For those who have “cut other people off,” what did the person do to deserve it?

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Anonymous wrote:I haven't cut her off totally, but I've come close many times. My older sister is a toxic narcissist who takes any opportunity to dump her shit on me. I tried grey rock, which works but requires skill and consistency and always being on my guard. Covid was a great opportunity for me to establish new boundaries with her. I no longer attend family gatherings at her house, especially on days which are likely to be emotionally charged. Grey rock works well now, because I don't talk to her often and I come from a place of strength and resolve. Our conversations are actually somewhat pleasant.

Are you me?? This is me, too.

I’m proud of how I’ve kept contact but am grey rocking the heck out of the sibling. Sister said cruel things to me. Recently, I found my high school diary n which I detailed how sister physically attacked me and my dad held her back. I had forgotten that!

I’m very happy not to be in frequent touch and would have done this sooner had we not both had kids.

After years of sibling making a huge deal about birthday presents for me that never get delivered, I stopped buying any presents for her. I am free!! I don’t care about the presents but I do care about the lying about the presents.

OMG. I truly thought I was the only person who had this strange experience. My sister has done many toxic and overtly mean things, but I didn't feel like I could tell anyone, but a close friend about her strange ritual with imaginary gifts and broken gifts because I would seem crazy. For years she would tell me an expensive gift card was on it way and every year it didn't come. Every year I believed her and would let her know she didn't need to send me anything, but thought she should know it never arrived because I hate the idea of anyone wasting money. Then she would either say she'd check on it or she forgot, but now it's on it's way. It never came. Then when I got married she actually did a real gift because I don't think she wanted my husband to suspect she was wacko. Then once I had a child she couldn't resist. I got a box of clothes with holes and rips from ebay. (She is wealthy). I just said thank you. When she asked for photos of said child wearing clothes I let her know the situation. I was unable to donate items because they don't want clothes in disrepair. Then another year she send me a broken necklace and broken glass frame. I still gave her the benefit of the doubt and thanked her the thought, but asked her to stop giving gifts. it continued yearly and I told her to stop and I stopped acknowledging anything that came. She started family drama over it. Deranged! That is one of many reasons I just hate gifts in general. Some people use gifts to exercise their demons and something about the word makes it OK and easy to gaslight people into thinking they are ungrateful.

I’m the PP. Thank you for sharing your experience, too. It’s awful we have these siblings! My sister is mentally unwell and it took me YEARS to realize this because the “crazy” was what I grew up with and that seemed normal.

I could list so many reasons why I can’t trust the sibling.

Things have been much better since I became the most boring person ever.

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Anonymous wrote:It sounds to me like a lot of people on here are seeking approval for lashing out at and participating in ganging up on others in their lives. Whether or not it’s deserved. But honestly a lot of the toxicity seems to stem from the posters here, not their targeted family member. Just an observation.

I completely agree. A lot of immaturity. In pediatric terms, there are a lot of adults posting here who are exhibiting a distinct Failure To Thrive (FTT). It is sad. And maddening. I don't understand all of the lashing out and the instigation. On the other hand, it doesn't seem to represent a large part of the population in real life. Just the few on DCUM who frequent the Family Relationships page. I often wonder if it is the same 2-3-4 people posting repeatedly.

Um, in "pediatric terms", failure to thrive is, quite literally, a growth disorder. Maybe you were hoping that posting it in capitals and initials would make it seem like something else, but it didn't work.

And here is the question I asked you/the other poster that was never answered:

Can you give some specific examples? Most of the posts I read are about posters finally deciding to distance themselves from abusive family members. Where is the "lashing out" and "ganging up on" happening? I have known mentally ill people to use aggressive terms like that when they were ignored, because due to their lack of skills and emotional regulation being ignored feels threatening and scary to them, but I haven't actually seen posters describing such aggressive acts.

DP - the one whose sister is dating a pedophile - I’m waiting for the answer to this question, too. Or am I just “immature” and “lashing out” because I don’t want my children around someone who has literally been arrested for possession of child pornography?

