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Affiar - was it worth it??
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Anonymous
| 23:11 - I have no idea what direction I'm going - I'm afraid that it could go emotional and know that is bad news. I'm trying to just keep it at a sexual level and only look at it as that but not sure I'm going to be successful at that. |
Anonymous
| OP, you are a parent. Try to conduct your life with integrity and dignity. You are an example to your child. |
Anonymous
| You are all dirty sluts and need to stay the hell away from married men! Shame on you!!!! |
Anonymous
| What if you get pregnant? At least have sex with someone who's able to step up, should that happen. |
Anonymous
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To 15:28
"How is this fair to your life partner?" You're right, it's not. I fully acknowledge and accept my selfishness. We were in counselling for over 6 months for the issues that led up to the affair, but once we stopped going, H slid back into bad old habits. I essentially have to either accept him the way he is, or get divorced. "What do you think he would do if he found out" Not sure. He says he'd dump me, but it's not clear. "and would you be ok if he got a lover? " I wouldn't care. One of our main issues is his comparatively lower sex drive. A lover might perk him up in that respect. |
Anonymous
| To 8:31 - I've been sterilized. No chance of pregnancy here. |
Anonymous
It does not matter whether you can get pregnant or not, the fact is that you are interfering with someone else's marriage. The only time it is ok to be the other woman is if the wife know about it and is ok with the arrangement (yes, it does happen). |
Anonymous
I'm a single mom too. I guess the question I have for you is, why would you get involved with someone who gives you so little? Even though I'm not sure I want to get married again, I would never "settle" for a married man. I would far prefer to date someone who is unattached. I deserve more than to be someone else's on the side dish. As a single mom, the last thing I want to do is be involved with someone who is less than the best model for my children. I love my kids more than anything, and so, when I am dating I want to build a relationship in a way that serves as a positive model for my children (whether or not it's with a guy that I want to marry). And, I definitely won't be modeling for my girl dating a married man or getting married to a married man that broke up his own family for me. Finally, the one great lesson I learned in my previous marriage is to listen to my gut! When my gut says run, I run like hell now! |
Anonymous
This is all very disturbing. Get your 'mojo' back with a younger or hot guy single guy not someone else's husband and father. This really sickens me. |
Anonymous
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PP I agree, it would be like 1/2 ass mojo job! If I were you OP, go for a younger (30 something) single men, so many good looking ones out there...
Hack even 60 something single and rich is okay too! Married and someone else leftover/trash (anyone who would cheat is one in my book), no! |
Anonymous
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03:45 you need to not be so quick to call people names and be a little more sensitive to what is going on. Just because someone is involved with a married man doesn't mean she is a "slut" We have no idea of the details, so back off. Be very careful of what you ar so critical of and never say never - you never know what circumstance you may be in. Believe me, I said I would NEVER have an affair and did and I am not a slut, whore, etc.
The problem with this website is there are a bunch of judgemental, critical, no life, bored women on here who take thier frustrations I(sexual and and mental) out on other people. |
Anonymous
| 23:11 The situation for me was, I had known the guy for over 20 years and even had had a past relationship with him. There was a shared past and I was vulnerable when he came back to me. I'm not a "slut,"; it has ended now; and when he came to me his marriage was already in dire straits. If things are going to end between them, it won't be because of me. Meanwhile, I enjoyed it... and I don't hate him for it now. Like I said, he will always be a friend. |
Anonymous
OP here and same situation as 23:11 - so, no I'm not a slut either - just very vulnerable and we all are at some point in our lives. I knew when I asked this question there would be people like some PP's who would react with slander. Whatever - for the most part, everyone has been very honest and open sharing experiences and offering very good advice. I'm not going to let one person who calls me and other women who have been in my shoes a slut make me feel bad about myself. Until you have experienced this you really shouldn'y judge people. |
Anonymous
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OP, I posted about having the affair as my ticket out of a bad marriage... I was married, he was not. While I don't regret it per se, it was not an easy thing emotionally. I mixed all kinds of feelings of guilt, sadness, happiness, etc and it probably muddied my logic for some time.
I liken the experience to riding a tiger: it's a helluva ride while you're on it, but it's hell getting off. If you are a single mom who is the least bit emotionally vulnerable or likely to get hurt, I'd say find someone else to meet your needs. A married man who isn't likely to leave his wife could be disastrous to your mental health and you are all your DC has. And for me, I just never could commit to him due to the guilt I felt over the affair with him. |
Anonymous
If you are sleeping with a married man, I don't care the circumstances, you are a whore. He is also a whore. The posts I have been reading are full of sob stories from these predatory women who are attracted to married men. The moment a man tells you he is married, it should be over. I don't care how bad his wife is in bed, how little companionship she gives him, or the fact that you just have big fake breasts and a bangin bod, back off!!!!!!!!!!! |