Affiar - was it worth it??

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Never had an affair whilt married - "cheated" all the time while I was dating never once I got engaged. I think about it alot and at this point its not for me but I guess what I don't understand about the whole thing is why get involved with someone else who is in a relationship? I think if I were to get involved with someone I would want them to not be married. I would assume they had other relationships but to know that they had a wife and perhaps children, serious turn off.

I've never had an affair, but sure do fantasize about it. If I were ever going to do it, it would just be for the sex--I wouldn't want to end my marriage. So for me, I'd want someone who is already in a relationship and also not looking to change it. I wouldn't want messy emotional entanglements, just great passionate bangin'! At least that's how my fantasies play out. In reality, wouldn't even know where to look for someone to have an affair with.

[Anonymous]

My (single) mother had an affair with a married man when we were in high school. He claimed his wife was mentally ill etc... It left my mother emotionally scarred, confused us about how men and women should behave and left us with diminished respect for her.

Don't let loneliness or passion in the moment cloud your judgement, it can be a long road to repair the damage done. Treat yourself gently... Stay above the fray.

Good luck

[Anonymous]

I'm a single mom and have at various points been involved with married men. First two times where while I was going through separation and divorce from my husband, and God I am glad I had they affairs; they gave me the courage to get out of my very unhappy marriage. They reminded me that I was attractive, and that being miserable wasn't inevitable: they reminded me that relationships can have humor and warmth in them. Both ended, and it was okay with both of us that they ended.

And, sorry folks, I am also currently sleeping occasionally with a married man. We're friends. It works. I don't feel "ready" for a real relationship right now, partly because I am very focused on taking care of my kids at the moment. But I am delighted to have a "friend with benefits" relationship. I assume it will end: either we'll just stop needing it or, most likely, I will eventually meet someone else and want to focus on that "real" relationship.

But stop feeling guilty, OP. You do not have a moral obligation to the wife you've never met: any moral breach is on his part, and is his problem. You didn't marry his wife-- he did. Just take care of yourself and keep your expectations low.

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Anonymous wrote:03:45 you need to not be so quick to call people names and be a little more sensitive to what is going on. Just because someone is involved with a married man doesn't mean she is a "slut" We have no idea of the details, so back off. Be very careful of what you ar so critical of and never say never - you never know what circumstance you may be in. Believe me, I said I would NEVER have an affair and did and I am not a slut, whore, etc.

The problem with this website is there are a bunch of judgemental, critical, no life, bored women on here who take thier frustrations I(sexual and and mental) out on other people.

If you are sleeping with a married man, I don't care the circumstances, you are a whore. He is also a whore. The posts I have been reading are full of sob stories from these predatory women who are attracted to married men. The moment a man tells you he is married, it should be over. I don't care how bad his wife is in bed, how little companionship she gives him, or the fact that you just have big fake breasts and a bangin bod, back off!!!!!!!!!!!

Why is it always the woman waiting for the man to leave his wife? You never hear about the man waiting for the woman to leave her husband. I hate to say it, but it makes women sound like idiots.

As for the single moms going for married men, I can understand it. You don't risk emotional committment with a married man. Sometimes, you just want sex. You just have to have your expectations set correctly.

You can back off, but the marriage is still in a shambles. If his marriage is already that bad off, then it's not the affair that wrecked the home.

Guess what. He is most likely lying to you about how bad the marriage is. He is giving you a sob story so that he can get into your pants. And it works, apparently. And then when the marriage feels the effects of the affair - as it will, even if the wife is in the dark - his sob story becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy.

I have a single friend who was the other woman. She told me that her lover's wife was crazy. She said that after a year, she realized that the wife was crazy because of the terrible way that he treated his wife and his marriage.

Even if the marriage is in shambles, that does not mean that it will lead to divorce. People stay together for lots of strange reasons and the world is filled with mistresses who spend their lives on a married man and have nothing to show for it. OP, just be honest with yourself about what you expect out of this relationship and the limitation that is marriage places on those expectations.

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Why is it always the woman waiting for the man to leave his wife? You never hear about the man waiting for the woman to leave her husband. I hate to say it, but it makes women sound like idiots.

As for the single moms going for married men, I can understand it. You don't risk emotional committment with a married man. Sometimes, you just want sex. You just have to have your expectations set correctly.

[Anonymous]

Sex with married men is amazing. They are like caged animals unleashed for a brief respite.

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"Sex with married men is amazing. They are like caged animals unleashed for a brief respite."

Yup.

[Anonymous]

To 2:04 - well, now you have. My lover has wanted to marry me for six years; I'll never leave my husband for him.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:"Sex with married men is amazing. They are like caged animals unleashed for a brief respite."

Yup.

Yeah, but having to listen to them drone on afterwards about how bad their marriages are, how good the sex was with me, or how guilty they feel -- usually all of the above -- can be so annoying. They are truly pathetic creatures.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:"Sex with married men is amazing. They are like caged animals unleashed for a brief respite."

Yup.

Yeah, but having to listen to them drone on afterwards about how bad their marriages are, how good the sex was with me, or how guilty they feel -- usually all of the above -- can be so annoying. They are truly pathetic creatures.

No, the truly parhetic creatures are the women who enable them. At least hookers and escorts get paid, what is your motivation?

[Anonymous]

Hot, monkey sex, what else?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:"Sex with married men is amazing. They are like caged animals unleashed for a brief respite."

Yup.

Yeah, but having to listen to them drone on afterwards about how bad their marriages are, how good the sex was with me, or how guilty they feel -- usually all of the above -- can be so annoying. They are truly pathetic creatures.

No, the truly parhetic creatures are the women who enable them. At least hookers and escorts get paid, what is your motivation?

too funny because my DS in HS said that about various girls/hos. No slamming me since they put out at random. Not much difference except hookers get paid.

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11:24 again.
DS wasn't with them but others were.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Hot, monkey sex, what else?

If this is your approach then why not just hang up a red light outside your door and start charging, becasue the only difference between you and the woman on the streets giving $20 blow jobs is that she is actually being honest with herself about what she is.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Hot, monkey sex, what else?

If this is your approach then why not just hang up a red light outside your door and start charging, becasue the only difference between you and the woman on the streets giving $20 blow jobs is that she is actually being honest with herself about what she is.

Wow! Are you really this stupid?