DP. Obviously pedophiles should be cut off. But you know very well that's not the problem here.

For example, on the "I called my mother 'unlikable' and cut her off" thread, where 2-3-4 posters are egging on the OP. A few other posters argued that name-calling wasn't a mature or productive approach and instead suggested that OP tell her mother calmly what's wrong and maybe work out a compromise about Thanksgiving etc. In other words, act like an adult. But they were shouted down.

The freaks in the Adult Children forum who can't contemplate that children could do anything wrong, so it must always be the parents' fault. For example, somebody (before you start, it wasn't me) started a thread about "my son blamed me to his therapist" and was met with a shrill chorus about how everything is always the parents' fault and the son shouldn't be expected to own his own choices.

That isn’t what people said on that thread.

Did your family cut you off because you change facts to fit your story? They got tired of the lies?

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Anonymous wrote:It sounds to me like a lot of people on here are seeking approval for lashing out at and participating in ganging up on others in their lives. Whether or not it’s deserved. But honestly a lot of the toxicity seems to stem from the posters here, not their targeted family member. Just an observation.

I completely agree. A lot of immaturity. In pediatric terms, there are a lot of adults posting here who are exhibiting a distinct Failure To Thrive (FTT). It is sad. And maddening. I don't understand all of the lashing out and the instigation. On the other hand, it doesn't seem to represent a large part of the population in real life. Just the few on DCUM who frequent the Family Relationships page. I often wonder if it is the same 2-3-4 people posting repeatedly.

Um, in "pediatric terms", failure to thrive is, quite literally, a growth disorder. Maybe you were hoping that posting it in capitals and initials would make it seem like something else, but it didn't work.

And here is the question I asked you/the other poster that was never answered:

Can you give some specific examples? Most of the posts I read are about posters finally deciding to distance themselves from abusive family members. Where is the "lashing out" and "ganging up on" happening? I have known mentally ill people to use aggressive terms like that when they were ignored, because due to their lack of skills and emotional regulation being ignored feels threatening and scary to them, but I haven't actually seen posters describing such aggressive acts.

DP - the one whose sister is dating a pedophile - I’m waiting for the answer to this question, too. Or am I just “immature” and “lashing out” because I don’t want my children around someone who has literally been arrested for possession of child pornography?

DP. Obviously pedophiles should be cut off. But you know very well that's not the problem here.

For example, on the "I called my mother 'unlikable' and cut her off" thread, where 2-3-4 posters are egging on the OP. A few other posters argued that name-calling wasn't a mature or productive approach and instead suggested that OP tell her mother calmly what's wrong and maybe work out a compromise about Thanksgiving etc. In other words, act like an adult. But they were shouted down.

The freaks in the Adult Children forum who can't contemplate that children could do anything wrong, so it must always be the parents' fault. For example, somebody (before you start, it wasn't me) started a thread about "my son blamed me to his therapist" and was met with a shrill chorus about how everything is always the parents' fault and the son shouldn't be expected to own his own choices.

That isn’t what people said on that thread.

Did your family cut you off because you change facts to fit your story? They got tired of the lies?

Sadly, your hyper-dramatic lies, accusations and DCUM telepathy are instantly recognizable. I see you found the Family Relationships forum.

Nope, my family and I had a great Thanksgiving, lots of love all around. Hope the same was true for you.

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Anonymous wrote:My mentally ill mother is a danger to me. She's tried opening credit cards in my name, emptying out my bank accounts, and has said horrible things to me (still does if I let her). She physically abused me from 12-17. She had my brother arrested; he spent 8 years inside. (yes, he did the crime but FFS, having your mother turn you in is a mind-eff). Everybody in my family, except my 92 year old aunt, have cut her off. She's mean to everybody. Regarding forgiveness for mental illness, I get it and would give it but she refused treatment. I suspect mild schizophrenia or at least a delusional disorder to add to her anxiety and social phobias.

I'm truly sorry. Can't imagine all you've been through and am very glad you're coping as well as you seem to be. I do think it's the correct thing to have a family member arrested, if you know that person committed a crime.

