Why do men only date women they’re attracted to?

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Anonymous wrote:All you women saying you would never go out with someone you weren’t attracted to are full of it. If some 5’7” 200-pound schlub asked you out – and you knew he had $50 million – you would be batting your eyelashes and twirling your hair like you were in middle school again.

5 foot 8 woman here.

A 5 foot 7 man would have to be perfect: Handsome, kind. Sweet, lean, neat etc.

A 6'3 man could be missing an arm and a leg, and have one eye. and I would pick him first.

Quite happy to be a 6’3” man with both arms and legs and two good eyes. The dating pool is terrific. Seriously.

And I'm the 5'7" guy. It's rough out there for me. I guess I need to get rich.

NP. I’m 5’7” and husband is 5’8”, and I don’t want a guy who’s 6’3”. Never have been attracted to taller guys. Agree with another PP upthread who said she likes to look a guy in the eyes…I’m the same way. So, women like us do exist

[Anonymous]

Funny how men found a way to turn this thread into a condemnation of women being picky over height.

They are the most sensitive and emotional gender, not women.

[Anonymous]

Why would anyone date ANYONE they are not attracted to? This does not compute.

Regardless of appearance/height/attractive attributes/common values/whatever- if 'attraction' itself-for whatever reason- is not there, wth would anyone date someone? I'm not superficial but that makes no sense.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why would anyone date ANYONE they are not attracted to? This does not compute.

Regardless of appearance/height/attractive attributes/common values/whatever- if 'attraction' itself-for whatever reason- is not there, wth would anyone date someone? I'm not superficial but that makes no sense.

Precisely. Same goes for purchasing items. Why would someone buy something they don’t like?

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Anonymous wrote:These are the same type of men who will bemoan about gold-diggers and/or women having no substance or depth to their personalities. We’ve all dated someone who we weren’t attracted to initially, but we grew to appreciate them due to their character and charm.

Like anyone else, attraction is important to me as well, but I’ve always given a man who shows interest in me a moment of my time.

Whereas if a woman is unattractive to a man, he will act as if she doesn’t exist.

Fellas, you’re free to date whomever you want, but you’re digging yourself into a hole of vapid connections and failed situationships with your shallow mentality.

What?? I’m a woman and I’ve never dated someone I wasn’t attracted to initially.

Same. Though I have dated unattractive guys that were attractive to *me*.

Slightly off-topic, but is anyone else turned on by unattractive men who are irrationality confident?

nope. delusional is never an attractive quality.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:These are the same type of men who will bemoan about gold-diggers and/or women having no substance or depth to their personalities. We’ve all dated someone who we weren’t attracted to initially, but we grew to appreciate them due to their character and charm.

Like anyone else, attraction is important to me as well, but I’ve always given a man who shows interest in me a moment of my time.

Whereas if a woman is unattractive to a man, he will act as if she doesn’t exist.

Fellas, you’re free to date whomever you want, but you’re digging yourself into a hole of vapid connections and failed situationships with your shallow mentality.

The reason is that the onus is on us to make the first move so we get the prerogative of not asking out women we're not attracted to. Simple as that.

Start asking out more men, ladies, then you'll have something to talk about.

[Anonymous]

When i met my wife she was over 200 lbs and for awhile she wouldn't go out with me because she thought because of "the way I looked" I wouldn't date someone like her. I honestly will say that most men are not as shallow as women make them to be. We value personality and other attributes.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:These are the same type of men who will bemoan about gold-diggers and/or women having no substance or depth to their personalities. We’ve all dated someone who we weren’t attracted to initially, but we grew to appreciate them due to their character and charm.

Like anyone else, attraction is important to me as well, but I’ve always given a man who shows interest in me a moment of my time.

Whereas if a woman is unattractive to a man, he will act as if she doesn’t exist.

Fellas, you’re free to date whomever you want, but you’re digging yourself into a hole of vapid connections and failed situationships with your shallow mentality.

every date is step moving forward to sex. that is the goal

and if you dont to have sex with the perosn, no reason to date,

simple facts of life

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:These are the same type of men who will bemoan about gold-diggers and/or women having no substance or depth to their personalities. We’ve all dated someone who we weren’t attracted to initially, but we grew to appreciate them due to their character and charm.

Like anyone else, attraction is important to me as well, but I’ve always given a man who shows interest in me a moment of my time.

Whereas if a woman is unattractive to a man, he will act as if she doesn’t exist.

Fellas, you’re free to date whomever you want, but you’re digging yourself into a hole of vapid connections and failed situationships with your shallow mentality.

What? I am a woman and I don't date men I am not attracted to.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:These are the same type of men who will bemoan about gold-diggers and/or women having no substance or depth to their personalities. We’ve all dated someone who we weren’t attracted to initially, but we grew to appreciate them due to their character and charm.

Like anyone else, attraction is important to me as well, but I’ve always given a man who shows interest in me a moment of my time.

Whereas if a woman is unattractive to a man, he will act as if she doesn’t exist.

Fellas, you’re free to date whomever you want, but you’re digging yourself into a hole of vapid connections and failed situationships with your shallow mentality.

What?? I’m a woman and I’ve never dated someone I wasn’t attracted to initially.

Same. Though I have dated unattractive guys that were attractive to *me*.

Every once in a while someone is so ugly they are cute. LOL

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Women are way more generous with what they find attractive and it’s not even close. If you don’t fit within a very standard definition of female beauty, most men under the age 50 will be embarrassed to admit his attraction to you to other men and he certainly won’t publicly date or marry you. I agree with PP, it’s disingenuous to say otherwise.

Yet below average women get married every day.

Maybe that was true 50-100 years ago, but think of all the weddings you’ve seen in the past 10 years in any age group. The woman is almost always more or less standardly good looking and on the thin to average side, or there’s some way where the groom is punching above his weight in terms of looks. And If she’s obese then the guy is too, but there are way more thin/average women who will marry fatter men. So I disagree, you do not see below average women marrying very often and never where there is a disparity in looks.

Wait, am I reading this correctly??? No woman of above average weight has gotten married in the last 10 years!?

[Anonymous]

I consider myself kind of ugly. I think my looks are polarizing or unconventional, since some boys were interested in me at school while others acted like I was some kind of hideous monster lol

But my first year of college I got hit on constantly and asked out all the time. It happened more now I’m an adult. I used to blame my looks all the time, but some of it really is attitude once you get older.

I’ve had guys I consider out of my leauge show interest in me when I just smile and am overly nice. And my face is not attractive. I’m just thin. I’m kind of below average looking and not very intelligent. People remember how you make them feel. If you compliment them or cater to their ego they will love you. I believe in the whole reciprocal liking theory now

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:When i met my wife she was over 200 lbs and for awhile she wouldn't go out with me because she thought because of "the way I looked" I wouldn't date someone like her. I honestly will say that most men are not as shallow as women make them to be. We value personality and other attributes.

Was she rich?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:When i met my wife she was over 200 lbs and for awhile she wouldn't go out with me because she thought because of "the way I looked" I wouldn't date someone like her. I honestly will say that most men are not as shallow as women make them to be. We value personality and other attributes.

Was she rich?

+1

People overlook this so often.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Height does not matter one iota for women. As long as you are over 5’1”, you have every option. -5ft9in woman.

This is not exactly true. I have met several men who have told people that they are looking for tall women to have children with.

Weird. I feel like women between 5’1 and 5’5 have it the best.