Why do men only date women they’re attracted to?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Women are way more generous with what they find attractive and it’s not even close. If you don’t fit within a very standard definition of female beauty, most men under the age 50 will be embarrassed to admit his attraction to you to other men and he certainly won’t publicly date or marry you. I agree with PP, it’s disingenuous to say otherwise.

Yet below average women get married every day.

Maybe that was true 50-100 years ago, but think of all the weddings you’ve seen in the past 10 years in any age group. The woman is almost always more or less standardly good looking and on the thin to average side, or there’s some way where the groom is punching above his weight in terms of looks. And If she’s obese then the guy is too, but there are way more thin/average women who will marry fatter men. So I disagree, you do not see below average women marrying very often and never where there is a disparity in looks.

Are you are comparing women's looks to men's?

That's impossible. Women are more attractive than men generally. Even Tom Brady is not that cute. A beautiful woman will outshine him by far. Now compare Tom Brady to other men and he is a star.

Men don't have features that make them naturally attractive.

And overweight pimpled women do get married every day.

Lie again

[Anonymous]

Men are visual, women will learn to like wealthy nice men

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Y’all lying if you say you’ve never dated/banged/stayed married to someone who is not that attractive to you.

Look at everyone over 40 still with their spouse.

Y’all like “but they are attractive to me”, is exactly what Op is talking about.

This. Look at any couple walking around DC over 35 over 40. Often a fairly attractive woman with at-best an average man. Sometimes the opposite. Ppl marry for stability, similar education, money, desire for family, etc., and average dudes often come out on the good end of this.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Y’all lying if you say you’ve never dated/banged/stayed married to someone who is not that attractive to you.

Look at everyone over 40 still with their spouse.

Y’all like “but they are attractive to me”, is exactly what Op is talking about.

This. Look at any couple walking around DC over 35 over 40. Often a fairly attractive woman with at-best an average man. Sometimes the opposite. Ppl marry for stability, similar education, money, desire for family, etc., and average dudes often come out on the good end of this.

Because men are attracted to a woman based on her physical looks. Women are attracted to men based on their physical looks AND market value. An ugly but successful man can date very beautiful girls.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Y’all lying if you say you’ve never dated/banged/stayed married to someone who is not that attractive to you.

Look at everyone over 40 still with their spouse.

Y’all like “but they are attractive to me”, is exactly what Op is talking about.

This. Look at any couple walking around DC over 35 over 40. Often a fairly attractive woman with at-best an average man. Sometimes the opposite. Ppl marry for stability, similar education, money, desire for family, etc., and average dudes often come out on the good end of this.

Because men are attracted to a woman based on her physical looks. Women are attracted to men based on their physical looks AND market value. An ugly but successful man can date very beautiful girls.

+1. We really could have skipped the 3 pages worth of “Huh? I’m SO not like other girls!” to get to this basic truth.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Women are way more generous with what they find attractive and it’s not even close. If you don’t fit within a very standard definition of female beauty, most men under the age 50 will be embarrassed to admit his attraction to you to other men and he certainly won’t publicly date or marry you. I agree with PP, it’s disingenuous to say otherwise.

Yet below average women get married every day.

Maybe that was true 50-100 years ago, but think of all the weddings you’ve seen in the past 10 years in any age group. The woman is almost always more or less standardly good looking and on the thin to average side, or there’s some way where the groom is punching above his weight in terms of looks. And If she’s obese then the guy is too, but there are way more thin/average women who will marry fatter men. So I disagree, you do not see below average women marrying very often and never where there is a disparity in looks.

Are you are comparing women's looks to men's?

That's impossible. Women are more attractive than men generally. Even Tom Brady is not that cute. A beautiful woman will outshine him by far. Now compare Tom Brady to other men and he is a star.

Men don't have features that make them naturally attractive.

And overweight pimpled women do get married every day.

Lie again

Hear me out:

Tom Brady is considered very handsome. Shall we say top 5%? But he will not turn heads anywhere because handsome men are still boring. His is tall and lean. That's it. And he puts in a lot of effort to look that way. Look at pics of him when he was younger : he was less good looking. Look at a young woman in that 5% percentile: she looks fantastic without any effort.

A beautiful woman , say top 5% for women will turn heads: her hair, her skin, her boobs, her lips, her curves. Women are striking. Good looking men are big and boring.

This is nature of human beings. A man would have to go to the gym for an hour a day to look good. A beautiful woman can cut her calories and drink water and just shine.

So if we are comparing apples to apples, the percentiles match.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:These are the same type of men who will bemoan about gold-diggers and/or women having no substance or depth to their personalities. We’ve all dated someone who we weren’t attracted to initially, but we grew to appreciate them due to their character and charm.