You are lucky to live in absoluteville. He was in possession of pot which is now legal in the state. (the amount he had).

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My sister punched me during an argument. She can’t control herself and is no longer part of my life. I am not sorry.

[Anonymous]

Temporarily cut off MIL for stealing money from us. She has issues, including a shopping addiction and hoarding. Now we have a relationship again but it is limited and on our terms in order to protect our family.

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I see we've gotten to the point where the cut-off boomers are complaining about being cut off. Look in the mirror. You earned it.

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Anonymous wrote:It sounds to me like a lot of people on here are seeking approval for lashing out at and participating in ganging up on others in their lives. Whether or not it’s deserved. But honestly a lot of the toxicity seems to stem from the posters here, not their targeted family member. Just an observation.

I completely agree. A lot of immaturity. In pediatric terms, there are a lot of adults posting here who are exhibiting a distinct Failure To Thrive (FTT). It is sad. And maddening. I don't understand all of the lashing out and the instigation. On the other hand, it doesn't seem to represent a large part of the population in real life. Just the few on DCUM who frequent the Family Relationships page. I often wonder if it is the same 2-3-4 people posting repeatedly.

Um, in "pediatric terms", failure to thrive is, quite literally, a growth disorder. Maybe you were hoping that posting it in capitals and initials would make it seem like something else, but it didn't work.

And here is the question I asked you/the other poster that was never answered:

Can you give some specific examples? Most of the posts I read are about posters finally deciding to distance themselves from abusive family members. Where is the "lashing out" and "ganging up on" happening? I have known mentally ill people to use aggressive terms like that when they were ignored, because due to their lack of skills and emotional regulation being ignored feels threatening and scary to them, but I haven't actually seen posters describing such aggressive acts.

DP - the one whose sister is dating a pedophile - I’m waiting for the answer to this question, too. Or am I just “immature” and “lashing out” because I don’t want my children around someone who has literally been arrested for possession of child pornography?

DP. Obviously pedophiles should be cut off. But you know very well that's not the problem here.

For example, on the "I called my mother 'unlikable' and cut her off" thread, where 2-3-4 posters are egging on the OP. A few other posters argued that name-calling wasn't a mature or productive approach and instead suggested that OP tell her mother calmly what's wrong and maybe work out a compromise about Thanksgiving etc. In other words, act like an adult. But they were shouted down.

The freaks in the Adult Children forum who can't contemplate that children could do anything wrong, so it must always be the parents' fault. For example, somebody (before you start, it wasn't me) started a thread about "my son blamed me to his therapist" and was met with a shrill chorus about how everything is always the parents' fault and the son shouldn't be expected to own his own choices.

That isn’t what people said on that thread.

Did your family cut you off because you change facts to fit your story? They got tired of the lies?

Sadly, your hyper-dramatic lies, accusations and DCUM telepathy are instantly recognizable. I see you found the Family Relationships forum.

Nope, my family and I had a great Thanksgiving, lots of love all around. Hope the same was true for you.

You misrepresented what people said on that thread. Facts.

Do you do that often?

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Anonymous wrote:I see we've gotten to the point where the cut-off boomers are complaining about being cut off. Look in the mirror. You earned it.

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Anonymous wrote:It sounds to me like a lot of people on here are seeking approval for lashing out at and participating in ganging up on others in their lives. Whether or not it’s deserved. But honestly a lot of the toxicity seems to stem from the posters here, not their targeted family member. Just an observation.

I completely agree. A lot of immaturity. In pediatric terms, there are a lot of adults posting here who are exhibiting a distinct Failure To Thrive (FTT). It is sad. And maddening. I don't understand all of the lashing out and the instigation. On the other hand, it doesn't seem to represent a large part of the population in real life. Just the few on DCUM who frequent the Family Relationships page. I often wonder if it is the same 2-3-4 people posting repeatedly.

Um, in "pediatric terms", failure to thrive is, quite literally, a growth disorder. Maybe you were hoping that posting it in capitals and initials would make it seem like something else, but it didn't work.

