For those who have “cut other people off,” what did the person do to deserve it?

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Anonymous wrote:It sounds to me like a lot of people on here are seeking approval for lashing out at and participating in ganging up on others in their lives. Whether or not it’s deserved. But honestly a lot of the toxicity seems to stem from the posters here, not their targeted family member. Just an observation.

I completely agree. A lot of immaturity. In pediatric terms, there are a lot of adults posting here who are exhibiting a distinct Failure To Thrive (FTT). It is sad. And maddening. I don't understand all of the lashing out and the instigation. On the other hand, it doesn't seem to represent a large part of the population in real life. Just the few on DCUM who frequent the Family Relationships page. I often wonder if it is the same 2-3-4 people posting repeatedly.

Um, in "pediatric terms", failure to thrive is, quite literally, a growth disorder. Maybe you were hoping that posting it in capitals and initials would make it seem like something else, but it didn't work.

And here is the question I asked you/the other poster that was never answered:

Can you give some specific examples? Most of the posts I read are about posters finally deciding to distance themselves from abusive family members. Where is the "lashing out" and "ganging up on" happening? I have known mentally ill people to use aggressive terms like that when they were ignored, because due to their lack of skills and emotional regulation being ignored feels threatening and scary to them, but I haven't actually seen posters describing such aggressive acts.

DP - the one whose sister is dating a pedophile - I’m waiting for the answer to this question, too. Or am I just “immature” and “lashing out” because I don’t want my children around someone who has literally been arrested for possession of child pornography?

DP. Obviously pedophiles should be cut off. But you know very well that's not the problem here.

For example, on the "I called my mother 'unlikable' and cut her off" thread, where 2-3-4 posters are egging on the OP. A few other posters argued that name-calling wasn't a mature or productive approach and instead suggested that OP tell her mother calmly what's wrong and maybe work out a compromise about Thanksgiving etc. In other words, act like an adult. But they were shouted down.

The freaks in the Adult Children forum who can't contemplate that children could do anything wrong, so it must always be the parents' fault. For example, somebody (before you start, it wasn't me) started a thread about "my son blamed me to his therapist" and was met with a shrill chorus about how everything is always the parents' fault and the son shouldn't be expected to own his own choices.

That isn’t what people said on that thread.

Did your family cut you off because you change facts to fit your story? They got tired of the lies?

Sadly, your hyper-dramatic lies, accusations and DCUM telepathy are instantly recognizable. I see you found the Family Relationships forum.

Nope, my family and I had a great Thanksgiving, lots of love all around. Hope the same was true for you.

Several people disagree with you on every one of these threads that you twist to fit your narrative. Several. Not one, two, three or four.

DP

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Anonymous wrote:My mentally ill mother is a danger to me. She's tried opening credit cards in my name, emptying out my bank accounts, and has said horrible things to me (still does if I let her). She physically abused me from 12-17. She had my brother arrested; he spent 8 years inside. (yes, he did the crime but FFS, having your mother turn you in is a mind-eff). Everybody in my family, except my 92 year old aunt, have cut her off. She's mean to everybody. Regarding forgiveness for mental illness, I get it and would give it but she refused treatment. I suspect mild schizophrenia or at least a delusional disorder to add to her anxiety and social phobias.

I'm truly sorry. Can't imagine all you've been through and am very glad you're coping as well as you seem to be. I do think it's the correct thing to have a family member arrested, if you know that person committed a crime.

You are lucky to live in absoluteville. He was in possession of pot which is now legal in the state. (the amount he had).

Well, it clearly wasn’t legal when he was in possession of it.

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I stopped interacting with my “ birth” family after I realized I had been trying for 48 years to have a positive, supportive relationship and it was never going to happen. There are a million things that happened over those years that contributed to the feeling. After I finally allowed myself to feel my true feelings, I realized it wasn’t a relationship I could continue to pursue. I am so much happier and healthier and I don’t have a single doubt that it was the right thing to do.

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Anonymous wrote:It sounds to me like a lot of people on here are seeking approval for lashing out at and participating in ganging up on others in their lives. Whether or not it’s deserved. But honestly a lot of the toxicity seems to stem from the posters here, not their targeted family member. Just an observation.

I completely agree. A lot of immaturity. In pediatric terms, there are a lot of adults posting here who are exhibiting a distinct Failure To Thrive (FTT). It is sad. And maddening. I don't understand all of the lashing out and the instigation. On the other hand, it doesn't seem to represent a large part of the population in real life. Just the few on DCUM who frequent the Family Relationships page. I often wonder if it is the same 2-3-4 people posting repeatedly.

