SIL won't allow nephew to propose to his GF

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Anonymous wrote:He's 23! He could elope if he wanted to. Sounds like his mom is right about him.

His mom took separation very hard and he doesn't want her to feel to abandoned by him too.

Are you just trying to force a way, OP?
Stop with all the reasoning and explanations.

Just sharing arguments my husband made when we discussed it. He doesn't want tosee a rift between his sis and nephew.

Tell you husband to shove his “arguments” up his ass. It is not his concern and he needs to respect boundaries.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:No marriage or babies before 30.

Ridiculous.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:He's 23! He could elope if he wanted to. Sounds like his mom is right about him.

His mom took separation very hard and he doesn't want her to feel to abandoned by him too.

Are you just trying to force a way, OP?
Stop with all the reasoning and explanations.

Just sharing arguments my husband made when we discussed it. He doesn't want tosee a rift between his sis and nephew.

All of these people sound way too enmeshed. I cannot even believe your nephew called to seek your help and that your husband thinks this is a good idea.

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Anonymous wrote:No marriage or babies before 30.

Ridiculous.

Okay, Duggar.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:No marriage or babies before 30.

They are both ambitious and have no plans to marry or procreate for 5 years. If it weren't for moving to another state and then may be again for new job, they would've waited until he did his MBA and she did her MS.

Then why the rush to get engaged?

Exactly! I think the mom is being practical and the girlfriend is being manipulative. Ultimatums at 23? That poor boy needs to run!

There is no ultimatum but she is reluctant to move. Who can blame her?

Smart girl. I refused to move for my boyfriend at age 24, so he proposed. It’s been nearly 20 years and we are still happily married. No way I was leaving my job and city without a ring.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:No marriage or babies before 30.

Ridiculous.

Okay, Duggar.

Sure, everyone who married or had a kid in their twenties has twenty.

[Anonymous]

So basically, the issue is that the MBA money from mom has strings attached.

I would stay out of it.

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Anonymous wrote:What's the point of getting engaged if they are not going to get married anytime soon anyways? I think it's stilly to insist on engagement. It really doesn't mean anything. They can live together for a couple of years and see if that's what they want for the rest of their lives, ring or no ring.

BF wants to string GF along to move with him.

But a ring doesn't mean it's forever and who knows, the GF may find out they are not a good match after moving with him. Then she would have strung him along too. 23 is young and they can afford to take the time they need to let the relationship grow and see if that's what they want to sign up for.

[Anonymous]

There’s a difference between not “allowing” your son to marry (or having a son who thinks his mom’s permission is needed) and saying that a person old enough to marry doesn’t need his parents’ financial support for education. The latter is perfectly valid and understandable. Stand on your own two feet, son.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:No marriage or babies before 30.

Ridiculous.

Okay, Duggar.

Sure, everyone who married or had a kid in their twenties has twenty.

NP-You said it, the pp did not. Did you not consider that there are other reasons not to have children in 20’s other than you desiring to have “twenty” children?

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Anonymous wrote:His mother won't let him propose? His GF should take the opportunity to end the relationship before she's saddled with a crazy MIL and a husband who won't stand up for himself.

This. Geez. He doesn't need mommy's permission, but the fact that he thinks he does means he is most definitely not ready for a marriage where he puts his wife and family first over mommy. Yikes. Agree she should RUN!

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Anonymous wrote:No marriage or babies before 30.

Ridiculous.

Okay, Duggar.

Sure, everyone who married or had a kid in their twenties has twenty.

Having twenty or not is irrelevant. It’s simply too young, but you are too obtuse to comprehend that.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I hope the girlfriend dodges this bullet.

He has a chance to prove himself depending on how he handles this situation.

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Anonymous wrote:No marriage or babies before 30.

Ridiculous.

Okay, Duggar.

Sure, everyone who married or had a kid in their twenties has twenty.

Having twenty or not is irrelevant. It’s simply too young, but you are too obtuse to comprehend that.

I’m very happy with the choices I made, including marrying and starting our family in my 20s.

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Anonymous wrote:Way too young to get married.

Counterpoint - I love being a married MBA. Wife worked. Still going strong 25 years later.

OTOH, 23 is too young for MBA. Needs 3-4 years work experience.

This is dumb advice. I know a lot of kids under 35 in management roles who got their mba right after undergrad. Often it’s overachiever kids who can finish their bachelor’s in 3 or 3.5 years due to AP credits.