For those who have “cut other people off,” what did the person do to deserve it?

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If someone decides someone else brings turmoil and negativity to their life, that is enough- whatever their reason is.

I'm a firm believer of surrounding yourself with people you love, enjoy being around, and equally love and respect you.

Just because "family" doesn't mean you have to tolerate a relationship that makes you feel terrible.

You're missing the point. If someone else brings turmoil and negativity, you have a choice. You can cut them off, or you can set boundaries and try to compromise and work for change.

Also there's an issue in defining "turmoil and negativity." Does mom's desire to spend Thanksgiving with the grandkids really fall into that bucket?

Each individual can define turmoil and negativity. That’s the beauty of it all.

And some individuals define the slightest offense or misunderstanding as “turmoil and negativity”. Just because they can define it themselves doesn’t mean they are right.

+100. Some of these stories are legitimately awful. Other times the poster sounds like a spoiled brat who didn't get their way (mom wants to come for Thanksgiving, the nerve!).

No one was cut off just because they wanted to come for thanksgiving.

Seriously. OMG, give it a rest. It's so embarrassing how you lie.

DP. A number of posters thought that thread was ridiculous.

The same poster is posting these ridiculous lies about “cults” and lying that people “cut off grandparents because they wanted to come for thanksgiving.” No. Sorry.

What is wrong with you? Why aren't you going after the poster who claims someone urged a poster to stay with her rapist? Drama much?

Liar. No one claimed that “someone urged a poster to stay with their rapist”. Why lie when we can all clearly see what was posted?

You should apologize to everyone on the threads for your lies.

Who's the liar? 18:39: "PP is encouraging the PP to stay in touch with family who chose a rapist over their own kid."

You can apologize now.

Thanks for proving my point. That says “stay in touch with family”, not “stay in touch with the rapist”.

Still waiting on that apology.

Bullying and obsession are not healthy behaviors, pp.

Calling out a liar isn’t “bullying”.

Word. Let this thread be a living document of what it's like to have mentally ill family members who try to gaslight you.

Was just going to post this. I had been avoiding this thread but finally clicked on it and it was exactly what I expected it to be.

So many posters tell on themselves.

It's interesting because I think many of them believe their own lies. That's why no contact is truly the only choice for many people, because there is no hope for change in their ill family member(s).

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Anonymous wrote:Does it matter?

If someone decides someone else brings turmoil and negativity to their life, that is enough- whatever their reason is.

I'm a firm believer of surrounding yourself with people you love, enjoy being around, and equally love and respect you.

Just because "family" doesn't mean you have to tolerate a relationship that makes you feel terrible.

You're missing the point. If someone else brings turmoil and negativity, you have a choice. You can cut them off, or you can set boundaries and try to compromise and work for change.

Also there's an issue in defining "turmoil and negativity." Does mom's desire to spend Thanksgiving with the grandkids really fall into that bucket?

Each individual can define turmoil and negativity. That’s the beauty of it all.

And some individuals define the slightest offense or misunderstanding as “turmoil and negativity”. Just because they can define it themselves doesn’t mean they are right.

+100. Some of these stories are legitimately awful. Other times the poster sounds like a spoiled brat who didn't get their way (mom wants to come for Thanksgiving, the nerve!).

No one was cut off just because they wanted to come for thanksgiving.

Seriously. OMG, give it a rest. It's so embarrassing how you lie.

DP. A number of posters thought that thread was ridiculous.

The same poster is posting these ridiculous lies about “cults” and lying that people “cut off grandparents because they wanted to come for thanksgiving.” No. Sorry.

What is wrong with you? Why aren't you going after the poster who claims someone urged a poster to stay with her rapist? Drama much?

Liar. No one claimed that “someone urged a poster to stay with their rapist”. Why lie when we can all clearly see what was posted?

You should apologize to everyone on the threads for your lies.

Who's the liar? 18:39: "PP is encouraging the PP to stay in touch with family who chose a rapist over their own kid."

You can apologize now.

Thanks for proving my point. That says “stay in touch with family”, not “stay in touch with the rapist”.

Still waiting on that apology.

NP but the poster about the rapist.

Why would we “stay in touch with family” that has the rapist to holiday gatherings? Leaving us out?

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Anonymous wrote:Does it matter?

If someone decides someone else brings turmoil and negativity to their life, that is enough- whatever their reason is.

I'm a firm believer of surrounding yourself with people you love, enjoy being around, and equally love and respect you.

Just because "family" doesn't mean you have to tolerate a relationship that makes you feel terrible.