Um, in "pediatric terms", failure to thrive is, quite literally, a growth disorder. Maybe you were hoping that posting it in capitals and initials would make it seem like something else, but it didn't work.

And here is the question I asked you/the other poster that was never answered:

Can you give some specific examples? Most of the posts I read are about posters finally deciding to distance themselves from abusive family members. Where is the "lashing out" and "ganging up on" happening? I have known mentally ill people to use aggressive terms like that when they were ignored, because due to their lack of skills and emotional regulation being ignored feels threatening and scary to them, but I haven't actually seen posters describing such aggressive acts.

DP - the one whose sister is dating a pedophile - I’m waiting for the answer to this question, too. Or am I just “immature” and “lashing out” because I don’t want my children around someone who has literally been arrested for possession of child pornography?

DP. Obviously pedophiles should be cut off. But you know very well that's not the problem here.

For example, on the "I called my mother 'unlikable' and cut her off" thread, where 2-3-4 posters are egging on the OP. A few other posters argued that name-calling wasn't a mature or productive approach and instead suggested that OP tell her mother calmly what's wrong and maybe work out a compromise about Thanksgiving etc. In other words, act like an adult. But they were shouted down.

The freaks in the Adult Children forum who can't contemplate that children could do anything wrong, so it must always be the parents' fault. For example, somebody (before you start, it wasn't me) started a thread about "my son blamed me to his therapist" and was met with a shrill chorus about how everything is always the parents' fault and the son shouldn't be expected to own his own choices.

That isn’t what people said on that thread.

Did your family cut you off because you change facts to fit your story? They got tired of the lies?

Sadly, your hyper-dramatic lies, accusations and DCUM telepathy are instantly recognizable. I see you found the Family Relationships forum.

Nope, my family and I had a great Thanksgiving, lots of love all around. Hope the same was true for you.

You misrepresented what people said on that thread. Facts.

Do you do that often?

Nope, I was quite accurate. One of you freaks even said that you always side with the adult children because it's almost always the parents' fault. You strip adult children of any agency or responsibility for their own actions.

Anyway, you're disgusting to argue with. You lie, you accuse, and you make up stuff about other posters (no, neither of my two kids has cut me off, in fact we just spent a warm and loving Thanksgiving together).

Have fun wrecking the rest of this thread, I won't engage with you sociopaths.

I am "one of you freaks." Just one. You are are effing singular freak!!!

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Anonymous wrote:It sounds to me like a lot of people on here are seeking approval for lashing out at and participating in ganging up on others in their lives. Whether or not it’s deserved. But honestly a lot of the toxicity seems to stem from the posters here, not their targeted family member. Just an observation.

I completely agree. A lot of immaturity. In pediatric terms, there are a lot of adults posting here who are exhibiting a distinct Failure To Thrive (FTT). It is sad. And maddening. I don't understand all of the lashing out and the instigation. On the other hand, it doesn't seem to represent a large part of the population in real life. Just the few on DCUM who frequent the Family Relationships page. I often wonder if it is the same 2-3-4 people posting repeatedly.

Um, in "pediatric terms", failure to thrive is, quite literally, a growth disorder. Maybe you were hoping that posting it in capitals and initials would make it seem like something else, but it didn't work.

And here is the question I asked you/the other poster that was never answered:

Can you give some specific examples? Most of the posts I read are about posters finally deciding to distance themselves from abusive family members. Where is the "lashing out" and "ganging up on" happening? I have known mentally ill people to use aggressive terms like that when they were ignored, because due to their lack of skills and emotional regulation being ignored feels threatening and scary to them, but I haven't actually seen posters describing such aggressive acts.

DP - the one whose sister is dating a pedophile - I’m waiting for the answer to this question, too. Or am I just “immature” and “lashing out” because I don’t want my children around someone who has literally been arrested for possession of child pornography?

DP. Obviously pedophiles should be cut off. But you know very well that's not the problem here.

For example, on the "I called my mother 'unlikable' and cut her off" thread, where 2-3-4 posters are egging on the OP. A few other posters argued that name-calling wasn't a mature or productive approach and instead suggested that OP tell her mother calmly what's wrong and maybe work out a compromise about Thanksgiving etc. In other words, act like an adult. But they were shouted down.

The freaks in the Adult Children forum who can't contemplate that children could do anything wrong, so it must always be the parents' fault. For example, somebody (before you start, it wasn't me) started a thread about "my son blamed me to his therapist" and was met with a shrill chorus about how everything is always the parents' fault and the son shouldn't be expected to own his own choices.

