Is 14 too young for gf/bf?

[Anonymous]

Depends what you mean by dating.

I was in sixth grade when my friends starting going on first “dates.” People played spin the bottle and 7 minutes in heaven in middle school. Plenty of people had boyfriends by the time we started 9th grade. Of these, many fewer were having sex. I knew one girl who was not a virgin at 13. I considered her gross. By 14/15 most girls are getting interest and a boyfriend by 15/16 is totally normal.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Parents please parent! There is no need to start dating at 14!!!

That’s not the question. The question is whether there’s a need to actively stop 14-year-olds from dating. And there’s not.

Sure there is. That’s too young to handle the emotional ups and down of a romantic relationship.

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You didn't date when you were 14?

Lol, no. Our rule was I had to be out of the house. Frankly, I am grateful.

Well, your parents sounds insanely controlling (weird religion?). That is not develomentally normal. No wonder you have so much anxiety.0

Not religious at all. Just really academic focused so we all got into great state schools/Ivies. I suspect most kids on good academic paths don’t date in high school. I would rather my child focus on academics and getting into a good college to prep for their future than end up depressed and/or pregnant at 16.

Are you trolling? Do you know any teenagers? LOL.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Friend of mine had a baby at 14. Yes, it's too young.

Absolutely too young.

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Anonymous wrote:Yes, they don't need the emotional attachment and heartbreak of a serious relationship at that age. They don't need the pressure to advance their relatiosnhip physically and sexually.

Let them have crushes and 'date' at school but not have serious boyfriends and girlfriends. They can hang out in groups and date at school but I wouldn' tbe encouraging a 1 on 1 relationship.

Correlationally, kids who get into relationships young tend to also do other adult activiites at a younger age (smoke, drink, have sex, have children, leave education etc).

Exactly.

[Anonymous]

Seems pointless. Even dating at 16 seems pointless.

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Anonymous wrote:Seems pointless. Even dating at 16 seems pointless.

Agree. Girls get setup for drama and heartbreak. Why encourage that?

[Anonymous]

High school and college is when dating and hooking up was the most fun. As an adult it loses it's allure. When are you hoping your kid gets to experience romantic relationships--age 25 when the fun starts to end?

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Anonymous wrote:High school and college is when dating and hooking up was the most fun. As an adult it loses it's allure. When are you hoping your kid gets to experience romantic relationships--age 25 when the fun starts to end?

I'm beginning to realize that there are various households with different lifestyles and means on this thread. Some lifestyles more easily support this "fun."

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Anonymous wrote:High school and college is when dating and hooking up was the most fun. As an adult it loses it's allure. When are you hoping your kid gets to experience romantic relationships--age 25 when the fun starts to end?

Most fun- lol. Tell that to the 6 girls that I know -off the top of my head- who had babies while in HS. Yeah, SUPER fun.

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Anonymous wrote:High school and college is when dating and hooking up was the most fun. As an adult it loses it's allure. When are you hoping your kid gets to experience romantic relationships--age 25 when the fun starts to end?

Most fun- lol. Tell that to the 6 girls that I know -off the top of my head- who had babies while in HS. Yeah, SUPER fun.

Cool story. I also happen to know of girls that got pregnant in high school and they generally tended to be the kids of parents who either took no interest in their lives and let them do whatever they wanted, or were extremely rigid and and religious and never had conversations with their kids about dating and sex so they were sneaking around and having sex with their boyfriends in cars or other places. But keep thinking that allowing your 14 year old to invite a girl he likes to hang out at your house in a common area is going to lead to pregnancy.

[Anonymous]

Too immature, yes, but I do think it's important to practice and get some experience. Limited experience with dating leads college students and young adults to move too fast or settle too quick for the first person that comes along.

Definitely get your child on BC and normalize condom use.

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Anonymous wrote:High school and college is when dating and hooking up was the most fun. As an adult it loses it's allure. When are you hoping your kid gets to experience romantic relationships--age 25 when the fun starts to end?

Most fun- lol. Tell that to the 6 girls that I know -off the top of my head- who had babies while in HS. Yeah, SUPER fun.

Why were they not on birth control? Small religious town?

Many of my friends had sex in high school. None got pregnant. Had a lot to lose.

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Anonymous wrote:High school and college is when dating and hooking up was the most fun. As an adult it loses it's allure. When are you hoping your kid gets to experience romantic relationships--age 25 when the fun starts to end?

Most fun- lol. Tell that to the 6 girls that I know -off the top of my head- who had babies while in HS. Yeah, SUPER fun.

Why were they not on birth control? Small religious town?

Many of my friends had sex in high school. None got pregnant. Had a lot to lose.

Small'ish, but not tiny. But, this is over a span of 2 HS. One small and religious. One EXTREMELY large.
I haven't the slightest idea about BC but surely you know that BC fails? I have 2 nieces that were the result of failed BC.

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There are 2 types of parents - those who understand their kids are growing up and yes are dating at 14/15 and those who stick their heads in the sand.

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Anonymous wrote:High school and college is when dating and hooking up was the most fun. As an adult it loses it's allure. When are you hoping your kid gets to experience romantic relationships--age 25 when the fun starts to end?

Most fun- lol. Tell that to the 6 girls that I know -off the top of my head- who had babies while in HS. Yeah, SUPER fun.

Why were they not on birth control? Small religious town?

Many of my friends had sex in high school. None got pregnant. Had a lot to lose.

Small'ish, but not tiny. But, this is over a span of 2 HS. One small and religious. One EXTREMELY large.
I haven't the slightest idea about BC but surely you know that BC fails? I have 2 nieces that were the result of failed BC.

I don't think BC implemented by women who REALLY don't want to become pregnant fails often. I also do not believe that "prohibiting" dating or sex is effective birth control.