SIL won't allow nephew to propose to his GF

[Anonymous]

I hope the girlfriend dodges this bullet.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:No marriage or babies before 30.

Yes, I agree. That way you can have kids when you’re old and tired and no fun and be too old to enjoy grandkids and have a nice life.

Having children in one’s 30’s is not old. You are stupid no matter what age you age.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:No marriage or babies before 30.

They are both ambitious and have no plans to marry or procreate for 5 years. If it weren't for moving to another state and then may be again for new job, they would've waited until he did his MBA and she did her MS.

Then why the rush to get engaged?

Exactly! I think the mom is being practical and the girlfriend is being manipulative. Ultimatums at 23? That poor boy needs to run!

There is no ultimatum but she is reluctant to move. Who can blame her?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If you still need your mom to "allow" you to propose you aren't mature enough to get married.

Agreed. This kid has no business getting married.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:First of all, stay out of it. The reality is the kid is in school. Who is paying for the graduate degree and all living expenses? If parents are helping financially, they can call the shots. I wouldn’t recommend anyone get married while mom and dad are helping with expenses. MBAs only take 2 years, why is he in such a hurry?

He saved money for one year and GF is a high earner (6 figure) so they don't need help with living expenses but of course mom doesn't want him to going into debt for MBA.

If he is so ready to get married, he can pay for school himself. This is all totally ridiculous. Everyone involved sounds immature — particularly the uncle that thinks he should mediate.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:No marriage or babies before 30.

They are both ambitious and have no plans to marry or procreate for 5 years. If it weren't for moving to another state and then may be again for new job, they would've waited until he did his MBA and she did her MS.

Then why the rush to get engaged?

Out of state move and likely another move in two years.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:No marriage or babies before 30.

Yes, I agree. That way you can have kids when you’re old and tired and no fun and be too old to enjoy grandkids and have a nice life.

How’s brunch today, Granny?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Does 23 year old want to propose because he has met the love of his life and wants to get married.... or does 23 year old want his GF to move closer and she won't without a ring?

He loves her and doesn't want to live apart for two years or lose her.

If living apart 2 years will cause her to leave him maybe she is not the one.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:No marriage or babies before 30.

They are both ambitious and have no plans to marry or procreate for 5 years. If it weren't for moving to another state and then may be again for new job, they would've waited until he did his MBA and she did her MS.

Then why the rush to get engaged?

Exactly! I think the mom is being practical and the girlfriend is being manipulative. Ultimatums at 23? That poor boy needs to run!

There is no ultimatum but she is reluctant to move. Who can blame her?

Either she trusts him or she doesn't a ring does not change that.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:No marriage or babies before 30.

They are both ambitious and have no plans to marry or procreate for 5 years. If it weren't for moving to another state and then may be again for new job, they would've waited until he did his MBA and she did her MS.

Then why the rush to get engaged?

Out of state move and likely another move in two years.

Are both partners on board with this? An engagement is legally worthless.

Also, a cold truth: any MBA that accepts 23 year olds with 1 year of work experience at most isn’t worth attending. If it’s for CPA credits, those can be achieved in a different way, and you shouldn’t waste your one chance to an MBA on that when you might want to do one in 5 years.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:No marriage or babies before 30.

They are both ambitious and have no plans to marry or procreate for 5 years. If it weren't for moving to another state and then may be again for new job, they would've waited until he did his MBA and she did her MS.

Then why the rush to get engaged?

Out of state move and likely another move in two years.

Are both partners on board with this? An engagement is legally worthless.

Also, a cold truth: any MBA that accepts 23 year olds with 1 year of work experience at most isn’t worth attending. If it’s for CPA credits, those can be achieved in a different way, and you shouldn’t waste your one chance to an MBA on that when you might want to do one in 5 years.

I know 23 year old who went to great schools for MBAs that young. It's common for SLAC grads

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:No marriage or babies before 30.

They are both ambitious and have no plans to marry or procreate for 5 years. If it weren't for moving to another state and then may be again for new job, they would've waited until he did his MBA and she did her MS.

Then why the rush to get engaged?

Out of state move and likely another move in two years.

Are both partners on board with this? An engagement is legally worthless.

Also, a cold truth: any MBA that accepts 23 year olds with 1 year of work experience at most isn’t worth attending. If it’s for CPA credits, those can be achieved in a different way, and you shouldn’t waste your one chance to an MBA on that when you might want to do one in 5 years.

No one asked for your “cold truth.”

[Anonymous]

He's 23! He could elope if he wanted to. Sounds like his mom is right about him.

[Anonymous]

Its a top 10 MBA, boy is a high achiever, so is his GF.

[Anonymous]

Op’s husband needs to mind his own business.