that you could not get pregnant. I know his family was.

Lol. People on this forum always point out how jealous and insecure women sound when responding negatively to a post about a middle aged guy dating a much older woman. In this case it is the opposite story of a middle aged woman dating a much younger guy, and I don't know if there's anything more that screams jealousy and insecurity with this over the top nasty response.
I guess we are all conditioned the same way

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Anonymous wrote:MY GF of 7 years is 14 years younger than me, very petite, about 107 pounds and looks 5-10 years younger than her age. I'll admit to showing (PG) photos of her and bragging about it a little to my guy friends and work mates, most of whom do not seem very happy in their marriages.

We have a great relationship and she enjoys the comments and looks we get from some people even more than I do. Neither of us care one bit about anyone's negative view of our relationship.

Why does anyone care about another couple? What a strange thing to care about. Your judgmental attitude says a lot about you and none of it is good.

Live your own life, love who you want and be happy for anyone else who has found love no matter what that couple looks like to you.

So disgusting pig and wasting this womans time. Why would you date so long and not show any commitment?

That's between her and I and we like it that way. Who says I haven't shown any commitment? Do you think that marriage is the only way to do that? Meanwhile 50% of marriages end in divorce. And you're trying to sell me on that? Sorry, BTDT< both of us.

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Anonymous wrote:MY GF of 7 years is 14 years younger than me, very petite, about 107 pounds and looks 5-10 years younger than her age. I'll admit to showing (PG) photos of her and bragging about it a little to my guy friends and work mates, most of whom do not seem very happy in their marriages.

We have a great relationship and she enjoys the comments and looks we get from some people even more than I do. Neither of us care one bit about anyone's negative view of our relationship.

Why does anyone care about another couple? What a strange thing to care about. Your judgmental attitude says a lot about you and none of it is good.

Live your own life, love who you want and be happy for anyone else who has found love no matter what that couple looks like to you.

So disgusting pig and wasting this womans time. Why would you date so long and not show any commitment?

That's between her and I and we like it that way. Who says I haven't shown any commitment? Do you think that marriage is the only way to do that? Meanwhile 50% of marriages end in divorce. And you're trying to sell me on that? Sorry, BTDT< both of us.

She’s divorced? But I thought she was ~*~So PeTiTe~*~. Why would anyone divorce her?

Seriously I don’t care that your gf is younger than you but you’re gross. And not because she’s young but because instead of telling us anything about her personality, how she’s fun, keeps you young, whatever, the first thing you tell us about her is “she weighs 107 pounds.”

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I date younger and anyone who claims it makes them feel younger is lying or (more likely) delusional. I am aware of the age difference every day.

Dating someone 20 years younger is taking your hands off the steering wheel on the beltway and seeing how long you can go until you crash

That's part of the fun, but only enjoyable if you have the confidence you can quickly meets someone else when she inevitably moves on.

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I went to grad school for a 2nd masters degree when I was 40. In my first semester I met a 22 year old undergrad in his senior year. He was my friend and lover for 2.5 years. He wanted to continue but i knew we would not last longer than another year or two. It's been 10 years and it is hard dating 50 year olds when the freshness of a 22 year old is so memorable.

PP, I hope your second master's degree was in abnormal psychology so you can help your (mommy-fixated) former flame unscrew himself.

Friend and lover? Yuck. Freshness so memorable? Double yuck. Please tell us you no longer troll the GMU student center looking for fun.

OMG. How disgusting. This ho dances her dirty leg around campus to lure men young enough to be her kids into her parlor. It is hard for her to date men near her age now because they instantly note how screwed up she is and run.

He was not your "friend and lover." Instead, you were the "dumpster" for whatever products he would dump into your body. I am sure that he was happy that you could not get pregnant. I know his family was.

Genuine question do you think women can't get pregnant at all at 40? My grandma (who was married, also an evangelical, before you call her a hoe) had my dad (her 7th!) when she was 43. And that was in the late 50s, so it's not like she had IVF.

Ho, not hoe.

Hoe is a garden tool. Ho is derived from historical African American vernacular for "whore."

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I date younger and anyone who claims it makes them feel younger is lying or (more likely) delusional. I am aware of the age difference every day.

Dating someone 20 years younger is taking your hands off the steering wheel on the beltway and seeing how long you can go until you crash

That's part of the fun, but only enjoyable if you have the confidence you can quickly meets someone else when she inevitably moves on.

I’m a woman and genuinely don’t understand how men can handle it emotionally dating younger! I dated a guy once who as only a year younger than me, but he was extremely handsome and young looking. All that body so smooth, curly hair, firm D, was driving me crazy wanting to own him, do so many things for him. But also amplified my feeling of aging and made me insecure and jealous. I can’t imagine dating a child 20 years younger and not thinking all the time they are only with me for money, stability, status, life experience and I’ll be disposed in a matter of a few months

That’s terrible. I feel way better dating older men ( up to 10 years older as much older they look geriatric to me).

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Lol. People on this forum always point out how jealous and insecure women sound when responding negatively to a post about a middle aged guy dating a much older woman. In this case it is the opposite story of a middle aged woman dating a much younger guy, and I don't know if there's anything more that screams jealousy and insecurity with this over the top nasty response.
I guess we are all conditioned the same way.

NEWS FLASH: Certain women on this forum (i.e., you) sound jealous and insecure when they indirectly defend a middle-aged "ho" for her predatory stocking.

Are you the PP (i.e., the 40-year-old late-in-life grad student who posted about banging her much younger "friend and lover"?) Come on now. Own up to it.

Did the over-the-top response hurt your feelings? Here is a solution.

Summer school is still in session at JMU, GMU, and other universities in the area. You can put on something nice (and flattering for someone your age) and drop by campus to find a new friend and lover. Also, consider taking a refresher English course there since you missed that "middle-aged" and "over-the-top" are hyphenated.

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Agreed, it looks pathetic.

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Anonymous wrote:I date younger and anyone who claims it makes them feel younger is lying or (more likely) delusional. I am aware of the age difference every day.

Dating someone 20 years younger is taking your hands off the steering wheel on the beltway and seeing how long you can go until you crash

That's part of the fun, but only enjoyable if you have the confidence you can quickly meets someone else when she inevitably moves on.

I’m a woman and genuinely don’t understand how men can handle it emotionally dating younger! I dated a guy once who as only a year younger than me, but he was extremely handsome and young looking. All that body so smooth, curly hair, firm D, was driving me crazy wanting to own him, do so many things for him. But also amplified my feeling of aging and made me insecure and jealous. I can’t imagine dating a child 20 years younger and not thinking all the time they are only with me for money, stability, status, life experience and I’ll be disposed in a matter of a few months

That’s terrible. I feel way better dating older men ( up to 10 years older as much older they look geriatric to me).

You do not understand the biology and the psychology of the male specie. If you did you will understand. Men and women are very different. Somehow today society wants u to believe that we are the same and think the same. We are not and never will be.