Other parents surprised my kid is smart?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:People stereotype all the time. Since your daughter doesn’t sound like she fits the nerdy profile of an academic high achiever, her success is challenging to their mental act of putting her in a different bucket. Take it as a compliment.

The poster said her daughter hangs out with show choir kids and it’s a nerdy group. Meaning - she specifically said she is with a nerdy group.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My thought is probably that you and your daughter are humble and graceful, so people just didn't know. In a world where parents of smart kids tend to humble brag endlessly and annoyingly, I'd say you are refreshing!

OP’s post was one long humble brag lol

+1. Some people…

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Yes, single Mom with a racial component.

Anonymous wrote:It's not just smart, it's that she's being parented well.

There are people who don't think the above two things can go together. Even in 2023. My uncle is one of them.

[Anonymous]

That happened to me in high school after the PSAT. I was one of the generally smart kids, but more middle of the pack. I ended up with the third highest score in our class on the psat. Some parents were surprised, and I know one set of parents were pissed their son didn’t do as well. He was shipped off to sat prep, before it was really common.

No racial component, but I was the child of immigrants and neither of my parents went to high school. My friend’s dad was a doctor and his parents had high expectations. Getting beaten by the blue-collar kid didn’t go over well.

[Anonymous]

I can’t imagine how you would know people are surprised your kid is smart, OP. Do they actually gasp when her name is called? So they really make comments like “I’m surprised Darla won that award, I thought Larla had it for sure!”?

Or perhaps you are projecting a bit?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I can’t imagine how you would know people are surprised your kid is smart, OP. Do they actually gasp when her name is called? So they really make comments like “I’m surprised Darla won that award, I thought Larla had it for sure!”?

Or perhaps you are projecting a bit?

Likely

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You are overthinking things and reading into things. Just relax, no one really cares that much.

+ 10^100

My kids get/got elementary academic awards and I don't really know or care which other parents are/were surprised by it. Other parents surprise or lack thereof does not affect my kids' performance in school. You have to understand that school awards are sometimes given for performance and sometimes given as motivation to kids who aren't performing as well as the top of the class, so don't get too smug or butthurt by awards or lack thereof.

[Anonymous]

I have never seen any information from school about who the “top” students are in ES, except when kids gossip about test scores or a teacher shares information with a kid’s own parent.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You are overthinking things and reading into things. Just relax, no one really cares that much.

+ 10^100

My kids get/got elementary academic awards and I don't really know or care which other parents are/were surprised by it. Other parents surprise or lack thereof does not affect my kids' performance in school. You have to understand that school awards are sometimes given for performance and sometimes given as motivation to kids who aren't performing as well as the top of the class, so don't get too smug or butthurt by awards or lack thereof.

But OP’s kid is #1, but a WIDE margin. Not to be confused with #2

[Anonymous]

OP back just to say that at elementary school graduation, they do give an award to the top academic student, at each of the 5 elementary schools in the town. It's called the [Town name] Teacher's Association award. When I was a kid, we had this at my school and it was called the Kiwanis club award.

Just for your awareness, and I'm very sorry if this triggers you.

Parents complained so much about this kind of thing in the next town over, that they eliminated all awards , academics and others, at graduation. So I understand that you might not be familiar with this. It doesn't excuse your derision, but it is what it is.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP back just to say that at elementary school graduation, they do give an award to the top academic student, at each of the 5 elementary schools in the town. It's called the [Town name] Teacher's Association award. When I was a kid, we had this at my school and it was called the Kiwanis club award.

Just for your awareness, and I'm very sorry if this triggers you.

Parents complained so much about this kind of thing in the next town over, that they eliminated all awards , academics and others, at graduation. So I understand that you might not be familiar with this. It doesn't excuse your derision, but it is what it is.

OP, what are these other parents actually doing/saying that makes you believe that they are surprised?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP back just to say that at elementary school graduation, they do give an award to the top academic student, at each of the 5 elementary schools in the town. It's called the [Town name] Teacher's Association award. When I was a kid, we had this at my school and it was called the Kiwanis club award.

Just for your awareness, and I'm very sorry if this triggers you.

Parents complained so much about this kind of thing in the next town over, that they eliminated all awards , academics and others, at graduation. So I understand that you might not be familiar with this. It doesn't excuse your derision, but it is what it is.

op you need therapy to work on your insecurity. nobody is paying that much attention to you or your family.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP back just to say that at elementary school graduation, they do give an award to the top academic student, at each of the 5 elementary schools in the town. It's called the [Town name] Teacher's Association award. When I was a kid, we had this at my school and it was called the Kiwanis club award.

Just for your awareness, and I'm very sorry if this triggers you.

Parents complained so much about this kind of thing in the next town over, that they eliminated all awards , academics and others, at graduation. So I understand that you might not be familiar with this. It doesn't excuse your derision, but it is what it is.

op you need therapy to work on your insecurity. nobody is paying that much attention to you or your family.

Yup. DP here. At our DCUm approved HS, in the written graduation program, it can not state who was given honors, presumably because parents complained.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP back just to say that at elementary school graduation, they do give an award to the top academic student, at each of the 5 elementary schools in the town. It's called the [Town name] Teacher's Association award. When I was a kid, we had this at my school and it was called the Kiwanis club award.

Just for your awareness, and I'm very sorry if this triggers you.

Parents complained so much about this kind of thing in the next town over, that they eliminated all awards , academics and others, at graduation. So I understand that you might not be familiar with this. It doesn't excuse your derision, but it is what it is.

op you need therapy to work on your insecurity. nobody is paying that much attention to you or your family.

I was responding directly to the posters saying there are not awards of this kind in elementary school. That's appropriate.
That has nothing to do with my insecurity. Which I do need to work on!

The harping on things that one is not familiar with and completely ignoring the actual concern posed and vilifying a stranger for admitting something positive about their child... it's just the worst of the internet. Luckily, the sweet and kind hearted also showed up in force and I thank them.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP back just to say that at elementary school graduation, they do give an award to the top academic student, at each of the 5 elementary schools in the town. It's called the [Town name] Teacher's Association award. When I was a kid, we had this at my school and it was called the Kiwanis club award.

Just for your awareness, and I'm very sorry if this triggers you.

Parents complained so much about this kind of thing in the next town over, that they eliminated all awards , academics and others, at graduation. So I understand that you might not be familiar with this. It doesn't excuse your derision, but it is what it is.

op you need therapy to work on your insecurity. nobody is paying that much attention to you or your family.

I was responding directly to the posters saying there are not awards of this kind in elementary school. That's appropriate.
That has nothing to do with my insecurity. Which I do need to work on!

The harping on things that one is not familiar with and completely ignoring the actual concern posed and vilifying a stranger for admitting something positive about their child... it's just the worst of the internet. Luckily, the sweet and kind hearted also showed up in force and I thank them.

You don’t have a concern though. You are basically posted to be validated your kid is smart.