That isn’t what people said on that thread.

Did your family cut you off because you change facts to fit your story? They got tired of the lies?

Sadly, your hyper-dramatic lies, accusations and DCUM telepathy are instantly recognizable. I see you found the Family Relationships forum.

Nope, my family and I had a great Thanksgiving, lots of love all around. Hope the same was true for you.

You misrepresented what people said on that thread. Facts.

Do you do that often?

Nope, I was quite accurate. One of you freaks even said that you always side with the adult children because it's almost always the parents' fault. You strip adult children of any agency or responsibility for their own actions.

Anyway, you're disgusting to argue with. You lie, you accuse, and you make up stuff about other posters (no, neither of my two kids has cut me off, in fact we just spent a warm and loving Thanksgiving together).

Have fun wrecking the rest of this thread, I won't engage with you sociopaths.

Project much?

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Anonymous wrote:It sounds to me like a lot of people on here are seeking approval for lashing out at and participating in ganging up on others in their lives. Whether or not it’s deserved. But honestly a lot of the toxicity seems to stem from the posters here, not their targeted family member. Just an observation.

I completely agree. A lot of immaturity. In pediatric terms, there are a lot of adults posting here who are exhibiting a distinct Failure To Thrive (FTT). It is sad. And maddening. I don't understand all of the lashing out and the instigation. On the other hand, it doesn't seem to represent a large part of the population in real life. Just the few on DCUM who frequent the Family Relationships page. I often wonder if it is the same 2-3-4 people posting repeatedly.

Um, in "pediatric terms", failure to thrive is, quite literally, a growth disorder. Maybe you were hoping that posting it in capitals and initials would make it seem like something else, but it didn't work.

And here is the question I asked you/the other poster that was never answered:

Can you give some specific examples? Most of the posts I read are about posters finally deciding to distance themselves from abusive family members. Where is the "lashing out" and "ganging up on" happening? I have known mentally ill people to use aggressive terms like that when they were ignored, because due to their lack of skills and emotional regulation being ignored feels threatening and scary to them, but I haven't actually seen posters describing such aggressive acts.

DP - the one whose sister is dating a pedophile - I’m waiting for the answer to this question, too. Or am I just “immature” and “lashing out” because I don’t want my children around someone who has literally been arrested for possession of child pornography?

DP. Obviously pedophiles should be cut off. But you know very well that's not the problem here.

For example, on the "I called my mother 'unlikable' and cut her off" thread, where 2-3-4 posters are egging on the OP. A few other posters argued that name-calling wasn't a mature or productive approach and instead suggested that OP tell her mother calmly what's wrong and maybe work out a compromise about Thanksgiving etc. In other words, act like an adult. But they were shouted down.

The freaks in the Adult Children forum who can't contemplate that children could do anything wrong, so it must always be the parents' fault. For example, somebody (before you start, it wasn't me) started a thread about "my son blamed me to his therapist" and was met with a shrill chorus about how everything is always the parents' fault and the son shouldn't be expected to own his own choices.

That isn’t what people said on that thread.

Did your family cut you off because you change facts to fit your story? They got tired of the lies?

Sadly, your hyper-dramatic lies, accusations and DCUM telepathy are instantly recognizable. I see you found the Family Relationships forum.

Nope, my family and I had a great Thanksgiving, lots of love all around. Hope the same was true for you.

You misrepresented what people said on that thread. Facts.

Do you do that often?

Nope, I was quite accurate. One of you freaks even said that you always side with the adult children because it's almost always the parents' fault. You strip adult children of any agency or responsibility for their own actions.

Anyway, you're disgusting to argue with. You lie, you accuse, and you make up stuff about other posters (no, neither of my two kids has cut me off, in fact we just spent a warm and loving Thanksgiving together).

Have fun wrecking the rest of this thread, I won't engage with you sociopaths.

Are you cutting us off??

OMG, is this the inane emoji troll from the Religion forum? That poster has an IQ of 70 and lies all the time. Makes complete sense.

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Anonymous wrote:It sounds to me like a lot of people on here are seeking approval for lashing out at and participating in ganging up on others in their lives. Whether or not it’s deserved. But honestly a lot of the toxicity seems to stem from the posters here, not their targeted family member. Just an observation.

I completely agree. A lot of immaturity. In pediatric terms, there are a lot of adults posting here who are exhibiting a distinct Failure To Thrive (FTT). It is sad. And maddening. I don't understand all of the lashing out and the instigation. On the other hand, it doesn't seem to represent a large part of the population in real life. Just the few on DCUM who frequent the Family Relationships page. I often wonder if it is the same 2-3-4 people posting repeatedly.

