Why do men only date women they’re attracted to?

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Anonymous wrote:These are the same type of men who will bemoan about gold-diggers and/or women having no substance or depth to their personalities. We’ve all dated someone who we weren’t attracted to initially, but we grew to appreciate them due to their character and charm.

Like anyone else, attraction is important to me as well, but I’ve always given a man who shows interest in me a moment of my time.

Whereas if a woman is unattractive to a man, he will act as if she doesn’t exist.

Fellas, you’re free to date whomever you want, but you’re digging yourself into a hole of vapid connections and failed situationships with your shallow mentality.

What?? I’m a woman and I’ve never dated someone I wasn’t attracted to initially.

Same. Though I have dated unattractive guys that were attractive to *me*.

Slightly off-topic, but is anyone else turned on by unattractive men who are irrationality confident?

Them being confident despite being unattractive automatically makes their confidence irrational in my book (that sounds really harsh now that I’m typing it out lol)

Confident, yes, irrationally, no.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:These are the same type of men who will bemoan about gold-diggers and/or women having no substance or depth to their personalities. We’ve all dated someone who we weren’t attracted to initially, but we grew to appreciate them due to their character and charm.

Like anyone else, attraction is important to me as well, but I’ve always given a man who shows interest in me a moment of my time.

Whereas if a woman is unattractive to a man, he will act as if she doesn’t exist.

Fellas, you’re free to date whomever you want, but you’re digging yourself into a hole of vapid connections and failed situationships with your shallow mentality.

What?? I’m a woman and I’ve never dated someone I wasn’t attracted to initially.

Same. Though I have dated unattractive guys that were attractive to *me*.

Slightly off-topic, but is anyone else turned on by unattractive men who are irrationality confident?

Confident, yes, irrationally, no.

Them being confident despite being unattractive automatically makes their confidence irrational in my book (that sounds really harsh now that I’m typing it out lol)

[Anonymous]

Y’all lying if you say you’ve never dated/banged/stayed married to someone who is not that attractive to you.

Look at everyone over 40 still with their spouse.

Y’all like “but they are attractive to me”, is exactly what Op is talking about.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:These are the same type of men who will bemoan about gold-diggers and/or women having no substance or depth to their personalities. We’ve all dated someone who we weren’t attracted to initially, but we grew to appreciate them due to their character and charm.

Like anyone else, attraction is important to me as well, but I’ve always given a man who shows interest in me a moment of my time.

Whereas if a woman is unattractive to a man, he will act as if she doesn’t exist.

Fellas, you’re free to date whomever you want, but you’re digging yourself into a hole of vapid connections and failed situationships with your shallow mentality.

What?? I’m a woman and I’ve never dated someone I wasn’t attracted to initially.

+1. Speak for yourself OP.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Y’all lying if you say you’ve never dated/banged/stayed married to someone who is not that attractive to you.

Look at everyone over 40 still with their spouse.

Y’all like “but they are attractive to me”, is exactly what Op is talking about.

do you know how many married couples rarely have sex? It’s because the attraction has faded.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Y’all lying if you say you’ve never dated/banged/stayed married to someone who is not that attractive to you.

Look at everyone over 40 still with their spouse.

Y’all like “but they are attractive to me”, is exactly what Op is talking about.

No, that’s the opposite of what she’s talking about.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:These are the same type of men who will bemoan about gold-diggers and/or women having no substance or depth to their personalities. We’ve all dated someone who we weren’t attracted to initially, but we grew to appreciate them due to their character and charm.

Like anyone else, attraction is important to me as well, but I’ve always given a man who shows interest in me a moment of my time.

Whereas if a woman is unattractive to a man, he will act as if she doesn’t exist.

Fellas, you’re free to date whomever you want, but you’re digging yourself into a hole of vapid connections and failed situationships with your shallow mentality.

No, we haven't. I have never done this. Physical attraction is important. Why would ANYONE date someone they aren't attracted to? If you aren't attracted to a man, you should say "Thanks, I am flattered." and then let him down gently. Don't date people you aren't attracted to.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This has to be one of the dumbest posts I've read in awhile

Yeah. Currently unattractive woman, not expecting any guy to date me. I wish they'd treat at me like a fellow human, with the dignity of any random dude, which men forget to do unless it occurs to them that this unf***ble woman might have something they want. That requirement doesn't exist for treating the average male stranger with dignity.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Y’all lying if you say you’ve never dated/banged/stayed married to someone who is not that attractive to you.

Look at everyone over 40 still with their spouse.

Y’all like “but they are attractive to me”, is exactly what Op is talking about.

Not true. DH isn't as hot as he once was, but he still has some attraction for me.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Y’all lying if you say you’ve never dated/banged/stayed married to someone who is not that attractive to you.

Look at everyone over 40 still with their spouse.

Y’all like “but they are attractive to me”, is exactly what Op is talking about.

do you know how many married couples rarely have sex? It’s because the attraction has faded.

Do you know how many still do.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Y’all lying if you say you’ve never dated/banged/stayed married to someone who is not that attractive to you.

Look at everyone over 40 still with their spouse.

Y’all like “but they are attractive to me”, is exactly what Op is talking about.

No, that’s the opposite of what she’s talking about.

No it’s exactly

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:These are the same type of men who will bemoan about gold-diggers and/or women having no substance or depth to their personalities. We’ve all dated someone who we weren’t attracted to initially, but we grew to appreciate them due to their character and charm.

Like anyone else, attraction is important to me as well, but I’ve always given a man who shows interest in me a moment of my time.

Whereas if a woman is unattractive to a man, he will act as if she doesn’t exist.

Fellas, you’re free to date whomever you want, but you’re digging yourself into a hole of vapid connections and failed situationships with your shallow mentality.

What?? I’m a woman and I’ve never dated someone I wasn’t attracted to initially.

Same. Though I have dated unattractive guys that were attractive to *me*.

Slightly off-topic, but is anyone else turned on by unattractive men who are irrationality confident?

For me, I’ve only dated one guy that I’d initially describe as irrationally self confident. He definitely had reasons for his confidence.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Y’all lying if you say you’ve never dated/banged/stayed married to someone who is not that attractive to you.

Look at everyone over 40 still with their spouse.

Y’all like “but they are attractive to me”, is exactly what Op is talking about.

Not true. DH isn't as hot as he once was, but he still has some attraction for me.

Exactly what OP is talking about.

He’s not attracted to you but due to character, etc… your “attractive “.

[Anonymous]

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[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:These are the same type of men who will bemoan about gold-diggers and/or women having no substance or depth to their personalities. We’ve all dated someone who we weren’t attracted to initially, but we grew to appreciate them due to their character and charm.

Like anyone else, attraction is important to me as well, but I’ve always given a man who shows interest in me a moment of my time.

Whereas if a woman is unattractive to a man, he will act as if she doesn’t exist.

Fellas, you’re free to date whomever you want, but you’re digging yourself into a hole of vapid connections and failed situationships with your shallow mentality.

What?? I’m a woman and I’ve never dated someone I wasn’t attracted to initially.

Same. Though I have dated unattractive guys that were attractive to *me*.

Slightly off-topic, but is anyone else turned on by unattractive men who are irrationality confident?

For me, I’ve only dated one guy that I’d initially describe as irrationally self confident. He definitely had reasons for his confidence.

But was he ugly? Confident, ugly men make me lustful in the oddest way…