And here is the question I asked you/the other poster that was never answered:

Can you give some specific examples? Most of the posts I read are about posters finally deciding to distance themselves from abusive family members. Where is the "lashing out" and "ganging up on" happening? I have known mentally ill people to use aggressive terms like that when they were ignored, because due to their lack of skills and emotional regulation being ignored feels threatening and scary to them, but I haven't actually seen posters describing such aggressive acts.

DP - the one whose sister is dating a pedophile - I’m waiting for the answer to this question, too. Or am I just “immature” and “lashing out” because I don’t want my children around someone who has literally been arrested for possession of child pornography?

DP. Obviously pedophiles should be cut off. But you know very well that's not the problem here.

For example, on the "I called my mother 'unlikable' and cut her off" thread, where 2-3-4 posters are egging on the OP. A few other posters argued that name-calling wasn't a mature or productive approach and instead suggested that OP tell her mother calmly what's wrong and maybe work out a compromise about Thanksgiving etc. In other words, act like an adult. But they were shouted down.

The freaks in the Adult Children forum who can't contemplate that children could do anything wrong, so it must always be the parents' fault. For example, somebody (before you start, it wasn't me) started a thread about "my son blamed me to his therapist" and was met with a shrill chorus about how everything is always the parents' fault and the son shouldn't be expected to own his own choices.

That isn’t what people said on that thread.

Did your family cut you off because you change facts to fit your story? They got tired of the lies?

Sadly, your hyper-dramatic lies, accusations and DCUM telepathy are instantly recognizable. I see you found the Family Relationships forum.

Nope, my family and I had a great Thanksgiving, lots of love all around. Hope the same was true for you.

You misrepresented what people said on that thread. Facts.

Do you do that often?

Nope, I was quite accurate. One of you freaks even said that you always side with the adult children because it's almost always the parents' fault. You strip adult children of any agency or responsibility for their own actions.

Anyway, you're disgusting to argue with. You lie, you accuse, and you make up stuff about other posters (no, neither of my two kids has cut me off, in fact we just spent a warm and loving Thanksgiving together).

Have fun wrecking the rest of this thread, I won't engage with you sociopaths.

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Anonymous wrote:It sounds to me like a lot of people on here are seeking approval for lashing out at and participating in ganging up on others in their lives. Whether or not it’s deserved. But honestly a lot of the toxicity seems to stem from the posters here, not their targeted family member. Just an observation.

I completely agree. A lot of immaturity. In pediatric terms, there are a lot of adults posting here who are exhibiting a distinct Failure To Thrive (FTT). It is sad. And maddening. I don't understand all of the lashing out and the instigation. On the other hand, it doesn't seem to represent a large part of the population in real life. Just the few on DCUM who frequent the Family Relationships page. I often wonder if it is the same 2-3-4 people posting repeatedly.

Um, in "pediatric terms", failure to thrive is, quite literally, a growth disorder. Maybe you were hoping that posting it in capitals and initials would make it seem like something else, but it didn't work.

And here is the question I asked you/the other poster that was never answered:

Can you give some specific examples? Most of the posts I read are about posters finally deciding to distance themselves from abusive family members. Where is the "lashing out" and "ganging up on" happening? I have known mentally ill people to use aggressive terms like that when they were ignored, because due to their lack of skills and emotional regulation being ignored feels threatening and scary to them, but I haven't actually seen posters describing such aggressive acts.

DP - the one whose sister is dating a pedophile - I’m waiting for the answer to this question, too. Or am I just “immature” and “lashing out” because I don’t want my children around someone who has literally been arrested for possession of child pornography?

DP. Obviously pedophiles should be cut off. But you know very well that's not the problem here.

For example, on the "I called my mother 'unlikable' and cut her off" thread, where 2-3-4 posters are egging on the OP. A few other posters argued that name-calling wasn't a mature or productive approach and instead suggested that OP tell her mother calmly what's wrong and maybe work out a compromise about Thanksgiving etc. In other words, act like an adult. But they were shouted down.