Um, in "pediatric terms", failure to thrive is, quite literally, a growth disorder. Maybe you were hoping that posting it in capitals and initials would make it seem like something else, but it didn't work.

And here is the question I asked you/the other poster that was never answered:

Can you give some specific examples? Most of the posts I read are about posters finally deciding to distance themselves from abusive family members. Where is the "lashing out" and "ganging up on" happening? I have known mentally ill people to use aggressive terms like that when they were ignored, because due to their lack of skills and emotional regulation being ignored feels threatening and scary to them, but I haven't actually seen posters describing such aggressive acts.

DP - the one whose sister is dating a pedophile - I’m waiting for the answer to this question, too. Or am I just “immature” and “lashing out” because I don’t want my children around someone who has literally been arrested for possession of child pornography?

DP. Obviously pedophiles should be cut off. But you know very well that's not the problem here.

For example, on the "I called my mother 'unlikable' and cut her off" thread, where 2-3-4 posters are egging on the OP. A few other posters argued that name-calling wasn't a mature or productive approach and instead suggested that OP tell her mother calmly what's wrong and maybe work out a compromise about Thanksgiving etc. In other words, act like an adult. But they were shouted down.

The freaks in the Adult Children forum who can't contemplate that children could do anything wrong, so it must always be the parents' fault. For example, somebody (before you start, it wasn't me) started a thread about "my son blamed me to his therapist" and was met with a shrill chorus about how everything is always the parents' fault and the son shouldn't be expected to own his own choices.

That isn’t what people said on that thread.

Did your family cut you off because you change facts to fit your story? They got tired of the lies?

Sadly, your hyper-dramatic lies, accusations and DCUM telepathy are instantly recognizable. I see you found the Family Relationships forum.

Nope, my family and I had a great Thanksgiving, lots of love all around. Hope the same was true for you.

You misrepresented what people said on that thread. Facts.

Do you do that often?

Nope, I was quite accurate. One of you freaks even said that you always side with the adult children because it's almost always the parents' fault. You strip adult children of any agency or responsibility for their own actions.

Anyway, you're disgusting to argue with. You lie, you accuse, and you make up stuff about other posters (no, neither of my two kids has cut me off, in fact we just spent a warm and loving Thanksgiving together).

Have fun wrecking the rest of this thread, I won't engage with you sociopaths.

Are you ok? You seem strangely triggered by people responding to OP's question.

PP doesn’t like getting called out for her repeated lies.

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Anonymous wrote:It sounds to me like a lot of people on here are seeking approval for lashing out at and participating in ganging up on others in their lives. Whether or not it’s deserved. But honestly a lot of the toxicity seems to stem from the posters here, not their targeted family member. Just an observation.

I completely agree. A lot of immaturity. In pediatric terms, there are a lot of adults posting here who are exhibiting a distinct Failure To Thrive (FTT). It is sad. And maddening. I don't understand all of the lashing out and the instigation. On the other hand, it doesn't seem to represent a large part of the population in real life. Just the few on DCUM who frequent the Family Relationships page. I often wonder if it is the same 2-3-4 people posting repeatedly.

Um, in "pediatric terms", failure to thrive is, quite literally, a growth disorder. Maybe you were hoping that posting it in capitals and initials would make it seem like something else, but it didn't work.

And here is the question I asked you/the other poster that was never answered:

Can you give some specific examples? Most of the posts I read are about posters finally deciding to distance themselves from abusive family members. Where is the "lashing out" and "ganging up on" happening? I have known mentally ill people to use aggressive terms like that when they were ignored, because due to their lack of skills and emotional regulation being ignored feels threatening and scary to them, but I haven't actually seen posters describing such aggressive acts.

DP - the one whose sister is dating a pedophile - I’m waiting for the answer to this question, too. Or am I just “immature” and “lashing out” because I don’t want my children around someone who has literally been arrested for possession of child pornography?

DP. Obviously pedophiles should be cut off. But you know very well that's not the problem here.

For example, on the "I called my mother 'unlikable' and cut her off" thread, where 2-3-4 posters are egging on the OP. A few other posters argued that name-calling wasn't a mature or productive approach and instead suggested that OP tell her mother calmly what's wrong and maybe work out a compromise about Thanksgiving etc. In other words, act like an adult. But they were shouted down.

