To tired of smug moms-of-3-under 35

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I did this and don’t think I have ever been smug. You know who has been smug to me? Moms who had their kids and 39 and 41 - treating me like a teen mom even though I was a married homeowning lawyer before my first kid.

Point is: smug people are smug. Life choices don’t make them that way; they just are that way.

+1 This is the answer.

[Anonymous]

So sick of these posts. We have a large family and carpool for many activites and its funny the family that does the least amount of driving is the family with ONE child. For some reason their careers/lives are more improtant than ours. Also, every season my spouse or I volunteer to coach for one of our kids sports...while the parents with 1-2 kids sit on the side and watch. And no I don't have a nanny "raising" my kids as one poster said. Those do exist but also exist with 2 kids!

I feel like people who trash 3+ kids are ones who would really like to have had 3+ but can barely handle 1-2 so they want to make those that can feel bad.

I also add there is smugginess everywhere you go and if you aren't comfortable in your own skin then you are going to be a very sad person.

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Anonymous wrote:I will never, ever be jealous of people with 3+ kids. Can’t imagine feeling jealous of overbreeders.

It’s funny how parents of 1-2 kids trash 3+ers on here all the time but never the other way around. I have to assume you think it’s okay because you’re punching up.

LOL no. We have your number and no longer deal with you because you’re always trying to foist kids off on others. You always claim “The Village” but you contribute nothing. You’re takers and no one wants to be around you.

[Anonymous]

Truth!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Fascinating reading these crazy posts. I feel like Jane Goodall.

+1. No one I know in real life is smug about their or others' life choices and luck.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’m so tired of the privileged women who married their rich husband at 29 or 30 and were able to have the good marriage, financial standing and the good luck of fertility to be able to have like 3 children by the time they’re 35. They’re so smug and look down on the rest of us who did not find a partner by 30 or did but had to divorce OR did marry by 30 but has infertility so hasn’t had children yet.

Yes, you got lucky enough to have everything align perfectly for you, don’t judge those who weren’t that lucky!!

Jealousy and envy are self destructive emotions.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:So sick of these posts. We have a large family and carpool for many activites and its funny the family that does the least amount of driving is the family with ONE child. For some reason their careers/lives are more improtant than ours. Also, every season my spouse or I volunteer to coach for one of our kids sports...while the parents with 1-2 kids sit on the side and watch. And no I don't have a nanny "raising" my kids as one poster said. Those do exist but also exist with 2 kids!

I feel like people who trash 3+ kids are ones who would really like to have had 3+ but can barely handle 1-2 so they want to make those that can feel bad.

I also add there is smugginess everywhere you go and if you aren't comfortable in your own skin then you are going to be a very sad person.

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Anonymous wrote:I will never, ever be jealous of people with 3+ kids. Can’t imagine feeling jealous of overbreeders.

It’s funny how parents of 1-2 kids trash 3+ers on here all the time but never the other way around. I have to assume you think it’s okay because you’re punching up.

+1. There are smug people who feel they made the best choice who have 1,2, and 3 children…and some of them had them young and some of them had them old. There wealthy smug people and poor smug people! People come in all shapes and sizes and levels of smugness. Try not to let your insecurities or projections play into interactions with others, and distance yourself from people who go out of their way to be rude or smug to you, OP.

I was lucky enough to have three kids by 35 but I’m not smug about that. I’m a working mom trying my absolute best in my marriage, as a mom, and in my career. I try to be nice to everyone and I definitely don’t judge people on how many kids they have, if they have kids, or when they had kids. That’s way too banal.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This sounds like your issue. Not everyone even wants 3 children by 35.

Jealousy!!!!!!! And they get exactly what by posting here? Validation? I don't think so.

[Anonymous]

People

Do not have kids

For your mental well-being, do not have kids if you are not ready

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:This is an old post and I’m not sure why it’s being revisited now. But as someone who was under 35 and a mom of 3…has it ever occurred to you that I was just living my own life? Nothing smug about it, aside from the normal self-pride that we all - I hope - have…

Sure - you’re fine.

So long as you are not all over social media, rubbing it in everyone’s faces and making a spectacle of your kids.

Social media is toxic.

Who died and made you boss? Stay off social media if you can't handle other people's lives.

[Anonymous]

It is societal norm to be married and have 2-3 kids by age 35, before advanced maternal age. If you are at least average looking and have a good personality, there is no reason why you couldn’t have gotten married and had a few kids by age 35.

You are the problem, OP.

[Anonymous]

I had three kids before 36. My third kid has special needs and I’ve been stressed since I had him. Love all them with all my heart, but I’m not smug. I’m struggling just like everyone else.

[Anonymous]

"Smug moms-of-3-under 35"
It's not a thing

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It is societal norm to be married and have 2-3 kids by age 35, before advanced maternal age. If you are at least average looking and have a good personality, there is no reason why you couldn’t have gotten married and had a few kids by age 35.

You are the problem, OP.

Totally agree with this!

BUT
As a mom of 2 (15 and 10 yo) who values a comprehensive life that is more than just raising kids - I chuckle when I congratulate my younger colleagues on their 3rd pregnancy before they're 35 that puts them squarely in the 3 kids under 5 before 35 category. I say "I'm so happy for you. Just remember, you did this to yourself." And I mean it! Two is definitely my max!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It is societal norm to be married and have 2-3 kids by age 35, before advanced maternal age. If you are at least average looking and have a good personality, there is no reason why you couldn’t have gotten married and had a few kids by age 35.

You are the problem, OP.

Totally agree with this!

BUT
As a mom of 2 (15 and 10 yo) who values a comprehensive life that is more than just raising kids - I chuckle when I congratulate my younger colleagues on their 3rd pregnancy before they're 35 that puts them squarely in the 3 kids under 5 before 35 category. I say "I'm so happy for you. Just remember, you did this to yourself." And I mean it! Two is definitely my max!

Just leave it to "I'm so happy for you". Your max isn't everyone else's. People with 1 probably look at you like you're insane. No need to be an a-hole.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It is societal norm to be married and have 2-3 kids by age 35, before advanced maternal age. If you are at least average looking and have a good personality, there is no reason why you couldn’t have gotten married and had a few kids by age 35.

You are the problem, OP.

Totally agree with this!

BUT
As a mom of 2 (15 and 10 yo) who values a comprehensive life that is more than just raising kids - I chuckle when I congratulate my younger colleagues on their 3rd pregnancy before they're 35 that puts them squarely in the 3 kids under 5 before 35 category. I say "I'm so happy for you. Just remember, you did this to yourself." And I mean it! Two is definitely my max!

Some of us can manage a little more than you.