The freaks in the Adult Children forum who can't contemplate that children could do anything wrong, so it must always be the parents' fault. For example, somebody (before you start, it wasn't me) started a thread about "my son blamed me to his therapist" and was met with a shrill chorus about how everything is always the parents' fault and the son shouldn't be expected to own his own choices.

That isn’t what people said on that thread.

Did your family cut you off because you change facts to fit your story? They got tired of the lies?

Sadly, your hyper-dramatic lies, accusations and DCUM telepathy are instantly recognizable. I see you found the Family Relationships forum.

Nope, my family and I had a great Thanksgiving, lots of love all around. Hope the same was true for you.

You misrepresented what people said on that thread. Facts.

Do you do that often?

Nope, I was quite accurate. One of you freaks even said that you always side with the adult children because it's almost always the parents' fault. You strip adult children of any agency or responsibility for their own actions.

Anyway, you're disgusting to argue with. You lie, you accuse, and you make up stuff about other posters (no, neither of my two kids has cut me off, in fact we just spent a warm and loving Thanksgiving together).

Have fun wrecking the rest of this thread, I won't engage with you sociopaths.

Are you ok? You seem strangely triggered by people responding to OP's question.

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Anonymous wrote:It sounds to me like a lot of people on here are seeking approval for lashing out at and participating in ganging up on others in their lives. Whether or not it’s deserved. But honestly a lot of the toxicity seems to stem from the posters here, not their targeted family member. Just an observation.

I completely agree. A lot of immaturity. In pediatric terms, there are a lot of adults posting here who are exhibiting a distinct Failure To Thrive (FTT). It is sad. And maddening. I don't understand all of the lashing out and the instigation. On the other hand, it doesn't seem to represent a large part of the population in real life. Just the few on DCUM who frequent the Family Relationships page. I often wonder if it is the same 2-3-4 people posting repeatedly.

Um, in "pediatric terms", failure to thrive is, quite literally, a growth disorder. Maybe you were hoping that posting it in capitals and initials would make it seem like something else, but it didn't work.

And here is the question I asked you/the other poster that was never answered:

Can you give some specific examples? Most of the posts I read are about posters finally deciding to distance themselves from abusive family members. Where is the "lashing out" and "ganging up on" happening? I have known mentally ill people to use aggressive terms like that when they were ignored, because due to their lack of skills and emotional regulation being ignored feels threatening and scary to them, but I haven't actually seen posters describing such aggressive acts.

DP - the one whose sister is dating a pedophile - I’m waiting for the answer to this question, too. Or am I just “immature” and “lashing out” because I don’t want my children around someone who has literally been arrested for possession of child pornography?

I don't need to give specific examples. Just read the posts. Read your post, for that matter. You're clearly instigating. I could cite post for post and you will still scream and stomp because that's your way. If you don't see that you're consistently lashing out then that's your problem. Either way, people like you are the people who need to get into therapy asap and start working on why everyone else is a problem and you're not.

So, PP, just so we're all clear, the post above yours is an example of someone "instigating", "screaming and stomping", and "lashing out"? It is also an example of someone who "needs therapy"?

Not that PP, but "yes" to all the above.

Oh, OK. You’re clueless. We get it now.

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Anonymous wrote:It sounds to me like a lot of people on here are seeking approval for lashing out at and participating in ganging up on others in their lives. Whether or not it’s deserved. But honestly a lot of the toxicity seems to stem from the posters here, not their targeted family member. Just an observation.

I completely agree. A lot of immaturity. In pediatric terms, there are a lot of adults posting here who are exhibiting a distinct Failure To Thrive (FTT). It is sad. And maddening. I don't understand all of the lashing out and the instigation. On the other hand, it doesn't seem to represent a large part of the population in real life. Just the few on DCUM who frequent the Family Relationships page. I often wonder if it is the same 2-3-4 people posting repeatedly.

Um, in "pediatric terms", failure to thrive is, quite literally, a growth disorder. Maybe you were hoping that posting it in capitals and initials would make it seem like something else, but it didn't work.

