Why do men only date women they’re attracted to?

[Anonymous]

These are the same type of men who will bemoan about gold-diggers and/or women having no substance or depth to their personalities. We’ve all dated someone who we weren’t attracted to initially, but we grew to appreciate them due to their character and charm.

Like anyone else, attraction is important to me as well, but I’ve always given a man who shows interest in me a moment of my time.

Whereas if a woman is unattractive to a man, he will act as if she doesn’t exist.

Fellas, you’re free to date whomever you want, but you’re digging yourself into a hole of vapid connections and failed situationships with your shallow mentality.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:These are the same type of men who will bemoan about gold-diggers and/or women having no substance or depth to their personalities. We’ve all dated someone who we weren’t attracted to initially, but we grew to appreciate them due to their character and charm.

Like anyone else, attraction is important to me as well, but I’ve always given a man who shows interest in me a moment of my time.

Whereas if a woman is unattractive to a man, he will act as if she doesn’t exist.

Fellas, you’re free to date whomever you want, but you’re digging yourself into a hole of vapid connections and failed situationships with your shallow mentality.

What?? I’m a woman and I’ve never dated someone I wasn’t attracted to initially.

[Anonymous]

I am a woman and I don't date men I am not attracted to. I don't think that is a gendered thing at all. Many people think physical attraction and chemistry are important to have in someone you are wanting to get to know to see their potential as a romantic partner.

It would be kind of leading someone on to date them for awhile knowing you aren't attracted to them and then break up as you had never found them attractive anyway.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:These are the same type of men who will bemoan about gold-diggers and/or women having no substance or depth to their personalities. We’ve all dated someone who we weren’t attracted to initially, but we grew to appreciate them due to their character and charm.

Like anyone else, attraction is important to me as well, but I’ve always given a man who shows interest in me a moment of my time.

Whereas if a woman is unattractive to a man, he will act as if she doesn’t exist.

Fellas, you’re free to date whomever you want, but you’re digging yourself into a hole of vapid connections and failed situationships with your shallow mentality.

What?? I’m a woman and I’ve never dated someone I wasn’t attracted to initially.

+1. I’m not wasting time on someone I may or may not “grow to love.”

[Anonymous]

OP— quite trying to find excuses and go make yourself attractive.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:These are the same type of men who will bemoan about gold-diggers and/or women having no substance or depth to their personalities. We’ve all dated someone who we weren’t attracted to initially, but we grew to appreciate them due to their character and charm.

Like anyone else, attraction is important to me as well, but I’ve always given a man who shows interest in me a moment of my time.

Whereas if a woman is unattractive to a man, he will act as if she doesn’t exist.

Fellas, you’re free to date whomever you want, but you’re digging yourself into a hole of vapid connections and failed situationships with your shallow mentality.

What?? I’m a woman and I’ve never dated someone I wasn’t attracted to initially.

Agreed. I probably missed out on a couple of very high earner types I didn't see after the first date for my hotter husband with a passion career :p

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am a woman and I don't date men I am not attracted to. I don't think that is a gendered thing at all. Many people think physical attraction and chemistry are important to have in someone you are wanting to get to know to see their potential as a romantic partner.

It would be kind of leading someone on to date them for awhile knowing you aren't attracted to them and then break up as you had never found them attractive anyway.

to act as if men aren’t more picky based on physical appearance is disingenuous

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:These are the same type of men who will bemoan about gold-diggers and/or women having no substance or depth to their personalities. We’ve all dated someone who we weren’t attracted to initially, but we grew to appreciate them due to their character and charm.

Like anyone else, attraction is important to me as well, but I’ve always given a man who shows interest in me a moment of my time.

Whereas if a woman is unattractive to a man, he will act as if she doesn’t exist.

Fellas, you’re free to date whomever you want, but you’re digging yourself into a hole of vapid connections and failed situationships with your shallow mentality.

What?? I’m a woman and I’ve never dated someone I wasn’t attracted to initially.

Same. Though I have dated unattractive guys that were attractive to *me*.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:These are the same type of men who will bemoan about gold-diggers and/or women having no substance or depth to their personalities. We’ve all dated someone who we weren’t attracted to initially, but we grew to appreciate them due to their character and charm.

Like anyone else, attraction is important to me as well, but I’ve always given a man who shows interest in me a moment of my time.

Whereas if a woman is unattractive to a man, he will act as if she doesn’t exist.

Fellas, you’re free to date whomever you want, but you’re digging yourself into a hole of vapid connections and failed situationships with your shallow mentality.

What?? I’m a woman and I’ve never dated someone I wasn’t attracted to initially.

Same. Though I have dated unattractive guys that were attractive to *me*.

Slightly off-topic, but is anyone else turned on by unattractive men who are irrationality confident?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:These are the same type of men who will bemoan about gold-diggers and/or women having no substance or depth to their personalities. We’ve all dated someone who we weren’t attracted to initially, but we grew to appreciate them due to their character and charm.

Like anyone else, attraction is important to me as well, but I’ve always given a man who shows interest in me a moment of my time.

Whereas if a woman is unattractive to a man, he will act as if she doesn’t exist.

Fellas, you’re free to date whomever you want, but you’re digging yourself into a hole of vapid connections and failed situationships with your shallow mentality.

What?? I’m a woman and I’ve never dated someone I wasn’t attracted to initially.

+1

[Anonymous]

I'm a woman and have never dated someone I'm not attracted to. What would be the point? Attraction is a necessary part of a relationship

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am a woman and I don't date men I am not attracted to. I don't think that is a gendered thing at all. Many people think physical attraction and chemistry are important to have in someone you are wanting to get to know to see their potential as a romantic partner.

It would be kind of leading someone on to date them for awhile knowing you aren't attracted to them and then break up as you had never found them attractive anyway.

to act as if men aren’t more picky based on physical appearance is disingenuous

NP. I’m as picky as my pheromones tell me to be. My DH is bald, hairy and could lose 15lbs but I find him very attractive.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:These are the same type of men who will bemoan about gold-diggers and/or women having no substance or depth to their personalities. We’ve all dated someone who we weren’t attracted to initially, but we grew to appreciate them due to their character and charm.

Like anyone else, attraction is important to me as well, but I’ve always given a man who shows interest in me a moment of my time.

Whereas if a woman is unattractive to a man, he will act as if she doesn’t exist.

Fellas, you’re free to date whomever you want, but you’re digging yourself into a hole of vapid connections and failed situationships with your shallow mentality.

What?? I’m a woman and I’ve never dated someone I wasn’t attracted to initially.

Same. Though I have dated unattractive guys that were attractive to *me*.

Slightly off-topic, but is anyone else turned on by unattractive men who are irrationality confident?

Confident, yes, irrationally, no.

[Anonymous]

This has to be one of the dumbest posts I've read in awhile

[Anonymous]

I've never dated someone I'm not initially attracted to. I'm fairly average looking so it isn't like I have my pick of any guy either.