SIL won't allow nephew to propose to his GF
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Anonymous
| Our 23 year old nephew (who is going to grad school in another state) wants to propose his college girlfriend but his mom won't allow him. He is devastated and asked us to convince her. His GF works online for an IT company and can move with him but obviously won't move unless there is a commitment. SIL is paying fir MBA (though nephew worked for one year and saved some money). Should we talk to his mother? My husband thinks his sister is being manipulative because she sees her adult children as children while they are smart adults and this way either she'll break their relationship or mess her relationship with the son. I would rather stay out of it but he wants both of us to go so i can be more like a mediator between them as she frustrates him. Her husband (long time separated) supports his son but sees no harm in waiting if mom is insisting. |
Anonymous
| His mother won't let him propose? His GF should take the opportunity to end the relationship before she's saddled with a crazy MIL and a husband who won't stand up for himself. |
Anonymous
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MYOB
If the kid is old enough to get married he is old enough to handle his own relationship with his mom. A smart kid would wait until the MBA is paid for! |
Anonymous
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Well, both women are giving ultimatums. So, he should consider this.
Frankly, I think they are both right. If he is old enough to get married, he can pay his own way. And I would not Move without a commitment either. But no matter whom you agree with, STAY OUT OF IT. |
Anonymous
| If you still need your mom to "allow" you to propose you aren't mature enough to get married. |
Anonymous
| Does 23 year old want to propose because he has met the love of his life and wants to get married.... or does 23 year old want his GF to move closer and she won't without a ring? |
Anonymous
| Way too young to get married. |
Anonymous
| First of all, stay out of it. The reality is the kid is in school. Who is paying for the graduate degree and all living expenses? If parents are helping financially, they can call the shots. I wouldn’t recommend anyone get married while mom and dad are helping with expenses. MBAs only take 2 years, why is he in such a hurry? |
Anonymous
| Stay out of this. It’s none of your business. |
Anonymous
| You think what this situation needs is MORE infantilizing, nosy adults?! ***MYOB!*** |
Anonymous
| He wouldn't get married until after MBA, he only wants to get engaged before asking his GF to uproot herself. |
Anonymous
| I don't understand how an adult man can be "not allowed" to do this. |
Anonymous
Counterpoint - I love being a married MBA. Wife worked. Still going strong 25 years later. OTOH, 23 is too young for MBA. Needs 3-4 years work experience. |
Anonymous
He loves her and doesn't want to live apart for two years or lose her. |
Anonymous
| He’s clearly too immature for marriage if he’s asking mommy for permission. |