To tired of smug moms-of-3-under 35

[Anonymous]

Hope do you think they're smug? Maybe they're just living their best lives and not really smugging

[Anonymous]

OP - you are being incredibly smug being so sure of yourself, so sure you know what they are thinking!

[Anonymous]

I pity anyone who has 3 kid by any age. 3 is a nightmare.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It’s funny because there are several reports out regarding population and the under 40 population or having fewer kids in ever in recorded history. It’s usually only in low income areas that you find multiple children or even any children under 30 or even 35. If they I have three children and are under 35 and are smug, they have a rude awakening as they continue to age.

What rude awakening?

[Anonymous]

Who is smug about having a family? I had 3 kids in my 30s. I think everyone we know who really wanted to have kids had them.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:They are still pretty young OP, they will be much less smug at 45.

Haha, very true

Yeah, no. Quite happy as a mom of three including two teens at 44.

Regardless, OP, if someone is judging you for your life path or making you feel bad, distance yourself. You can’t change other people but you don’t have to interact with rudeness.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I’m so tired of the privileged women who married their rich husband at 29 or 30 and were able to have the good marriage, financial standing and the good luck of fertility to be able to have like 3 children by the time they’re 35. They’re so smug and look down on the rest of us who did not find a partner by 30 or did but had to divorce OR did marry by 30 but has infertility so hasn’t had children yet.

Yes, you got lucky enough to have everything align perfectly for you, don’t judge those who weren’t that lucky!!

Why do you care? There is something inside of you that is broken and you need it fixed. You run your race. Who cares what others run? Someone will always be better or have things you don't so what?

Hmm, I more got the feeling that OP has a rather toxic group of friends.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I’m so tired of the privileged women who married their rich husband at 29 or 30 and were able to have the good marriage, financial standing and the good luck of fertility to be able to have like 3 children by the time they’re 35. They’re so smug and look down on the rest of us who did not find a partner by 30 or did but had to divorce OR did marry by 30 but has infertility so hasn’t had children yet.

Yes, you got lucky enough to have everything align perfectly for you, don’t judge those who weren’t that lucky!!

They marry their rich mid-40s husbands at 24-26 and they start popping babies out at 27 at the latest. Anyway, let them be smug. It's a good life if you can get it, but who wants to hit 40 and be married to a 60 year old? Plus you likely have to deal with step kids and a first wife who's got no inclination to make anything easy for you. Everything is a trade off. You need to get over it and stop hanging around these kind of women if their attitude is getting to you.

This is a cliche.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Weird.

I had my 3rd at 37 but I have Botox and I'm super fit so you'd never know the difference and I assure you I'm in the weeds just trying to keep my head above water and my marriage in tact over here. I'm not smug. My fertility is a blessing, true. My husband wasn't wealthy but is a high earner. Also turned out to be narcissistic, particularly in ways that make it impossible to have a healthy relationship with him. And no, I didn't know. He's diabolical in his duplicity.

Idk. I haven't sat around worrying about people looking down on me since I was a young teen so I can't relate at all to your predicament.

I love this so much.

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Anonymous wrote:3+ kids is selfish and irresponsible. I wish society would stop glorifying it.

America's birthrate isn't at replacement level. Someone is going to have to pay for your social security someday. Maybe you should be thanking those who are willing to have more than two.

Nah. I'm good. I don't have any expectation of receiving social security anyway. They will have it means-tested by then. People who are counting on it should be worried though! Especially after they spend all their money on their 3+ kids! Hope they will support you in your old age!

I don’t need my 3 kids to support me . Plus, I absolutely love having a family of 5. You, however, sound like a sad, miserable, old woman. Enjoy being an old bag!

We will all be old one day.

No, some will never be old. Unfortunately and tragically

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I pity anyone who has 3 kid by any age. 3 is a nightmare.

Sorry you couldn't handle it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I pity anyone who has 3 kid by any age. 3 is a nightmare.

Sorry you couldn't handle it.

It’s simple division. 3 kids will get less adult attention than 2 kids will, and those 2 will get less than 1 kid will. Same with resources.

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Anonymous wrote:I pity anyone who has 3 kid by any age. 3 is a nightmare.

Sorry you couldn't handle it.

It’s simple division. 3 kids will get less adult attention than 2 kids will, and those 2 will get less than 1 kid will. Same with resources.

Less adult attention isn’t always a negative, and resources just depends on the family. Some families with five kids have more financial resources than a family with one.

[Anonymous]

How are you even around these people enough to be worked up about this? You don’t have to spend time with people you don’t like. Just nod and snail and move on if you are at the same event.

[Anonymous]

I did have 3 kids in my 30s and now I have 3 kids in my 40s. Everyone we interact with has kids so no one would act smug about having kids. My oldest is now 13. We have friends who have kids in college and high school. I don’t think anyone really cares about the family status of others. I know I don’t.

I met some childless people yesterday. I asked what they liked to do and they said they stayed home a lot and cooked. I don’t think they played sports, hiked or even traveled. As a married mom of 3, I go out with friends at least once a week, once with my husband and multiple times with my kids. Did they think I was smug? I hope not. I did think they were kind of boring.