You're missing the point. If someone else brings turmoil and negativity, you have a choice. You can cut them off, or you can set boundaries and try to compromise and work for change.

Also there's an issue in defining "turmoil and negativity." Does mom's desire to spend Thanksgiving with the grandkids really fall into that bucket?

Each individual can define turmoil and negativity. That’s the beauty of it all.

And some individuals define the slightest offense or misunderstanding as “turmoil and negativity”. Just because they can define it themselves doesn’t mean they are right.

+100. Some of these stories are legitimately awful. Other times the poster sounds like a spoiled brat who didn't get their way (mom wants to come for Thanksgiving, the nerve!).

No one was cut off just because they wanted to come for thanksgiving.

Seriously. OMG, give it a rest. It's so embarrassing how you lie.

DP. A number of posters thought that thread was ridiculous.

The same poster is posting these ridiculous lies about “cults” and lying that people “cut off grandparents because they wanted to come for thanksgiving.” No. Sorry.

What is wrong with you? Why aren't you going after the poster who claims someone urged a poster to stay with her rapist? Drama much?

Liar. No one claimed that “someone urged a poster to stay with their rapist”. Why lie when we can all clearly see what was posted?

You should apologize to everyone on the threads for your lies.

Who's the liar? 18:39: "PP is encouraging the PP to stay in touch with family who chose a rapist over their own kid."

You can apologize now.

Thanks for proving my point. That says “stay in touch with family”, not “stay in touch with the rapist”.

Still waiting on that apology.

Bullying and obsession are not healthy behaviors, pp.

Calling out a liar isn’t “bullying”.

Word. Let this thread be a living document of what it's like to have mentally ill family members who try to gaslight you.

Was just going to post this. I had been avoiding this thread but finally clicked on it and it was exactly what I expected it to be.

So many posters tell on themselves.

It's interesting because I think many of them believe their own lies. That's why no contact is truly the only choice for many people, because there is no hope for change in their ill family member(s).

+1

It’s surreal because sometimes the lies are so blatant. As shown multiple times on this thread.

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Anonymous wrote:Does it matter?

If someone decides someone else brings turmoil and negativity to their life, that is enough- whatever their reason is.

I'm a firm believer of surrounding yourself with people you love, enjoy being around, and equally love and respect you.

Just because "family" doesn't mean you have to tolerate a relationship that makes you feel terrible.

You're missing the point. If someone else brings turmoil and negativity, you have a choice. You can cut them off, or you can set boundaries and try to compromise and work for change.

Also there's an issue in defining "turmoil and negativity." Does mom's desire to spend Thanksgiving with the grandkids really fall into that bucket?

Each individual can define turmoil and negativity. That’s the beauty of it all.

And some individuals define the slightest offense or misunderstanding as “turmoil and negativity”. Just because they can define it themselves doesn’t mean they are right.

+100. Some of these stories are legitimately awful. Other times the poster sounds like a spoiled brat who didn't get their way (mom wants to come for Thanksgiving, the nerve!).

No one was cut off just because they wanted to come for thanksgiving.

Seriously. OMG, give it a rest. It's so embarrassing how you lie.

DP. A number of posters thought that thread was ridiculous.

The same poster is posting these ridiculous lies about “cults” and lying that people “cut off grandparents because they wanted to come for thanksgiving.” No. Sorry.

What is wrong with you? Why aren't you going after the poster who claims someone urged a poster to stay with her rapist? Drama much?

Liar. No one claimed that “someone urged a poster to stay with their rapist”. Why lie when we can all clearly see what was posted?

You should apologize to everyone on the threads for your lies.

Who's the liar? 18:39: "PP is encouraging the PP to stay in touch with family who chose a rapist over their own kid."

You can apologize now.

Thanks for proving my point. That says “stay in touch with family”, not “stay in touch with the rapist”.

Still waiting on that apology.

Bullying and obsession are not healthy behaviors, pp.

Calling out a liar isn’t “bullying”.

Word. Let this thread be a living document of what it's like to have mentally ill family members who try to gaslight you.

Was just going to post this. I had been avoiding this thread but finally clicked on it and it was exactly what I expected it to be.

So many posters tell on themselves.

It's interesting because I think many of them believe their own lies. That's why no contact is truly the only choice for many people, because there is no hope for change in their ill family member(s).

+1

It’s surreal because sometimes the lies are so blatant. As shown multiple times on this thread.

How many posts here lambasting posters for having their own POVs about what was said? You've gone on for several pages now. You also get Jeff to remove posts you don't like.

Do you see a problem with your own behavior?