To tired of smug moms-of-3-under 35

[Anonymous]

I’m so tired of the privileged women who married their rich husband at 29 or 30 and were able to have the good marriage, financial standing and the good luck of fertility to be able to have like 3 children by the time they’re 35. They’re so smug and look down on the rest of us who did not find a partner by 30 or did but had to divorce OR did marry by 30 but has infertility so hasn’t had children yet.

Yes, you got lucky enough to have everything align perfectly for you, don’t judge those who weren’t that lucky!!

[Anonymous]

This sounds like your issue. Not everyone even wants 3 children by 35.

[Anonymous]

I am sorry OP! It's hard to be around people who act that way about their choices. If this is one specific person, try to just distance yourself from them. I have had to do that with a few people in my life and I am muuuuuch happier!!!!

[Anonymous]

How do they have 3 children in 5 years is it ibf

[Anonymous]

I’m sorry things haven’t happened the way you hope (truly)…but no one is judging you or feeling smug about your circumstances

[Anonymous]

I’d be sad if I had three children by 35. Way too many kids too fast for me. The point being—ignore it.

[Anonymous]

They are still pretty young OP, they will be much less smug at 45.

[Anonymous]

I thought you were talking about people who have three kids who are all younger than 35. Like when people say they have three under five, haha.

[Anonymous]

I did this and don’t think I have ever been smug. You know who has been smug to me? Moms who had their kids and 39 and 41 - treating me like a teen mom even though I was a married homeowning lawyer before my first kid.

Point is: smug people are smug. Life choices don’t make them that way; they just are that way.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:They are still pretty young OP, they will be much less smug at 45.

Haha, very true

[Anonymous]

It’s funny because there are several reports out regarding population and the under 40 population or having fewer kids in ever in recorded history. It’s usually only in low income areas that you find multiple children or even any children under 30 or even 35. If they I have three children and are under 35 and are smug, they have a rude awakening as they continue to age.

[Anonymous]

I married a rich guy at 29 and had three kids by 35. My life is kind of a nightmare. Believe me I'm not looking down on ANYONE.

[Anonymous]

What kinds of things are these people doing/saying?

[Anonymous]

Hmm. I had my first in grad school when we were POOR, because I really wanted a child and knew we could give him a loving family. He was born with special needs and I had to quit my job. We've had a happy life, and more kids, but it wasn't the large house+nice cars+high HHI you're thinking of. MOST families in the US don't have the life you're thinking about, let alone most families in the world.

Stop whining, OP. It's very unbecoming.

[Anonymous]

I think about 10% of people are just jerks. That includes young moms with lots of kids and older moms with fewer kids and people with no kids at all.
Don’t let the turkeys get you down, OP. It’s trite, but true. Your life choices are valid and it doesn’t matter if someone judges you for them or rubs their #blessed in your face. Don’t let them have free rent in your head.