Like anyone else, attraction is important to me as well, but I’ve always given a man who shows interest in me a moment of my time.

Whereas if a woman is unattractive to a man, he will act as if she doesn’t exist.

Fellas, you’re free to date whomever you want, but you’re digging yourself into a hole of vapid connections and failed situationships with your shallow mentality.

Um. We are more efficient that way

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Men are visual, women will learn to like wealthy nice men

There are only so many wealthy men. Not many.

The average woman is not getting a wealthy man. And the average man is not getting an above average woman.

The average man is getting the best he can get. And the best he can get is average because the handsome and wealthy men already got the above average women.

The average man is actually getting a below average woman. Otherwise the numbers don't add up. There are only so many above average women to go around.

[Anonymous]

You have some interesting thoughts in the post but your title is overshadowing it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Y’all lying if you say you’ve never dated/banged/stayed married to someone who is not that attractive to you.

Look at everyone over 40 still with their spouse.

Y’all like “but they are attractive to me”, is exactly what Op is talking about.

This. Look at any couple walking around DC over 35 over 40. Often a fairly attractive woman with at-best an average man. Sometimes the opposite. Ppl marry for stability, similar education, money, desire for family, etc., and average dudes often come out on the good end of this.

Usually they did not look that way when they married, yes?

So the man did not pick a woman out of his league. If the woman got out of that relationship, she'd rather be alone than marry an overweight guy. She is there because she is already in and sees other qualities now. She did not start out that way.

Do married women in the DC area take better care of themselves than married men ? Yes. Did these women marry unattractive men to begin with? No.

[Anonymous]

Women and men are looking for different things in a relationship.

The unattractive woman mad the handsome guy won’t give her the time of day is like the unsuccessful man who seethes that women don’t like him even though he’s nice.

[Anonymous]

I’m a woman. I haven’t dated alot I’m more of a we meet and then we are just together in a relationship kinda girl. But I’ve always been attracted to them.

[Anonymous]

Women are superficial too. Look at all the women with height requirements

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Y’all lying if you say you’ve never dated/banged/stayed married to someone who is not that attractive to you.

Look at everyone over 40 still with their spouse.

Y’all like “but they are attractive to me”, is exactly what Op is talking about.

This. Look at any couple walking around DC over 35 over 40. Often a fairly attractive woman with at-best an average man. Sometimes the opposite. Ppl marry for stability, similar education, money, desire for family, etc., and average dudes often come out on the good end of this.

Usually they did not look that way when they married, yes?

So the man did not pick a woman out of his league. If the woman got out of that relationship, she'd rather be alone than marry an overweight guy. She is there because she is already in and sees other qualities now. She did not start out that way.

Do married women in the DC area take better care of themselves than married men ? Yes. Did these women marry unattractive men to begin with? No.

Yeah. Most of these guys had a full head of hair and were fitter when they met their spouses/partners.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Women are way more generous with what they find attractive and it’s not even close. If you don’t fit within a very standard definition of female beauty, most men under the age 50 will be embarrassed to admit his attraction to you to other men and he certainly won’t publicly date or marry you. I agree with PP, it’s disingenuous to say otherwise.

Yet below average women get married every day.

Maybe that was true 50-100 years ago, but think of all the weddings you’ve seen in the past 10 years in any age group. The woman is almost always more or less standardly good looking and on the thin to average side, or there’s some way where the groom is punching above his weight in terms of looks. And If she’s obese then the guy is too, but there are way more thin/average women who will marry fatter men. So I disagree, you do not see below average women marrying very often and never where there is a disparity in looks.

Are you are comparing women's looks to men's?

That's impossible. Women are more attractive than men generally. Even Tom Brady is not that cute. A beautiful woman will outshine him by far. Now compare Tom Brady to other men and he is a star.

Men don't have features that make them naturally attractive.

And overweight pimpled women do get married every day.

Lie again

Hear me out:

Tom Brady is considered very handsome. Shall we say top 5%? But he will not turn heads anywhere because handsome men are still boring. His is tall and lean. That's it. And he puts in a lot of effort to look that way. Look at pics of him when he was younger : he was less good looking. Look at a young woman in that 5% percentile: she looks fantastic without any effort.

A beautiful woman , say top 5% for women will turn heads: her hair, her skin, her boobs, her lips, her curves. Women are striking. Good looking men are big and boring.

This is nature of human beings. A man would have to go to the gym for an hour a day to look good. A beautiful woman can cut her calories and drink water and just shine.

So if we are comparing apples to apples, the percentiles match.

Tom Brady was always a head turner. Even if he didn’t play football, His height and chiseled facial features make him striking. I know many people who attended Michigan with him and they will agree.