SIL won't allow nephew to propose to his GF

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Any sensible parent would give her advice and then hold her peace, not manipulate with threats.

My DD is not moving in with BF, until they are married. There is nothing more that she needs to know about this guy that she does not already know.

Maybe not but that won't keep them having sex if that's your issue.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:He's 23! He could elope if he wanted to. Sounds like his mom is right about him.

His mom took separation very hard and he doesn't want her to feel to abandoned by him too.

Son is concerned with abandonning Mommy? This is ridiculous. Years apart cross country for school or job is not a military deployment or assigned rgion of risk for a job. Mommy doesn't warm the bed at night and sounds like a witch. I have adult children and if this man listens to his Mommy frankly the girlfriend should dump him.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If you still need your mom to "allow" you to propose you aren't mature enough to get married.

This.

If you are South Asian, you need permission of parents even if you are marrying at 40. Its a tradition just like Caucasians ask woman's father for his permission.

Sorry to inform but we were not asked permission nor did DH ask it...nice conversations were had with parents when the couple informed. NO need. I need food and water. I don't want a SIL who is into that stuff and could have grand daughter not marry a beloved ....

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Any sensible parent would give her advice and then hold her peace, not manipulate with threats.

My DD is not moving in with BF, until they are married. There is nothing more that she needs to know about this guy that she does not already know.

Maybe not but that won't keep them having sex if that's your issue.

Sex is not the issue. They are in their 20s.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Any sensible parent would give her advice and then hold her peace, not manipulate with threats.

My DD is not moving in with BF, until they are married. There is nothing more that she needs to know about this guy that she does not already know.

You have no control over that.

Actually, I do.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Any sensible parent would give her advice and then hold her peace, not manipulate with threats.

My DD is not moving in with BF, until they are married. There is nothing more that she needs to know about this guy that she does not already know.

You have no control over that.

Actually, I do.

Is your daughter a minor? If no, then you have zero control over who or when she marries or who she moves in with.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Any sensible parent would give her advice and then hold her peace, not manipulate with threats.

My DD is not moving in with BF, until they are married. There is nothing more that she needs to know about this guy that she does not already know.

You have no control over that.

Actually, I do.

In what way?

[Anonymous]

If at age 23 he still needs to ask for mommy's permission then his fiance should take a jet plane to get away from both of them.