The freaks in the Adult Children forum who can't contemplate that children could do anything wrong, so it must always be the parents' fault. For example, somebody (before you start, it wasn't me) started a thread about "my son blamed me to his therapist" and was met with a shrill chorus about how everything is always the parents' fault and the son shouldn't be expected to own his own choices.

That isn’t what people said on that thread.

Did your family cut you off because you change facts to fit your story? They got tired of the lies?

Sadly, your hyper-dramatic lies, accusations and DCUM telepathy are instantly recognizable. I see you found the Family Relationships forum.

Nope, my family and I had a great Thanksgiving, lots of love all around. Hope the same was true for you.

You misrepresented what people said on that thread. Facts.

Do you do that often?

Nope, I was quite accurate. One of you freaks even said that you always side with the adult children because it's almost always the parents' fault. You strip adult children of any agency or responsibility for their own actions.

Anyway, you're disgusting to argue with. You lie, you accuse, and you make up stuff about other posters (no, neither of my two kids has cut me off, in fact we just spent a warm and loving Thanksgiving together).

Have fun wrecking the rest of this thread, I won't engage with you sociopaths.

Are you cutting us off??

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Anonymous wrote:It sounds to me like a lot of people on here are seeking approval for lashing out at and participating in ganging up on others in their lives. Whether or not it’s deserved. But honestly a lot of the toxicity seems to stem from the posters here, not their targeted family member. Just an observation.

I completely agree. A lot of immaturity. In pediatric terms, there are a lot of adults posting here who are exhibiting a distinct Failure To Thrive (FTT). It is sad. And maddening. I don't understand all of the lashing out and the instigation. On the other hand, it doesn't seem to represent a large part of the population in real life. Just the few on DCUM who frequent the Family Relationships page. I often wonder if it is the same 2-3-4 people posting repeatedly.

Um, in "pediatric terms", failure to thrive is, quite literally, a growth disorder. Maybe you were hoping that posting it in capitals and initials would make it seem like something else, but it didn't work.

And here is the question I asked you/the other poster that was never answered:

Can you give some specific examples? Most of the posts I read are about posters finally deciding to distance themselves from abusive family members. Where is the "lashing out" and "ganging up on" happening? I have known mentally ill people to use aggressive terms like that when they were ignored, because due to their lack of skills and emotional regulation being ignored feels threatening and scary to them, but I haven't actually seen posters describing such aggressive acts.

DP - the one whose sister is dating a pedophile - I’m waiting for the answer to this question, too. Or am I just “immature” and “lashing out” because I don’t want my children around someone who has literally been arrested for possession of child pornography?

DP. Obviously pedophiles should be cut off. But you know very well that's not the problem here.

For example, on the "I called my mother 'unlikable' and cut her off" thread, where 2-3-4 posters are egging on the OP. A few other posters argued that name-calling wasn't a mature or productive approach and instead suggested that OP tell her mother calmly what's wrong and maybe work out a compromise about Thanksgiving etc. In other words, act like an adult. But they were shouted down.

The freaks in the Adult Children forum who can't contemplate that children could do anything wrong, so it must always be the parents' fault. For example, somebody (before you start, it wasn't me) started a thread about "my son blamed me to his therapist" and was met with a shrill chorus about how everything is always the parents' fault and the son shouldn't be expected to own his own choices.

That isn’t what people said on that thread.

Did your family cut you off because you change facts to fit your story? They got tired of the lies?

Sadly, your hyper-dramatic lies, accusations and DCUM telepathy are instantly recognizable. I see you found the Family Relationships forum.

Nope, my family and I had a great Thanksgiving, lots of love all around. Hope the same was true for you.

You misrepresented what people said on that thread. Facts.

Do you do that often?

Nope, I was quite accurate. One of you freaks even said that you always side with the adult children because it's almost always the parents' fault. You strip adult children of any agency or responsibility for their own actions.

Anyway, you're disgusting to argue with. You lie, you accuse, and you make up stuff about other posters (no, neither of my two kids has cut me off, in fact we just spent a warm and loving Thanksgiving together).

Have fun wrecking the rest of this thread, I won't engage with you sociopaths.

Are you cutting us off??

OMG, is this the inane emoji troll from the Religion forum? That poster has an IQ of 70 and lies all the time. Makes complete sense.

YES and they form sentences despite the extreme low intelligence. It's a bit confusing, and I wonder about a bot.

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Anonymous wrote:It sounds to me like a lot of people on here are seeking approval for lashing out at and participating in ganging up on others in their lives. Whether or not it’s deserved. But honestly a lot of the toxicity seems to stem from the posters here, not their targeted family member. Just an observation.

