Husband’s female friend encroaching

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My old friend was engaged to someone like you.

I thought she was ridiculous . I had had many opportunities to date her rich husband when he was free and single. I was not ever the least bit attracted to him, and he knew that well.

So the whole “threat” was all in her insecure head.

Needless to say, they eventually broke up.

He broke up with the woman he was about to marry over another woman who was just a friend? Wow! Did you ever include her in the friendship or always just reach out to him and invite him out alone?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Your instincts are probably correct.

+1

Trust your gut, OP. Plenty of women are looking to marry up.

[Anonymous]

There are often 2 sides so this. Often times the female friend continues to act over bearing and like she owns her male friend and gets mad when he starts to put his own gf/fiances/wife’s feelings first. She doesn’t respect the relationship and expects that she should come before his own partner because you know “she came first and all.” Never includes the partner in the friendship and then gets mad at the boundaries that are set because she thinks she is entitled to have her guy friend all to herself. I have seen it unfold from the other side as well.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Pretty sure this is a well known troll on this site, but anyway no, you don’t get to police your husbands interactions with his friends from before you were an item. If you’re so insecure you don’t think men should have female friends, why did you continue to date and marry someone who did? That’s on you bee.

Anyone know soexcited123 who used to frequent weddingbee and she created a ton of different user names to troll?

Pp you’re quoting, and that’s exactly who I was referring to. I guarantee she’s sock puppeting here too, it’s textbook soexcited.

[Anonymous]

OP, what kind of questions this woman ask and how often? My answer would depends on that information.

I am a wife of 20+ years and I have a male friend who is now happily married. But we knew each other from the high school, grew up at the same neighborhood, went to the same college and grad school. We traveled together a lot before marriages and shared room and sometimes bed but we never ever had any romantic relationships. We went to the parties together and danced all night long before we were married. We still talk a lot with each other. He contacts me to discuss his son school issues, college prospectives, his job promotions, issues at work (we work at the sam field). His wife is aware of our relationship, I have no clue how she feels about it, but she hosted me twice in their house for dinner when I was at their city.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If it’s bothering you, you need to bring it up.

“I’m glad you and Larla have been friends all these years. I’ve noticed you’ve been texting more than usual lately. Is she going through a rough patch? If not, I’m not really comfortable with the frequency. Sometimes it feels like you guys talk more than we do!”

What’s the point of this? It’s inaccurate , hyperbolic and passive aggressive. Don’t do this to your partner.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Pretty sure this is a well known troll on this site, but anyway no, you don’t get to police your husbands interactions with his friends from before you were an item. If you’re so insecure you don’t think men should have female friends, why did you continue to date and marry someone who did? That’s on you bee.

Anyone know soexcited123 who used to frequent weddingbee and she created a ton of different user names to troll?

Pp you’re quoting, and that’s exactly who I was referring to. I guarantee she’s sock puppeting here too, it’s textbook soexcited.

How can you tell who someone is from another forum? I’m sure she isn’t the only one who holds that opinion. There are tons of people who use forums.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Pretty sure this is a well known troll on this site, but anyway no, you don’t get to police your husbands interactions with his friends from before you were an item. If you’re so insecure you don’t think men should have female friends, why did you continue to date and marry someone who did? That’s on you bee.

Anyone know soexcited123 who used to frequent weddingbee and she created a ton of different user names to troll?

Pp you’re quoting, and that’s exactly who I was referring to. I guarantee she’s sock puppeting here too, it’s textbook soexcited.

How can you tell who someone is from another forum? I’m sure she isn’t the only one who holds that opinion. There are tons of people who use forums.

Is it you soexcited?
There are major consistencies in her/your posts that literally transcend forums. Always the same issue, always the same responses. Thank god you stopped calling women ‘chics’, that was a previous dead giveaway.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My old friend was engaged to someone like you.

I thought she was ridiculous . I had had many opportunities to date her rich husband when he was free and single. I was not ever the least bit attracted to him, and he knew that well.

So the whole “threat” was all in her insecure head.

Needless to say, they eventually broke up.

He broke up with the woman he was about to marry over another woman who was just a friend? Wow! Did you ever include her in the friendship or always just reach out to him and invite him out alone?

Dp, but why would I include the spouse of my friend? Do you include all the husbands of your gfs? No? Cuz it’s only women you’re worried about? Cuz you’re insecure and controlling af??

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My old friend was engaged to someone like you.

I thought she was ridiculous . I had had many opportunities to date her rich husband when he was free and single. I was not ever the least bit attracted to him, and he knew that well.

So the whole “threat” was all in her insecure head.

Needless to say, they eventually broke up.

He broke up with the woman he was about to marry over another woman who was just a friend? Wow! Did you ever include her in the friendship or always just reach out to him and invite him out alone?

Dp, but why would I include the spouse of my friend? Do you include all the husbands of your gfs? No? Cuz it’s only women you’re worried about? Cuz you’re insecure and controlling af??

Because it’s a straight couple. To show you aren’t a threat. Why do you need to constantly be around some other woman’s man while leaving her out?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My old friend was engaged to someone like you.

I thought she was ridiculous . I had had many opportunities to date her rich husband when he was free and single. I was not ever the least bit attracted to him, and he knew that well.

So the whole “threat” was all in her insecure head.

Needless to say, they eventually broke up.

He broke up with the woman he was about to marry over another woman who was just a friend? Wow! Did you ever include her in the friendship or always just reach out to him and invite him out alone?

Sounds like it wasn’t a threat so much as the engaged friend was aware on some level that her fiance was in love with the platonic friend and would have preferred to be with her. That seems like a valid reason to break up.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Pretty sure this is a well known troll on this site, but anyway no, you don’t get to police your husbands interactions with his friends from before you were an item. If you’re so insecure you don’t think men should have female friends, why did you continue to date and marry someone who did? That’s on you bee.

Anyone know soexcited123 who used to frequent weddingbee and she created a ton of different user names to troll?

Pp you’re quoting, and that’s exactly who I was referring to. I guarantee she’s sock puppeting here too, it’s textbook soexcited.

This post does feel troll-y but Jeff said OP is not sockpuppeting.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This makes me sad. I have a couple of male friends I text every day. We are just friends. Same as with my female friends. I think it's healthy to have actual friendships with both genders. And I will add, as someone who has been married 30 years, married couples never provide 100% what they each need in terms of human interaction. Friends fill a critical spot in people's lives.

I'd say, without something more going on here, there's nothing to worry about.

Nah this isn’t the same. She’s not his old friend. She could call and text OP, but she’s clearly more interested in her DH.

[Anonymous]

This sounds like an emotional affair.

Personally, I wouldn’t be okay with it. I don’t know many women who would.

(Actually, I can’t think of any friends who would put up with this, but there’s always the possibility. And I say that as someone who knows someone who agreed to a temporary hall pass —even that couple would not tolerate this level of intimacy from a third party.)

[Anonymous]

Duh she’s hot for DH