Why do men only date women they’re attracted to?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Y’all lying if you say you’ve never dated/banged/stayed married to someone who is not that attractive to you.

Look at everyone over 40 still with their spouse.

Y’all like “but they are attractive to me”, is exactly what Op is talking about.

No, that’s the opposite of what she’s talking about.

No it’s exactly

Just saying it again doesn’t make you correct. OP is talking about not being attracted to someone. Other people are talking about being attracted to someone. See how those two things are opposites?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Y’all lying if you say you’ve never dated/banged/stayed married to someone who is not that attractive to you.

Look at everyone over 40 still with their spouse.

Y’all like “but they are attractive to me”, is exactly what Op is talking about.

Nope. I like tall, humble/ shy men with bow legs. I have always like bald heads and beards. Always have, always will. I have never found a 6 pack attractive, not even when I looked like a model.

In fact, my eyes are beginning to see gorgeous men everywhere now that I am almost 40 and my peers are getting older and shaving off the balding hair and growing beards

Stop assuming everyone has the same taste in men like you do.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:These are the same type of men who will bemoan about gold-diggers and/or women having no substance or depth to their personalities. We’ve all dated someone who we weren’t attracted to initially, but we grew to appreciate them due to their character and charm.

Like anyone else, attraction is important to me as well, but I’ve always given a man who shows interest in me a moment of my time.

Whereas if a woman is unattractive to a man, he will act as if she doesn’t exist.

Fellas, you’re free to date whomever you want, but you’re digging yourself into a hole of vapid connections and failed situationships with your shallow mentality.

What?? I’m a woman and I’ve never dated someone I wasn’t attracted to initially.

Same. Though I have dated unattractive guys that were attractive to *me*.

Slightly off-topic, but is anyone else turned on by unattractive men who are irrationality confident?

No but I absolutely hate fat, ugly women who are irrationally confident.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Y’all lying if you say you’ve never dated/banged/stayed married to someone who is not that attractive to you.

Look at everyone over 40 still with their spouse.

Y’all like “but they are attractive to me”, is exactly what Op is talking about.

No, that’s the opposite of what she’s talking about.

No it’s exactly

Just saying it again doesn’t make you correct. OP is talking about not being attracted to someone. Other people are talking about being attracted to someone. See how those two things are opposites?

OP is talking about not being attracted to someone but being with them romantically because of character.

That’s exactly what marriage is.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I am a woman and I don't date men I am not attracted to. I don't think that is a gendered thing at all. Many people think physical attraction and chemistry are important to have in someone you are wanting to get to know to see their potential as a romantic partner.

It would be kind of leading someone on to date them for awhile knowing you aren't attracted to them and then break up as you had never found them attractive anyway.

to act as if men aren’t more picky based on physical appearance is disingenuous

No they are not. The top percentile men will get the tip percentile women, all else being equal.

Now when you have money, you will do better. Women are more picky so rich women don't go for the best looking men. They are looking for more intellect, more substance. It's rich women who are picky. They could get gorgeous airhead if they wanted to.

Most couples are equal yoked. Money changes the equation for both men and women, if women were so inclined.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Y’all lying if you say you’ve never dated/banged/stayed married to someone who is not that attractive to you.

Look at everyone over 40 still with their spouse.

Y’all like “but they are attractive to me”, is exactly what Op is talking about.

No, that’s the opposite of what she’s talking about.

No it’s exactly

Just saying it again doesn’t make you correct. OP is talking about not being attracted to someone. Other people are talking about being attracted to someone. See how those two things are opposites?

OP is talking about not being attracted to someone but being with them romantically because of character.

That’s exactly what marriage is.

OP is talking about not being attracted to someone from the beginning, not being less attracted to them after being married for 20 years. Try to keep up.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:These are the same type of men who will bemoan about gold-diggers and/or women having no substance or depth to their personalities. We’ve all dated someone who we weren’t attracted to initially, but we grew to appreciate them due to their character and charm.

Like anyone else, attraction is important to me as well, but I’ve always given a man who shows interest in me a moment of my time.

Whereas if a woman is unattractive to a man, he will act as if she doesn’t exist.

Fellas, you’re free to date whomever you want, but you’re digging yourself into a hole of vapid connections and failed situationships with your shallow mentality.

What?? I’m a woman and I’ve never dated someone I wasn’t attracted to initially.

Same here, with the caveat that there are many forms of attraction. It may not be physical, but intellectual or emotional. But there has to be SOMETHING!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:These are the same type of men who will bemoan about gold-diggers and/or women having no substance or depth to their personalities. We’ve all dated someone who we weren’t attracted to initially, but we grew to appreciate them due to their character and charm.