I completely agree. A lot of immaturity. In pediatric terms, there are a lot of adults posting here who are exhibiting a distinct Failure To Thrive (FTT). It is sad. And maddening. I don't understand all of the lashing out and the instigation. On the other hand, it doesn't seem to represent a large part of the population in real life. Just the few on DCUM who frequent the Family Relationships page. I often wonder if it is the same 2-3-4 people posting repeatedly.

Um, in "pediatric terms", failure to thrive is, quite literally, a growth disorder. Maybe you were hoping that posting it in capitals and initials would make it seem like something else, but it didn't work.

And here is the question I asked you/the other poster that was never answered:

Can you give some specific examples? Most of the posts I read are about posters finally deciding to distance themselves from abusive family members. Where is the "lashing out" and "ganging up on" happening? I have known mentally ill people to use aggressive terms like that when they were ignored, because due to their lack of skills and emotional regulation being ignored feels threatening and scary to them, but I haven't actually seen posters describing such aggressive acts.

DP - the one whose sister is dating a pedophile - I’m waiting for the answer to this question, too. Or am I just “immature” and “lashing out” because I don’t want my children around someone who has literally been arrested for possession of child pornography?

DP. Obviously pedophiles should be cut off. But you know very well that's not the problem here.

For example, on the "I called my mother 'unlikable' and cut her off" thread, where 2-3-4 posters are egging on the OP. A few other posters argued that name-calling wasn't a mature or productive approach and instead suggested that OP tell her mother calmly what's wrong and maybe work out a compromise about Thanksgiving etc. In other words, act like an adult. But they were shouted down.

The freaks in the Adult Children forum who can't contemplate that children could do anything wrong, so it must always be the parents' fault. For example, somebody (before you start, it wasn't me) started a thread about "my son blamed me to his therapist" and was met with a shrill chorus about how everything is always the parents' fault and the son shouldn't be expected to own his own choices.

That isn’t what people said on that thread.

Did your family cut you off because you change facts to fit your story? They got tired of the lies?

Sadly, your hyper-dramatic lies, accusations and DCUM telepathy are instantly recognizable. I see you found the Family Relationships forum.

Nope, my family and I had a great Thanksgiving, lots of love all around. Hope the same was true for you.

You misrepresented what people said on that thread. Facts.

Do you do that often?

Nope, I was quite accurate. One of you freaks even said that you always side with the adult children because it's almost always the parents' fault. You strip adult children of any agency or responsibility for their own actions.

Anyway, you're disgusting to argue with. You lie, you accuse, and you make up stuff about other posters (no, neither of my two kids has cut me off, in fact we just spent a warm and loving Thanksgiving together).

Have fun wrecking the rest of this thread, I won't engage with you sociopaths.

Are you cutting us off??

OMG, is this the inane emoji troll from the Religion forum? That poster has an IQ of 70 and lies all the time. Makes complete sense.

YES and they form sentences despite the extreme low intelligence. It's a bit confusing, and I wonder about a bot.

More projection.

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Anonymous wrote:It sounds to me like a lot of people on here are seeking approval for lashing out at and participating in ganging up on others in their lives. Whether or not it’s deserved. But honestly a lot of the toxicity seems to stem from the posters here, not their targeted family member. Just an observation.

I completely agree. A lot of immaturity. In pediatric terms, there are a lot of adults posting here who are exhibiting a distinct Failure To Thrive (FTT). It is sad. And maddening. I don't understand all of the lashing out and the instigation. On the other hand, it doesn't seem to represent a large part of the population in real life. Just the few on DCUM who frequent the Family Relationships page. I often wonder if it is the same 2-3-4 people posting repeatedly.

Um, in "pediatric terms", failure to thrive is, quite literally, a growth disorder. Maybe you were hoping that posting it in capitals and initials would make it seem like something else, but it didn't work.

And here is the question I asked you/the other poster that was never answered:

Can you give some specific examples? Most of the posts I read are about posters finally deciding to distance themselves from abusive family members. Where is the "lashing out" and "ganging up on" happening? I have known mentally ill people to use aggressive terms like that when they were ignored, because due to their lack of skills and emotional regulation being ignored feels threatening and scary to them, but I haven't actually seen posters describing such aggressive acts.

DP - the one whose sister is dating a pedophile - I’m waiting for the answer to this question, too. Or am I just “immature” and “lashing out” because I don’t want my children around someone who has literally been arrested for possession of child pornography?

DP. Obviously pedophiles should be cut off. But you know very well that's not the problem here.

