SIL won't allow nephew to propose to his GF

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:No marriage or babies before 30.

Ridiculous.

Okay, Duggar.

Sure, everyone who married or had a kid in their twenties has twenty.

NP-You said it, the pp did not. Did you not consider that there are other reasons not to have children in 20’s other than you desiring to have “twenty” children?

I didn’t call myself a Duggar so no, that’s not correct.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:No marriage or babies before 30.

They are both ambitious and have no plans to marry or procreate for 5 years. If it weren't for moving to another state and then may be again for new job, they would've waited until he did his MBA and she did her MS.

Then why the rush to get engaged?

Exactly! I think the mom is being practical and the girlfriend is being manipulative. Ultimatums at 23? That poor boy needs to run!

There is no ultimatum but she is reluctant to move. Who can blame her?

Smart girl. I refused to move for my boyfriend at age 24, so he proposed. It’s been nearly 20 years and we are still happily married. No way I was leaving my job and city without a ring.

+1. It’s really not a lot to ask. But if the boy has mommy paying for mba, who’s buying the ring?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:First of all, stay out of it. The reality is the kid is in school. Who is paying for the graduate degree and all living expenses? If parents are helping financially, they can call the shots. I wouldn’t recommend anyone get married while mom and dad are helping with expenses. MBAs only take 2 years, why is he in such a hurry?

He saved money for one year and GF is a high earner (6 figure) so they don't need help with living expenses but of course mom doesn't want him to going into debt for MBA.

If he is so ready to get married, he can pay for school himself. This is all totally ridiculous. Everyone involved sounds immature — particularly the uncle that thinks he should mediate.

I think enmeshed is a better word than immature.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:No marriage or babies before 30.

Ridiculous.

Okay, Duggar.

Sure, everyone who married or had a kid in their twenties has twenty.

Having twenty or not is irrelevant. It’s simply too young, but you are too obtuse to comprehend that.

I’m very happy with the choices I made, including marrying and starting our family in my 20s.

No, thank you and don’t give that antedote as advice please.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:He's 23! He could elope if he wanted to. Sounds like his mom is right about him.

His mom took separation very hard and he doesn't want her to feel to abandoned by him too.

If he doesn’t willingly put his future fiancé above his mother than that marriage will never last anyways.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:No marriage or babies before 30.

Ridiculous.

Okay, Duggar.

Sure, everyone who married or had a kid in their twenties has twenty.

Having twenty or not is irrelevant. It’s simply too young, but you are too obtuse to comprehend that.

I’m very happy with the choices I made, including marrying and starting our family in my 20s.

No, thank you and don’t give that antedote as advice please.

I never gave advice, I responded to it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I wouldn’t pay for grad school if my kid were married either. I’m on team SIL. When your nephew is mature enough to finance his own school, he’s mature enough for marriage.

This makes no sense. I knew umc and rich families who paid for their kids’ law or medical school and weddings while they were still enrolled. Marrying young and being in a great grad/professional program are signs of MATURITY and STABILITY.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:No marriage or babies before 30.

Ridiculous.

Okay, Duggar.

Sure, everyone who married or had a kid in their twenties has twenty.

NP-You said it, the pp did not. Did you not consider that there are other reasons not to have children in 20’s other than you desiring to have “twenty” children?

I didn’t call myself a Duggar so no, that’s not correct.

I bet you were invited to their weddings at a very young age.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:No marriage or babies before 30.

Ridiculous.

Okay, Duggar.

Sure, everyone who married or had a kid in their twenties has twenty.

Having twenty or not is irrelevant. It’s simply too young, but you are too obtuse to comprehend that.

I’m very happy with the choices I made, including marrying and starting our family in my 20s.

No, thank you and don’t give that antedote as advice please.

I never gave advice, I responded to it.

Good, don’t.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:No marriage or babies before 30.

Ridiculous.

Okay, Duggar.

Sure, everyone who married or had a kid in their twenties has twenty.

NP-You said it, the pp did not. Did you not consider that there are other reasons not to have children in 20’s other than you desiring to have “twenty” children?

I didn’t call myself a Duggar so no, that’s not correct.

I bet you were invited to their weddings at a very young age.

What’s with your rude responses? Give it a rest.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I wouldn’t pay for grad school if my kid were married either. I’m on team SIL. When your nephew is mature enough to finance his own school, he’s mature enough for marriage.

This makes no sense. I knew umc and rich families who paid for their kids’ law or medical school and weddings while they were still enrolled. Marrying young and being in a great grad/professional program are signs of MATURITY and STABILITY.

+1 Do you think Jennifer Gates paid for med school?!

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I wouldn’t pay for grad school if my kid were married either. I’m on team SIL. When your nephew is mature enough to finance his own school, he’s mature enough for marriage.

This makes no sense. I knew umc and rich families who paid for their kids’ law or medical school and weddings while they were still enrolled. Marrying young and being in a great grad/professional program are signs of MATURITY and STABILITY.

Marrying young is not a sign of maturity and stability. Quite the antithetical.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:No marriage or babies before 30.

Ridiculous.

Okay, Duggar.

Sure, everyone who married or had a kid in their twenties has twenty.

Having twenty or not is irrelevant. It’s simply too young, but you are too obtuse to comprehend that.

I’m very happy with the choices I made, including marrying and starting our family in my 20s.

No, thank you and don’t give that antedote as advice please.

I never gave advice, I responded to it.

Good, don’t.

This is a message board, people respond accordingly. I don’t agree with the “no marriage or babies before 30” rule and stand by that. Deal.

[Anonymous]

MBAs aren’t useful without previous work experience.

[Anonymous]

Well, I would advise his girlfriend against marrying someone who is paying for his own MBA, which he is getting at 23. If he were smarter/more well-advised, he would work a few more years for an employer who would later pay for the MBA. That is what successful men do. He is not a good prospect.