Why do men only date women they’re attracted to?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Y’all lying if you say you’ve never dated/banged/stayed married to someone who is not that attractive to you.

Look at everyone over 40 still with their spouse.

Y’all like “but they are attractive to me”, is exactly what Op is talking about.

do you know how many married couples rarely have sex? It’s because the attraction has faded.

AND they don't try to keep it alive.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Y’all lying if you say you’ve never dated/banged/stayed married to someone who is not that attractive to you.

Look at everyone over 40 still with their spouse.

Y’all like “but they are attractive to me”, is exactly what Op is talking about.

No, that’s the opposite of what she’s talking about.

This^.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This has to be one of the dumbest posts I've read in awhile

Yeah. Currently unattractive woman, not expecting any guy to date me. I wish they'd treat at me like a fellow human, with the dignity of any random dude, which men forget to do unless it occurs to them that this unf***ble woman might have something they want. That requirement doesn't exist for treating the average male stranger with dignity.

Idk if its true. There are all sort of men. By same account women show more interest in men they find attractive or useful.

[Anonymous]

I think attraction isn't a fixed feeling. You don't feel attracted to same things as you did in your 20's or 30's. I feel as attracted to my DH as a balding/greying man as I did in youth, probably more.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:These are the same type of men who will bemoan about gold-diggers and/or women having no substance or depth to their personalities. We’ve all dated someone who we weren’t attracted to initially, but we grew to appreciate them due to their character and charm.

Like anyone else, attraction is important to me as well, but I’ve always given a man who shows interest in me a moment of my time[b].

Whereas if a woman is unattractive to a man, he will act as if she doesn’t exist.

Fellas, you’re free to date whomever you want, but you’re digging yourself into a hole of vapid connections and failed situationships with your shallow mentality.

You don't owe men anything simply because they like you. It is okay to say no thanks, especially when you already know you're not into them. Men have this same right.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:These are the same type of men who will bemoan about gold-diggers and/or women having no substance or depth to their personalities. We’ve all dated someone who we weren’t attracted to initially, but we grew to appreciate them due to their character and charm.

Like anyone else, attraction is important to me as well, but I’ve always given a man who shows interest in me a moment of my time.

Whereas if a woman is unattractive to a man, he will act as if she doesn’t exist.

Fellas, you’re free to date whomever you want, but you’re digging yourself into a hole of vapid connections and failed situationships with your shallow mentality.

What?? I’m a woman and I’ve never dated someone I wasn’t attracted to initially.

+1. Speak for yourself OP.

+1 million. If I don't like, I don't have to date you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:These are the same type of men who will bemoan about gold-diggers and/or women having no substance or depth to their personalities. We’ve all dated someone who we weren’t attracted to initially, but we grew to appreciate them due to their character and charm.

Like anyone else, attraction is important to me as well, but I’ve always given a man who shows interest in me a moment of my time.

Whereas if a woman is unattractive to a man, he will act as if she doesn’t exist.

Fellas, you’re free to date whomever you want, but you’re digging yourself into a hole of vapid connections and failed situationships with your shallow mentality.

The way women filter dating candidates based on height is more aggressive than anything men in general do, with the exception of obesity.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This has to be one of the dumbest posts I've read in awhile

Yeah. Currently unattractive woman, not expecting any guy to date me. I wish they'd treat at me like a fellow human, with the dignity of any random dude, which men forget to do unless it occurs to them that this unf***ble woman might have something they want. That requirement doesn't exist for treating the average male stranger with dignity.

Man here: this doesn’t make much sense to me, and I don’t think you have a good handle on how men interact with one another. What is this “dignity” you aren’t being afforded? Men ignore each other all the time and often don’t engage with others unless there is a matter of common interest in doing so (I.e., if “they have something you want”). I can’t tell you how many times I’ve seen men accused of “misogyny” for making the mistake of treating a woman precisely in the same manner they would treat another man.

[Anonymous]

Paul Rudd is going to have to LEARN TO LOVE ME.

[Anonymous]

I am a woman and I have never dated anyone I wasn’t attracted to. The notion that women do this on a large scale has to be a myth - no woman I know dates/dated men she wasn’t very attracted to.

[Anonymous]

Women are way more generous with what they find attractive and it’s not even close. If you don’t fit within a very standard definition of female beauty, most men under the age 50 will be embarrassed to admit his attraction to you to other men and he certainly won’t publicly date or marry you. I agree with PP, it’s disingenuous to say otherwise.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Women are way more generous with what they find attractive and it’s not even close. If you don’t fit within a very standard definition of female beauty, most men under the age 50 will be embarrassed to admit his attraction to you to other men and he certainly won’t publicly date or marry you. I agree with PP, it’s disingenuous to say otherwise.

Yet below average women get married every day.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:These are the same type of men who will bemoan about gold-diggers and/or women having no substance or depth to their personalities. We’ve all dated someone who we weren’t attracted to initially, but we grew to appreciate them due to their character and charm.

Like anyone else, attraction is important to me as well, but I’ve always given a man who shows interest in me a moment of my time.

Whereas if a woman is unattractive to a man, he will act as if she doesn’t exist.

Fellas, you’re free to date whomever you want, but you’re digging yourself into a hole of vapid connections and failed situationships with your shallow mentality.

What?? I’m a woman and I’ve never dated someone I wasn’t attracted to initially.

+1. Right? Initial attraction was always a prerequisite for dating someone for me. Doesn’t necessarily mean the guy was always stereotypically attractive but I was attracted to him from the jump

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Women are way more generous with what they find attractive and it’s not even close. If you don’t fit within a very standard definition of female beauty, most men under the age 50 will be embarrassed to admit his attraction to you to other men and he certainly won’t publicly date or marry you. I agree with PP, it’s disingenuous to say otherwise.

Yet below average women get married every day.

Maybe that was true 50-100 years ago, but think of all the weddings you’ve seen in the past 10 years in any age group. The woman is almost always more or less standardly good looking and on the thin to average side, or there’s some way where the groom is punching above his weight in terms of looks. And If she’s obese then the guy is too, but there are way more thin/average women who will marry fatter men. So I disagree, you do not see below average women marrying very often and never where there is a disparity in looks.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Women are way more generous with what they find attractive and it’s not even close. If you don’t fit within a very standard definition of female beauty, most men under the age 50 will be embarrassed to admit his attraction to you to other men and he certainly won’t publicly date or marry you. I agree with PP, it’s disingenuous to say otherwise.

Yet below average women get married every day.

Maybe that was true 50-100 years ago, but think of all the weddings you’ve seen in the past 10 years in any age group. The woman is almost always more or less standardly good looking and on the thin to average side, or there’s some way where the groom is punching above his weight in terms of looks. And If she’s obese then the guy is too, but there are way more thin/average women who will marry fatter men. So I disagree, you do not see below average women marrying very often and never where there is a disparity in looks.

Are you are comparing women's looks to men's?

That's impossible. Women are more attractive than men generally. Even Tom Brady is not that cute. A beautiful woman will outshine him by far. Now compare Tom Brady to other men and he is a star.

Men don't have features that make them naturally attractive.

And overweight pimpled women do get married every day.