For example, on the "I called my mother 'unlikable' and cut her off" thread, where 2-3-4 posters are egging on the OP. A few other posters argued that name-calling wasn't a mature or productive approach and instead suggested that OP tell her mother calmly what's wrong and maybe work out a compromise about Thanksgiving etc. In other words, act like an adult. But they were shouted down.

The freaks in the Adult Children forum who can't contemplate that children could do anything wrong, so it must always be the parents' fault. For example, somebody (before you start, it wasn't me) started a thread about "my son blamed me to his therapist" and was met with a shrill chorus about how everything is always the parents' fault and the son shouldn't be expected to own his own choices.

That isn’t what people said on that thread.

Did your family cut you off because you change facts to fit your story? They got tired of the lies?

Sadly, your hyper-dramatic lies, accusations and DCUM telepathy are instantly recognizable. I see you found the Family Relationships forum.

Nope, my family and I had a great Thanksgiving, lots of love all around. Hope the same was true for you.

You misrepresented what people said on that thread. Facts.

Do you do that often?

Nope, I was quite accurate. One of you freaks even said that you always side with the adult children because it's almost always the parents' fault. You strip adult children of any agency or responsibility for their own actions.

Anyway, you're disgusting to argue with. You lie, you accuse, and you make up stuff about other posters (no, neither of my two kids has cut me off, in fact we just spent a warm and loving Thanksgiving together).

Have fun wrecking the rest of this thread, I won't engage with you sociopaths.

Are you cutting us off??

OMG, is this the inane emoji troll from the Religion forum? That poster has an IQ of 70 and lies all the time. Makes complete sense.

YES and they form sentences despite the extreme low intelligence. It's a bit confusing, and I wonder about a bot.

More projection.

Yes because I am a bot and expect others to be bots like me 😀

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Cut a mentally ill IL off after they put a pillow over my infant child’s face “as a joke” and sent us feces in the mail, and then accused us of “not having a sense of humor.”

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Anonymous wrote:It sounds to me like a lot of people on here are seeking approval for lashing out at and participating in ganging up on others in their lives. Whether or not it’s deserved. But honestly a lot of the toxicity seems to stem from the posters here, not their targeted family member. Just an observation.

I completely agree. A lot of immaturity. In pediatric terms, there are a lot of adults posting here who are exhibiting a distinct Failure To Thrive (FTT). It is sad. And maddening. I don't understand all of the lashing out and the instigation. On the other hand, it doesn't seem to represent a large part of the population in real life. Just the few on DCUM who frequent the Family Relationships page. I often wonder if it is the same 2-3-4 people posting repeatedly.

Um, in "pediatric terms", failure to thrive is, quite literally, a growth disorder. Maybe you were hoping that posting it in capitals and initials would make it seem like something else, but it didn't work.

And here is the question I asked you/the other poster that was never answered:

Can you give some specific examples? Most of the posts I read are about posters finally deciding to distance themselves from abusive family members. Where is the "lashing out" and "ganging up on" happening? I have known mentally ill people to use aggressive terms like that when they were ignored, because due to their lack of skills and emotional regulation being ignored feels threatening and scary to them, but I haven't actually seen posters describing such aggressive acts.

DP - the one whose sister is dating a pedophile - I’m waiting for the answer to this question, too. Or am I just “immature” and “lashing out” because I don’t want my children around someone who has literally been arrested for possession of child pornography?

DP. Obviously pedophiles should be cut off. But you know very well that's not the problem here.

For example, on the "I called my mother 'unlikable' and cut her off" thread, where 2-3-4 posters are egging on the OP. A few other posters argued that name-calling wasn't a mature or productive approach and instead suggested that OP tell her mother calmly what's wrong and maybe work out a compromise about Thanksgiving etc. In other words, act like an adult. But they were shouted down.

The freaks in the Adult Children forum who can't contemplate that children could do anything wrong, so it must always be the parents' fault. For example, somebody (before you start, it wasn't me) started a thread about "my son blamed me to his therapist" and was met with a shrill chorus about how everything is always the parents' fault and the son shouldn't be expected to own his own choices.

That isn’t what people said on that thread.

Did your family cut you off because you change facts to fit your story? They got tired of the lies?

Sadly, your hyper-dramatic lies, accusations and DCUM telepathy are instantly recognizable. I see you found the Family Relationships forum.

Nope, my family and I had a great Thanksgiving, lots of love all around. Hope the same was true for you.

You misrepresented what people said on that thread. Facts.

Do you do that often?