And here is the question I asked you/the other poster that was never answered:

Can you give some specific examples? Most of the posts I read are about posters finally deciding to distance themselves from abusive family members. Where is the "lashing out" and "ganging up on" happening? I have known mentally ill people to use aggressive terms like that when they were ignored, because due to their lack of skills and emotional regulation being ignored feels threatening and scary to them, but I haven't actually seen posters describing such aggressive acts.

DP - the one whose sister is dating a pedophile - I’m waiting for the answer to this question, too. Or am I just “immature” and “lashing out” because I don’t want my children around someone who has literally been arrested for possession of child pornography?

DP. Obviously pedophiles should be cut off. But you know very well that's not the problem here.

For example, on the "I called my mother 'unlikable' and cut her off" thread, where 2-3-4 posters are egging on the OP. A few other posters argued that name-calling wasn't a mature or productive approach and instead suggested that OP tell her mother calmly what's wrong and maybe work out a compromise about Thanksgiving etc. In other words, act like an adult. But they were shouted down.

The freaks in the Adult Children forum who can't contemplate that children could do anything wrong, so it must always be the parents' fault. For example, somebody (before you start, it wasn't me) started a thread about "my son blamed me to his therapist" and was met with a shrill chorus about how everything is always the parents' fault and the son shouldn't be expected to own his own choices.

That isn’t what people said on that thread.

Did your family cut you off because you change facts to fit your story? They got tired of the lies?

Sadly, your hyper-dramatic lies, accusations and DCUM telepathy are instantly recognizable. I see you found the Family Relationships forum.

Nope, my family and I had a great Thanksgiving, lots of love all around. Hope the same was true for you.

You misrepresented what people said on that thread. Facts.

Do you do that often?

Nope, I was quite accurate. One of you freaks even said that you always side with the adult children because it's almost always the parents' fault. You strip adult children of any agency or responsibility for their own actions.

Anyway, you're disgusting to argue with. You lie, you accuse, and you make up stuff about other posters (no, neither of my two kids has cut me off, in fact we just spent a warm and loving Thanksgiving together).

Have fun wrecking the rest of this thread, I won't engage with you sociopaths.

Interesting that you are in the "cut people off" thread, what made you come in?

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Anonymous wrote:It sounds to me like a lot of people on here are seeking approval for lashing out at and participating in ganging up on others in their lives. Whether or not it’s deserved. But honestly a lot of the toxicity seems to stem from the posters here, not their targeted family member. Just an observation.

I completely agree. A lot of immaturity. In pediatric terms, there are a lot of adults posting here who are exhibiting a distinct Failure To Thrive (FTT). It is sad. And maddening. I don't understand all of the lashing out and the instigation. On the other hand, it doesn't seem to represent a large part of the population in real life. Just the few on DCUM who frequent the Family Relationships page. I often wonder if it is the same 2-3-4 people posting repeatedly.

Um, in "pediatric terms", failure to thrive is, quite literally, a growth disorder. Maybe you were hoping that posting it in capitals and initials would make it seem like something else, but it didn't work.

And here is the question I asked you/the other poster that was never answered:

Can you give some specific examples? Most of the posts I read are about posters finally deciding to distance themselves from abusive family members. Where is the "lashing out" and "ganging up on" happening? I have known mentally ill people to use aggressive terms like that when they were ignored, because due to their lack of skills and emotional regulation being ignored feels threatening and scary to them, but I haven't actually seen posters describing such aggressive acts.

DP - the one whose sister is dating a pedophile - I’m waiting for the answer to this question, too. Or am I just “immature” and “lashing out” because I don’t want my children around someone who has literally been arrested for possession of child pornography?

DP. Obviously pedophiles should be cut off. But you know very well that's not the problem here.

For example, on the "I called my mother 'unlikable' and cut her off" thread, where 2-3-4 posters are egging on the OP. A few other posters argued that name-calling wasn't a mature or productive approach and instead suggested that OP tell her mother calmly what's wrong and maybe work out a compromise about Thanksgiving etc. In other words, act like an adult. But they were shouted down.

