Is 14 too young for gf/bf?

[Anonymous]

Many of the kids my 13yo knows are "dating". I asked what kids who "date" do, and she said that they sit together at lunch, hold hands, and text each other. Kinda harmless but I would try to find out more about the gf/bf since you don't want them in a toxic relationship.

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Anonymous wrote:Parents please parent! There is no need to start dating at 14!!!

That’s not the question. The question is whether there’s a need to actively stop 14-year-olds from dating. And there’s not.

Sure there is. That’s too young to handle the emotional ups and down of a romantic relationship.

+1

You didn't date when you were 14?

Lol, no. Our rule was I had to be out of the house. Frankly, I am grateful.

Well, your parents sounds insanely controlling (weird religion?). That is not develomentally normal. No wonder you have so much anxiety.0

Not religious at all. Just really academic focused so we all got into great state schools/Ivies. I suspect most kids on good academic paths don’t date in high school. I would rather my child focus on academics and getting into a good college to prep for their future than end up depressed and/or pregnant at 16.

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Anonymous wrote:Parents please parent! There is no need to start dating at 14!!!

That’s not the question. The question is whether there’s a need to actively stop 14-year-olds from dating. And there’s not.

Sure there is. That’s too young to handle the emotional ups and down of a romantic relationship.

+1

You didn't date when you were 14?

Lol, no. Our rule was I had to be out of the house. Frankly, I am grateful.

Well, your parents sounds insanely controlling (weird religion?). That is not develomentally normal. No wonder you have so much anxiety.0

Not religious at all. Just really academic focused so we all got into great state schools/Ivies. I suspect most kids on good academic paths don’t date in high school. I would rather my child focus on academics and getting into a good college to prep for their future than end up depressed and/or pregnant at 16.

This is definitely not true. You sound like an 80s movie. The “popular” kids nowadays are well rounded: they’re athletic, smart, get good grades in the best classes, and still have time to date and have social lives.

[Anonymous]

Prohibiting dating means you are encouraging random hook ups. Who are the nutcases on the teens board lately who freak out about normal teen behavior on every thread?

It's like the parents from Footloose are on here.

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Anonymous wrote:Parents please parent! There is no need to start dating at 14!!!

That’s not the question. The question is whether there’s a need to actively stop 14-year-olds from dating. And there’s not.

Sure there is. That’s too young to handle the emotional ups and down of a romantic relationship.

+1

You didn't date when you were 14?

Lol, no. Our rule was I had to be out of the house. Frankly, I am grateful.

Well, your parents sounds insanely controlling (weird religion?). That is not develomentally normal. No wonder you have so much anxiety.0

Not religious at all. Just really academic focused so we all got into great state schools/Ivies. I suspect most kids on good academic paths don’t date in high school. I would rather my child focus on academics and getting into a good college to prep for their future than end up depressed and/or pregnant at 16.

LOL you missed out. I went to great college and grad school after dating, having sex, partying and being normal (while excelling at what is generally considered the top private in DC).

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Anonymous wrote:Parents please parent! There is no need to start dating at 14!!!

That’s not the question. The question is whether there’s a need to actively stop 14-year-olds from dating. And there’s not.

Sure there is. That’s too young to handle the emotional ups and down of a romantic relationship.

+1

You didn't date when you were 14?

Lol, no. Our rule was I had to be out of the house. Frankly, I am grateful.

Well, your parents sounds insanely controlling (weird religion?). That is not develomentally normal. No wonder you have so much anxiety.0

Not religious at all. Just really academic focused so we all got into great state schools/Ivies. I suspect most kids on good academic paths don’t date in high school. I would rather my child focus on academics and getting into a good college to prep for their future than end up depressed and/or pregnant at 16.

LOL you missed out. I went to great college and grad school after dating, having sex, partying and being normal (while excelling at what is generally considered the top private in DC).

NP
I believe you. But then again, your parents probably had the cash to bail you out if you screwed up. Not all of us had that option and our kids certainly don't have it now.

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Anonymous wrote:Parents please parent! There is no need to start dating at 14!!!