Nope, I was quite accurate. One of you freaks even said that you always side with the adult children because it's almost always the parents' fault. You strip adult children of any agency or responsibility for their own actions.

Anyway, you're disgusting to argue with. You lie, you accuse, and you make up stuff about other posters (no, neither of my two kids has cut me off, in fact we just spent a warm and loving Thanksgiving together).

Have fun wrecking the rest of this thread, I won't engage with you sociopaths.

Are you cutting us off??

OMG, is this the inane emoji troll from the Religion forum? That poster has an IQ of 70 and lies all the time. Makes complete sense.

YES and they form sentences despite the extreme low intelligence. It's a bit confusing, and I wonder about a bot.

Hi. I'm a PP in this thread and the parent of a child with special needs. You two seem to be using my child's disability as an insult. Just so you know, ableism is a bad look for those hoping to claim moral high ground.

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Anonymous wrote:It sounds to me like a lot of people on here are seeking approval for lashing out at and participating in ganging up on others in their lives. Whether or not it’s deserved. But honestly a lot of the toxicity seems to stem from the posters here, not their targeted family member. Just an observation.

I completely agree. A lot of immaturity. In pediatric terms, there are a lot of adults posting here who are exhibiting a distinct Failure To Thrive (FTT). It is sad. And maddening. I don't understand all of the lashing out and the instigation. On the other hand, it doesn't seem to represent a large part of the population in real life. Just the few on DCUM who frequent the Family Relationships page. I often wonder if it is the same 2-3-4 people posting repeatedly.

Um, in "pediatric terms", failure to thrive is, quite literally, a growth disorder. Maybe you were hoping that posting it in capitals and initials would make it seem like something else, but it didn't work.

And here is the question I asked you/the other poster that was never answered:

Can you give some specific examples? Most of the posts I read are about posters finally deciding to distance themselves from abusive family members. Where is the "lashing out" and "ganging up on" happening? I have known mentally ill people to use aggressive terms like that when they were ignored, because due to their lack of skills and emotional regulation being ignored feels threatening and scary to them, but I haven't actually seen posters describing such aggressive acts.

DP - the one whose sister is dating a pedophile - I’m waiting for the answer to this question, too. Or am I just “immature” and “lashing out” because I don’t want my children around someone who has literally been arrested for possession of child pornography?

DP. Obviously pedophiles should be cut off. But you know very well that's not the problem here.

For example, on the "I called my mother 'unlikable' and cut her off" thread, where 2-3-4 posters are egging on the OP. A few other posters argued that name-calling wasn't a mature or productive approach and instead suggested that OP tell her mother calmly what's wrong and maybe work out a compromise about Thanksgiving etc. In other words, act like an adult. But they were shouted down.

The freaks in the Adult Children forum who can't contemplate that children could do anything wrong, so it must always be the parents' fault. For example, somebody (before you start, it wasn't me) started a thread about "my son blamed me to his therapist" and was met with a shrill chorus about how everything is always the parents' fault and the son shouldn't be expected to own his own choices.

That isn’t what people said on that thread.

Did your family cut you off because you change facts to fit your story? They got tired of the lies?

Sadly, your hyper-dramatic lies, accusations and DCUM telepathy are instantly recognizable. I see you found the Family Relationships forum.

Nope, my family and I had a great Thanksgiving, lots of love all around. Hope the same was true for you.

Several people disagree with you on every one of these threads that you twist to fit your narrative. Several. Not one, two, three or four.

DP

Just 2-3-4 hyper-dramatic aggrieved adult children (one or more of which may be a troll). Thank goodness.

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Anonymous wrote:It sounds to me like a lot of people on here are seeking approval for lashing out at and participating in ganging up on others in their lives. Whether or not it’s deserved. But honestly a lot of the toxicity seems to stem from the posters here, not their targeted family member. Just an observation.

Can you give some specific examples? Most of the posts I read are about posters finally deciding to distance themselves from abusive family members. Where is the "lashing out" and "ganging up on" happening? I have known mentally ill people to use aggressive terms like that when they were ignored, because due to their lack of skills and emotional regulation being ignored feels threatening and scary to them, but I haven't actually seen posters describing such aggressive acts.

There were a few weak “cutting off” posts of mothers in this forum. Things like wanting to participate in their children’s lives and suddenly they are evil. Not sure how you could make the judgement call that I am mentally I’ll for using a term. That seems like jumping to conclusions. As a matter of fact I am also a victim of a mentally ill and abusive mother. She’s done some bad stuff but I have not cut her off in the manners I’ve seen described here by some. I just don’t see the point in returning like with like.