Is $200K A Negative?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Neve get married. There is no value for men to get married these days.

It’s true. Especially if your the type of guy who naturally would clean up and be good around the house. You won’t get any credit for it. Better to stay single.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm a senior loan officer for a well known bank in DC. Extremely few people actually gross more than 250k. Couples, yes, individuals, no.

I make 220k @ a small company and I am prepared to lose my job any day.
I reckon a 100k earning fed qualifies for better Mortgage than me.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Neve get married. There is no value for men to get married these days.

True. But, what's the value for women to get married these days?

Stable sex life so we can focus energy on hobbies or careers. My single friends waste a lot of time going on dates only to find incompatible men.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Neve get married. There is no value for men to get married these days.

True. But, what's the value for women to get married these days?

Stable sex life so we can focus energy on hobbies or careers. My single friends waste a lot of time going on dates only to find incompatible men.

Yeah, but most husbands cheat, or have porn addictions, other addictions, and in general give zero effs about unequal division of household labor, sooooo. Meh.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Neve get married. There is no value for men to get married these days.

True. But, what's the value for women to get married these days?

Stable sex life so we can focus energy on hobbies or careers. My single friends waste a lot of time going on dates only to find incompatible men.

Yeah, but most husbands cheat, or have porn addictions, other addictions, and in general give zero effs about unequal division of household labor, sooooo. Meh.

Mine pays his half of rent, I am not complaining.
They are all the same so not gonna bother look for someone else.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:* and I've made 400k the last two years thnaks to all of you refinancing!

But it won't lst. Feast and famine.

I’m not contradicting you, but your sample is somewhat skewed. Many people whose HHI is higher don’t use the traditional mortgage/loan officer route to finance real estate, it’s owned by trusts or businesses, not a mortgage based on individual salary.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm a senior loan officer for a well known bank in DC. Extremely few people actually gross more than 250k. Couples, yes, individuals, no.

+1 Thank you for the reality check!

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:$200k is a great salary for a true partner. It’s just okay for a man who is going to offload all the domestic work/mental labor onto his wife. Sadly OP doesn’t really know which he will be. Lots of men go into marriage with the best intentions and then do a crappy job when push comes to shove.

OP here. I will be an equal partner. I grew up with parents who were amazing role models. They have been happily married for 40+ years and were true partners with working and raising us. My dad taught us the importance of being self-sufficient and that housework was not only a woman’s job. I have carried those same values into prior relationships. I love to cook and typically have been the main cook in prior relationships. I’m a very clean person and I keep things clean. I don’t know how it will go in terms of parenting, but I will be an equal partner when I’m comes to housework and being involved with raising kids.

How long have you been out of your last relationship? Honestly, you’re a catch and you should have no problem finding someone. But it sounds like you are doubting yourself. You need to work on that. You have a lot to offer.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Neve get married. There is no value for men to get married these days.

True. But, what's the value for women to get married these days?

Stable sex life so we can focus energy on hobbies or careers. My single friends waste a lot of time going on dates only to find incompatible men.

Yeah, but most husbands cheat, or have porn addictions, other addictions, and in general give zero effs about unequal division of household labor, sooooo. Meh.

You don’t have to marry most men. Just one.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:* and I've made 400k the last two years thnaks to all of you refinancing!

But it won't lst. Feast and famine.

I’m not contradicting you, but your sample is somewhat skewed. Many people whose HHI is higher don’t use the traditional mortgage/loan officer route to finance real estate, it’s owned by trusts or businesses, not a mortgage based on individual salary.

Skewed towards the 99%? I think someone needs to take statistics.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:* and I've made 400k the last two years thnaks to all of you refinancing!

But it won't lst. Feast and famine.

I’m not contradicting you, but your sample is somewhat skewed. Many people whose HHI is higher don’t use the traditional mortgage/loan officer route to finance real estate, it’s owned by trusts or businesses, not a mortgage based on individual salary.

Skewed towards the 99%? I think someone needs to take statistics.

Skewed away from the people being discussed on this thread. Yes, of course most people who are financing their homes will make less than $200,000/person.

[Anonymous]

Granted I met dh 15 years ago but he was at 80k. I dated plenty of higher earners but I was looking for someone whose values I shared, who was intern to talk to, loyal and family oriented. Our hhi is now a very comfortable 300k. I think k if women don’t date op bec he “only” makes 200k, they’re not women he wants to be with anyway.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Neve get married. There is no value for men to get married these days.

True. But, what's the value for women to get married these days?

Stable sex life so we can focus energy on hobbies or careers. My single friends waste a lot of time going on dates only to find incompatible men.

Yeah, but most husbands cheat, or have porn addictions, other addictions, and in general give zero effs about unequal division of household labor, sooooo. Meh.

Women don’t cheat? There are just as many women who cheat as there are men.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Neve get married. There is no value for men to get married these days.

It’s true. Especially if your the type of guy who naturally would clean up and be good around the house. You won’t get any credit for it. Better to stay single.

It’s more so about divorce and less about marriage. Men have the deck stacked against them in divorce because courts usually side with mothers when it comes to custody. If if he’s a good and involved dad, he will almost always get less than 50/50 custody and have to pay child support. The main usually will lose the house, half his money, and might have to pay alimony. Divorce is high and men will lose half of their stuff and likely only get half or less than half custody of their kids. Women end up with the kids, home, and half of the mans money. Men are the ones screwed in this situation.

As to, “ what do you bring to the table?”, that’s a valid question. Too many women these days act like their P or looks will make up for everything. They expect so much from the many but bring nothing to the table. Sex will become less frequent and looks will fade - what else do you have to make the man stay? This does go for men too, but it seems women are the ones with high and unrealistic expectations but have nothing to offer.

[Anonymous]

OP is the first guy that posted here who didn’t get torn to shreds by these women on here.