Affiar - was it worth it??

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I can easily see in shades of grey, but marriage to me is a black and white issue. When I first met my now-DH, he was married to someone else (I was single).

Despite my attraction to him, there was no way I was going to poison any potential future relationship with him by having anything to do with him while he was still married.

Even though his wife was crazy (truly -- she used his SSN to get credit cards *after* the marriage was over, she hid an affair and an abortion from him (except that she used his health insurance to pay for it....etc) I respected the fact that he was married and that he needed to close out that chapter in his life before moving on. I subjugated my needs and desires for a moral choice -- something the immediate-gratification crowd seems incapable of doing.

The week after his divorce was final -- well, that's a different story. We'll have been married for ten years in June.

I guess I just don't see how it's possible to pursue a married guy without knowing that it's wrong. As a PP mentioned, the OW didn't make the vow/commitment to the wife, but there should be a respect for the vow of the husband...

And they worry that gays will destroy marriage. I think straight people are doing a damn fine job of that on their own.

I mean comparing infidelity to not returning a grocery shopping cart. You can't really think they are comparable; if you do, you have no ability to see shades of gray. Do you really think a DW who has been cheated on feels no more betrayed than someone who sees a shopping cart left in the parking lot? Really?

[Anonymous]

I wrote the post you quoted, but had not previously posted on this thread. I think you're confusing me with someone you disagreed with earlier.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:03:45 you need to not be so quick to call people names and be a little more sensitive to what is going on. Just because someone is involved with a married man doesn't mean she is a "slut" We have no idea of the details, so back off. Be very careful of what you ar so critical of and never say never - you never know what circumstance you may be in. Believe me, I said I would NEVER have an affair and did and I am not a slut, whore, etc.

The problem with this website is there are a bunch of judgemental, critical, no life, bored women on here who take thier frustrations I(sexual and and mental) out on other people.

If you are sleeping with a married man, I don't care the circumstances, you are a whore. He is also a whore. The posts I have been reading are full of sob stories from these predatory women who are attracted to married men. The moment a man tells you he is married, it should be over. I don't care how bad his wife is in bed, how little companionship she gives him, or the fact that you just have big fake breasts and a bangin bod, back off!!!!!!!!!!!

You can back off, but the marriage is still in a shambles. If his marriage is already that bad off, then it's not the affair that wrecked the home.

BULLSHIT! Bribery, payoffs, STDs the whole nine yards...now tell me again how the marriage was in shambles before you entered the scene homewrecker(not slut!!).

[Anonymous]

I am sooooooooo glad that I am a widow.