Like anyone else, attraction is important to me as well, but I’ve always given a man who shows interest in me a moment of my time.

Whereas if a woman is unattractive to a man, he will act as if she doesn’t exist.

Fellas, you’re free to date whomever you want, but you’re digging yourself into a hole of vapid connections and failed situationships with your shallow mentality.

What?? I’m a woman and I’ve never dated someone I wasn’t attracted to initially.

Same. Though I have dated unattractive guys that were attractive to *me*.

Slightly off-topic, but is anyone else turned on by unattractive men who are irrationality confident?

For me, I’ve only dated one guy that I’d initially describe as irrationally self confident. He definitely had reasons for his confidence.

But was he ugly? Confident, ugly men make me lustful in the oddest way…

Yes, he was objectively not attractive/ugly but he was such a good dude that people were just drawn to him. And oddly enough he was the best sex I’ve ever had. He was blessed with the biggest I’ve seen in my life and could give me O’s until I’d beg him to stop. That was so unexpected.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:These are the same type of men who will bemoan about gold-diggers and/or women having no substance or depth to their personalities. We’ve all dated someone who we weren’t attracted to initially, but we grew to appreciate them due to their character and charm.

Like anyone else, attraction is important to me as well, but I’ve always given a man who shows interest in me a moment of my time.

Whereas if a woman is unattractive to a man, he will act as if she doesn’t exist.

Fellas, you’re free to date whomever you want, but you’re digging yourself into a hole of vapid connections and failed situationships with your shallow mentality.

What?? I’m a woman and I’ve never dated someone I wasn’t attracted to initially.

Same. Though I have dated unattractive guys that were attractive to *me*.

Slightly off-topic, but is anyone else turned on by unattractive men who are irrationality confident?

No but I absolutely hate fat, ugly women who are irrationally confident.

Troll

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:These are the same type of men who will bemoan about gold-diggers and/or women having no substance or depth to their personalities. We’ve all dated someone who we weren’t attracted to initially, but we grew to appreciate them due to their character and charm.

Like anyone else, attraction is important to me as well, but I’ve always given a man who shows interest in me a moment of my time.

Whereas if a woman is unattractive to a man, he will act as if she doesn’t exist.

Fellas, you’re free to date whomever you want, but you’re digging yourself into a hole of vapid connections and failed situationships with your shallow mentality.

What?? I’m a woman and I’ve never dated someone I wasn’t attracted to initially.

Same. Though I have dated unattractive guys that were attractive to *me*.

Slightly off-topic, but is anyone else turned on by unattractive men who are irrationality confident?

No but I absolutely hate fat, ugly women who are irrationally confident.

Woman here.
I can't stand over confidence in men. It's such a turn off. Ironically, it usually masks insecurities.

Truly confident men know they have the world at their feet, and they over compensate by toning it way down. That's sexy af!

[Anonymous]

If a guy date a woman he is not attracted to, what happens during intimate times? Won't he struggle to, ahem, rise to the occasion?

I'm a guy and generally would not date someone I wasn't attracted to for this very reason. Maybe in high school/college when my drive was through the roof and a brisk wind and a whiff of perfume would get me worked up. But I can't imagine as a grown man dating someone I'm not physically attracted to for the reasons stated above.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:These are the same type of men who will bemoan about gold-diggers and/or women having no substance or depth to their personalities. We’ve all dated someone who we weren’t attracted to initially, but we grew to appreciate them due to their character and charm.

Like anyone else, attraction is important to me as well, but I’ve always given a man who shows interest in me a moment of my time.

Whereas if a woman is unattractive to a man, he will act as if she doesn’t exist.

Fellas, you’re free to date whomever you want, but you’re digging yourself into a hole of vapid connections and failed situationships with your shallow mentality.

This is the woman’s equivalent of the man who gets butthurt because women “don’t like nice guys.”

[Anonymous]

Another woman here who has not given any man I’m not attracted to a chance. I don’t expect anyone to grow into attraction for me and I’d never force it on myself.

[Anonymous]

Biology. Men are vilified for underlying need to improve the breed. Liking a large derrière = healthier babies.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Y’all lying if you say you’ve never dated/banged/stayed married to someone who is not that attractive to you.

Look at everyone over 40 still with their spouse.

Y’all like “but they are attractive to me”, is exactly what Op is talking about.

"Attractive to me" means attractive to me, even if unattractive to others. Our feelings aren't universally similar.