To tired of smug moms-of-3-under 35

[Anonymous]

OP, stop blaming an easy target for your problems. You're single in your 30s. You're unhappy as a result. You can't go back and make changes, you can only change yourself today. Yours is misplaced anger. It won't get you anywhere good.

Here's a hint: what men want from women has nothing to do with their job, or their educational level. They don't care about things much, because your money is your money and a self-respecting man doesn't want your money he wants his own money. So stop leading with those things. Who are you as a human? What qualities do you bring to the table? Kindness, compassion, a spirit of cooperation? Can you do that?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’m so tired of the privileged women who married their rich husband at 29 or 30 and were able to have the good marriage, financial standing and the good luck of fertility to be able to have like 3 children by the time they’re 35. They’re so smug and look down on the rest of us who did not find a partner by 30 or did but had to divorce OR did marry by 30 but has infertility so hasn’t had children yet.

Yes, you got lucky enough to have everything align perfectly for you, don’t judge those who weren’t that lucky!!

Wut.

What a deranged poster.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’m so tired of the privileged women who married their rich husband at 29 or 30 and were able to have the good marriage, financial standing and the good luck of fertility to be able to have like 3 children by the time they’re 35. They’re so smug and look down on the rest of us who did not find a partner by 30 or did but had to divorce OR did marry by 30 but has infertility so hasn’t had children yet.

Yes, you got lucky enough to have everything align perfectly for you, don’t judge those who weren’t that lucky!!

Why would you envy women who got married AND had 3 kids in 5 years?

[Anonymous]

They wouldn't have time to pity random women for their inability to replicate their lives. Its not easy to handle 3 toddles under 5, no matter how resourceful one is.

[Anonymous]

A good friend has that but isn't smug. Her life is chaotic. The kids are chaotic. I love her but can't spend much time with them

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’m so tired of the privileged women who married their rich husband at 29 or 30 and were able to have the good marriage, financial standing and the good luck of fertility to be able to have like 3 children by the time they’re 35. They’re so smug and look down on the rest of us who did not find a partner by 30 or did but had to divorce OR did marry by 30 but has infertility so hasn’t had children yet.

Yes, you got lucky enough to have everything align perfectly for you, don’t judge those who weren’t that lucky!!

Though its true that it seems some women have all the luck. They are born with good looks into affluent families. Get plenty of attention from everyone from teachers, fellow students, eligible men, even random strangers. Everything falls into their lap and they marry similarly lucky men.

However, 10 year fast forward, every single one of them will have their own set of problems. No need to be envious. Enjoy what you have instead of crying over what you don't. Enjoy your single life, your income, your hobbies, your career, your friends. Marriage and kids aren't the only joys of life.

[Anonymous]

those moms aren't smug. and they surely aren't even thinking about you.

why are you so insecure?

[Anonymous]

I have never met a single woman like this.

[Anonymous]

It sounds like OP was jealous (I see this thread is old). -47 year old mom of elementary schoolers.

[Anonymous]

I had 3 kids by the time I was 31 and I don’t know anyone who is smug about that. Are you sure you’re not projecting? I always assume people want different things and have their own reasons for having an only or two.