That’s not the question. The question is whether there’s a need to actively stop 14-year-olds from dating. And there’s not.

Sure there is. That’s too young to handle the emotional ups and down of a romantic relationship.

+1

You didn't date when you were 14?

Lol, no. Our rule was I had to be out of the house. Frankly, I am grateful.

Well, your parents sounds insanely controlling (weird religion?). That is not develomentally normal. No wonder you have so much anxiety.0

Not religious at all. Just really academic focused so we all got into great state schools/Ivies. I suspect most kids on good academic paths don’t date in high school. I would rather my child focus on academics and getting into a good college to prep for their future than end up depressed and/or pregnant at 16.

LOL you missed out. I went to great college and grad school after dating, having sex, partying and being normal (while excelling at what is generally considered the top private in DC).

NP
I believe you. But then again, your parents probably had the cash to bail you out if you screwed up. Not all of us had that option and our kids certainly don't have it now.

+1 exactly. I was strictly middle class. My parents couldn’t afford for any one of us to screw up badly.

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Anonymous wrote:Parents please parent! There is no need to start dating at 14!!!

That’s not the question. The question is whether there’s a need to actively stop 14-year-olds from dating. And there’s not.

Sure there is. That’s too young to handle the emotional ups and down of a romantic relationship.

+1

You didn't date when you were 14?

Lol, no. Our rule was I had to be out of the house. Frankly, I am grateful.

Well, your parents sounds insanely controlling (weird religion?). That is not develomentally normal. No wonder you have so much anxiety.0

Not religious at all. Just really academic focused so we all got into great state schools/Ivies. I suspect most kids on good academic paths don’t date in high school. I would rather my child focus on academics and getting into a good college to prep for their future than end up depressed and/or pregnant at 16.

LOL you missed out. I went to great college and grad school after dating, having sex, partying and being normal (while excelling at what is generally considered the top private in DC).

Radford is calling you!

[Anonymous]

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Not religious at all. Just really academic focused so we all got into great state schools/Ivies. I suspect most kids on good academic paths don’t date in high school. I would rather my child focus on academics and getting into a good college to prep for their future than end up depressed and/or pregnant at 16.

Probably Asian.
There are lots of unhappy marriages in Asia. A lot of people don't get a chance to understand themselves before getting into a serious relationship on the first go.

[Anonymous]

Depends on what whiny gf/bf means. My son had a girlfriend at this age. It was really nothing more than a label. They texted but didn’t see each other outside of school other than the occasional boy/girl party. They hardly even interacted at these parties.

[Anonymous]

Are you all in denial about hormones? Or you just expect your kids to ignore them. It’s totally developmentally appropriate.

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Not religious at all. Just really academic focused so we all got into great state schools/Ivies. I suspect most kids on good academic paths don’t date in high school. I would rather my child focus on academics and getting into a good college to prep for their future than end up depressed and/or pregnant at 16.

Probably Asian.
There are lots of unhappy marriages in Asia. A lot of people don't get a chance to understand themselves before getting into a serious relationship on the first go.

No, white as can be.

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Anonymous wrote:Are you all in denial about hormones? Or you just expect your kids to ignore them. It’s totally developmentally appropriate.

We don’t just let kids give into their whims.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Getting into a relationship at 14 was developmentally normal when kids then got married at 18 or 20. Now, there is no developmental need or benefit to being in a relationship at 14. Fouteen year olds don't need relationship experiences.

I wouldn't invite her over. They can go to a coffee shop or hang out at lunch at school.

Why would you do that? If anything I would think you would insist you get to meet her. I would rather have them in my home, in a common area and get to see the dynamic.

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Anonymous wrote:Getting into a relationship at 14 was developmentally normal when kids then got married at 18 or 20. Now, there is no developmental need or benefit to being in a relationship at 14. Fouteen year olds don't need relationship experiences.

I wouldn't invite her over. They can go to a coffee shop or hang out at lunch at school.

Why would you do that? If anything I would think you would insist you get to meet her. I would rather have them in my home, in a common area and get to see the dynamic.

Of course you would, you’re one of “those” parents. Team PP.