SIL won't allow nephew to propose to his GF

[Anonymous]

Encourage him to stay single and not get married. A slow painful death.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don't understand how an adult man can be "not allowed" to do this.

Controlling parents.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Encourage him to stay single and not get married. A slow painful death.

I’ve been “dead” for decades I suppose! Not.

[Anonymous]

I think GF should take it as a red flag, meddling wouldn't end.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don't understand how an adult man can be "not allowed" to do this.

Controlling parents.

No, smart parents who know he is not ready.

[Anonymous]

No marriage or babies before 30.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Well, both women are giving ultimatums. So, he should consider this.

Frankly, I think they are both right. If he is old enough to get married, he can pay his own way. And I would not
Move without a commitment either.

But no matter whom you agree with, STAY OUT OF IT.

+10000

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:No marriage or babies before 30.

They are both ambitious and have no plans to marry or procreate for 5 years. If it weren't for moving to another state and then may be again for new job, they would've waited until he did his MBA and she did her MS.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:No marriage or babies before 30.

They are both ambitious and have no plans to marry or procreate for 5 years. If it weren't for moving to another state and then may be again for new job, they would've waited until he did his MBA and she did her MS.

Are you the OP? No such thing as a 7 year engagement. Don’t rope GF into this.

[Anonymous]

I wouldn’t pay for grad school if my kid were married either. I’m on team SIL. When your nephew is mature enough to finance his own school, he’s mature enough for marriage.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:No marriage or babies before 30.

They are both ambitious and have no plans to marry or procreate for 5 years. If it weren't for moving to another state and then may be again for new job, they would've waited until he did his MBA and she did her MS.

Then why the rush to get engaged?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:No marriage or babies before 30.

Yes, I agree. That way you can have kids when you’re old and tired and no fun and be too old to enjoy grandkids and have a nice life.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:No marriage or babies before 30.

They are both ambitious and have no plans to marry or procreate for 5 years. If it weren't for moving to another state and then may be again for new job, they would've waited until he did his MBA and she did her MS.

Then why the rush to get engaged?

Exactly! I think the mom is being practical and the girlfriend is being manipulative. Ultimatums at 23? That poor boy needs to run!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:First of all, stay out of it. The reality is the kid is in school. Who is paying for the graduate degree and all living expenses? If parents are helping financially, they can call the shots. I wouldn’t recommend anyone get married while mom and dad are helping with expenses. MBAs only take 2 years, why is he in such a hurry?

He saved money for one year and GF is a high earner (6 figure) so they don't need help with living expenses but of course mom doesn't want him to going into debt for MBA.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:His mother won't let him propose? His GF should take the opportunity to end the relationship before she's saddled with a crazy MIL and a husband who won't stand up for himself.

+1. If he has to ask mommy for permission to marry, marriage will be a nightmare