Is $200K A Negative?

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Anonymous wrote:200k is ok for new grads

How much do you make? Better yet, how much does your sugar daddy make?

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$200K is pretty much my minimum for dating a guy seriously but I also make $220K and I have some issues so I figure a guy who can’t even make more than I do has even bigger issues than I do. That said it would be an exception if they were truly excelling at something I respect that’s less lucrative, like they are a research scientist, a successful musician or artist, or a serious journalist.

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Anonymous wrote:Just avoid women who have any desire to be SAH. That's a rare type of woman these days. Shouldn't be too hard. Discuss it early and be clear.

Avoid women who would rather work and have a stranger or daycare raise their kid. They won’t be very motherly or loving.

Oh please go crawl back under your rock. You're obviously insecure and defensive. I wonder why?

[Anonymous]

This is why I definitely hope my future wife is not from the dc area. It’s almost like they wear their shallowness as a badge of honor here.

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Anonymous wrote:Omg, $200k is great and anyone who says otherwise is living in a privileged bubble. We make a combined $220 and live very comfortably in Burke both working full time with multiple children. You will be fine. No one worth having a relationship with is going to turn you down because of that salary!

plus a million. You’re my kind of woman. Do you have a sister? Haha

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Anonymous wrote:OP please don’t use this board as any kind of barometer for what “most” women in DC want. It’s incredibly skewed and $200k is a great salary. I live in DC with my DH, 3 kids and a HHI of $250k (split evenly) and we live extremely well with no additional help. This board is not reflective of reality for the vast majority of people.

Then why are you replying.

She’s replying to let op know the answer to his question. What are you talking? Pp is letting op know that the crazy women on this board aren’t indicative of most women in dc on salary requests. I agree.

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Anonymous wrote:Just avoid women who have any desire to be SAH. That's a rare type of woman these days. Shouldn't be too hard. Discuss it early and be clear.

Why? What is so wrong with women who want to stay home and raise their family?

Forever dependents!

Forever not a mother since you can’t even parent your own kids. Why have kids if you’re going to have someone else raise them?

It’s so gross to me how these so called feminists are pro women until they find a woman who loves being married and stays home to raise their kid. They are only pro women when they have the same views.

I’m sorry you didn’t have a strong enough connection to your kid that you felt it was better to have a stranger raise them than be a parent to them. Clearly you’re just not the mother type. Some people actually believe in raising their own kids instead of pawning them off on strangers. I feel bad for your kids because their mom clearly doesn’t care enough to want to be an active parent in their life.

DP but maybe you should of had strangers raising your kids since you’re so condescending and off putting in really trashing someone, that it’s probably rubbing off your kids. Are you so condescending towards them?

[Anonymous]

I know women that looked for high earning spouses and they got them. The problem, they are miserable as their husbands don’t treat them like equals, have cheated on them, work late for.... If money is your first priority in a partner, you’ll regret it.

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Anonymous wrote:Depends what you think you're entitled to. Are you a 38 yr old guy who wants a thin pretty 28 yr old who is willing to put her career in the backseat to yours? Or are you a 33 yr old ready to date other 33 yr olds who also have established careers and expect to be treated as an equal?

OP here. No one is entitled to anyone or anything in this world.

I don’t have an age preference but I’m looking for a woman who is ready for marriage and kids. I’m 35 and and would prefer a woman 30-40. My only requirement is that she doesn’t have kids.

As for career, I want a woman who is ambitious and driven. I’m open to women who want to work PT to raise kids, but I’m equally fine with a woman who prefers to work. I don’t have any set preferences or expectations other than she be mature, driven, and wanting to settle down.

“I don’t have an age preference, but…”
“As for career, I want…”
“I don’t have any set preferences or expectations other than…”

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:$200K is pretty much my minimum for dating a guy seriously but I also make $220K and I have some issues so I figure a guy who can’t even make more than I do has even bigger issues than I do. That said it would be an exception if they were truly excelling at something I respect that’s less lucrative, like they are a research scientist, a successful musician or artist, or a serious journalist.

What do you bring to the table? Your paycheck? Not sure that makes up for your issues, whatever those are.

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Anonymous wrote:I know women that looked for high earning spouses and they got them. The problem, they are miserable as their husbands don’t treat them like equals, have cheated on them, work late for.... If money is your first priority in a partner, you’ll regret it.

All of my peer group from graduate school married high earning spouses (more than OP) and of the ten of us, there has been one divorce, and that was the woman who chose to give up her career. High earning partnerships of equals are more balanced than relationships in which one person feels they can throw their breadwinner status around. OP says he wants someone ambitious so he’s likely to be looking at a dual-income family— as long as he doesn’t think being a man means his career is more important than here, he will be fine.

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Anonymous wrote:I know women that looked for high earning spouses and they got them. The problem, they are miserable as their husbands don’t treat them like equals, have cheated on them, work late for.... If money is your first priority in a partner, you’ll regret it.

Trust me, spouse doesn’t treat you as equal just because you didn’t look at his paycheck. You will regret either way.

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Man, people on this thread know some weird women. Or they're making assumptions.

DH makes 575 and I'm a SAHM, so yay, but he makes that much because it's his choice. If he wanted a less intense job and to make "only" 200K, I'd just get a job or we would make tough decisions about financial priorities. I have dozens of friends who are SHAMs whose husbands make around 200K.

I'm not some kind of unicorn. I think most women are like me. The only women who wouldn't be okay with 200K are women who make much more money and want an extremely high standard of living and weirdos who insist upon living the good life without working.

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Anonymous wrote:$200K is pretty much my minimum for dating a guy seriously but I also make $220K and I have some issues so I figure a guy who can’t even make more than I do has even bigger issues than I do. That said it would be an exception if they were truly excelling at something I respect that’s less lucrative, like they are a research scientist, a successful musician or artist, or a serious journalist.

What do you bring to the table? Your paycheck? Not sure that makes up for your issues, whatever those are.

Just FYI, this is what insecure men say. Don't use that phrase unless you want to sound like one of them.

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Anonymous wrote:Oh crap, I’m a single 29 year old guy and only make 300k. I always thought my income was a plus but if 200k is a negative then I must be neutral at best. I’m gonna start working harder now.

You’re not too late to get moving on this. But your time frames are short to start making the bag. GL.