The freaks in the Adult Children forum who can't contemplate that children could do anything wrong, so it must always be the parents' fault. For example, somebody (before you start, it wasn't me) started a thread about "my son blamed me to his therapist" and was met with a shrill chorus about how everything is always the parents' fault and the son shouldn't be expected to own his own choices.

That isn’t what people said on that thread.

Did your family cut you off because you change facts to fit your story? They got tired of the lies?

Sadly, your hyper-dramatic lies, accusations and DCUM telepathy are instantly recognizable. I see you found the Family Relationships forum.

Nope, my family and I had a great Thanksgiving, lots of love all around. Hope the same was true for you.

You misrepresented what people said on that thread. Facts.

Do you do that often?

Nope, I was quite accurate. One of you freaks even said that you always side with the adult children because it's almost always the parents' fault. You strip adult children of any agency or responsibility for their own actions.

Anyway, you're disgusting to argue with. You lie, you accuse, and you make up stuff about other posters (no, neither of my two kids has cut me off, in fact we just spent a warm and loving Thanksgiving together).

Have fun wrecking the rest of this thread, I won't engage with you sociopaths.

Are you cutting us off??

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Anonymous wrote:It sounds to me like a lot of people on here are seeking approval for lashing out at and participating in ganging up on others in their lives. Whether or not it’s deserved. But honestly a lot of the toxicity seems to stem from the posters here, not their targeted family member. Just an observation.

I completely agree. A lot of immaturity. In pediatric terms, there are a lot of adults posting here who are exhibiting a distinct Failure To Thrive (FTT). It is sad. And maddening. I don't understand all of the lashing out and the instigation. On the other hand, it doesn't seem to represent a large part of the population in real life. Just the few on DCUM who frequent the Family Relationships page. I often wonder if it is the same 2-3-4 people posting repeatedly.

Um, in "pediatric terms", failure to thrive is, quite literally, a growth disorder. Maybe you were hoping that posting it in capitals and initials would make it seem like something else, but it didn't work.

And here is the question I asked you/the other poster that was never answered:

Can you give some specific examples? Most of the posts I read are about posters finally deciding to distance themselves from abusive family members. Where is the "lashing out" and "ganging up on" happening? I have known mentally ill people to use aggressive terms like that when they were ignored, because due to their lack of skills and emotional regulation being ignored feels threatening and scary to them, but I haven't actually seen posters describing such aggressive acts.

DP - the one whose sister is dating a pedophile - I’m waiting for the answer to this question, too. Or am I just “immature” and “lashing out” because I don’t want my children around someone who has literally been arrested for possession of child pornography?

DP. Obviously pedophiles should be cut off. But you know very well that's not the problem here.

For example, on the "I called my mother 'unlikable' and cut her off" thread, where 2-3-4 posters are egging on the OP. A few other posters argued that name-calling wasn't a mature or productive approach and instead suggested that OP tell her mother calmly what's wrong and maybe work out a compromise about Thanksgiving etc. In other words, act like an adult. But they were shouted down.

The freaks in the Adult Children forum who can't contemplate that children could do anything wrong, so it must always be the parents' fault. For example, somebody (before you start, it wasn't me) started a thread about "my son blamed me to his therapist" and was met with a shrill chorus about how everything is always the parents' fault and the son shouldn't be expected to own his own choices.

That isn’t what people said on that thread.

Did your family cut you off because you change facts to fit your story? They got tired of the lies?

Sadly, your hyper-dramatic lies, accusations and DCUM telepathy are instantly recognizable. I see you found the Family Relationships forum.

Nope, my family and I had a great Thanksgiving, lots of love all around. Hope the same was true for you.

You misrepresented what people said on that thread. Facts.

Do you do that often?

Nope, I was quite accurate. One of you freaks even said that you always side with the adult children because it's almost always the parents' fault. You strip adult children of any agency or responsibility for their own actions.

Anyway, you're disgusting to argue with. You lie, you accuse, and you make up stuff about other posters (no, neither of my two kids has cut me off, in fact we just spent a warm and loving Thanksgiving together).

Have fun wrecking the rest of this thread, I won't engage with you sociopaths.

Are you cutting us off??