Is $200K A Negative?

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Anonymous wrote:OP is the first guy that posted here who didn’t get torn to shreds by these women on here.

Guess he will do very well in dating then.

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Anonymous wrote:* and I've made 400k the last two years thnaks to all of you refinancing!

But it won't lst. Feast and famine.

I’m not contradicting you, but your sample is somewhat skewed. Many people whose HHI is higher don’t use the traditional mortgage/loan officer route to finance real estate, it’s owned by trusts or businesses, not a mortgage based on individual salary.

Skewed towards the 99%? I think someone needs to take statistics.

Skewed away from the people being discussed on this thread. Yes, of course most people who are financing their homes will make less than $200,000/person.

One would be crazy to not finance in this economy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP is the first guy that posted here who didn’t get torn to shreds by these women on here.

Because he is young and rich.

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Anonymous wrote:OP is the first guy that posted here who didn’t get torn to shreds by these women on here.

Because he is young and rich.

Because he sounds humble, nice, and caring. A guy who loves to cook and wants to be an equal partner — if I had single friends I would be lining them up!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I just moved back to the area and I’m single after getting out of a longterm relationship. I’m serious about finding a partner because I’m ready and I want a family. The only issue for me is I make about $200k/year. While that is well above the average U.S. salary, I know that is below the average DC salary, at least from what I gathered on here. I worry that my salary will be a negative for most women who want a higher earning spouse. How challenging will it be to find a potential partner with my salary?

You will find a golddigger easily (foreign au pairs care about $) and even an ova donor/womb. It will be hard for you to find love and "family" in the connotation sense. That being said, loveless marriages always come out on top on paper although they are incomplete, and those who marry for love are more whole, but often get burned.

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Anonymous wrote:* and I've made 400k the last two years thnaks to all of you refinancing!

But it won't lst. Feast and famine.

I’m not contradicting you, but your sample is somewhat skewed. Many people whose HHI is higher don’t use the traditional mortgage/loan officer route to finance real estate, it’s owned by trusts or businesses, not a mortgage based on individual salary.

Skewed towards the 99%? I think someone needs to take statistics.

Skewed away from the people being discussed on this thread. Yes, of course most people who are financing their homes will make less than $200,000/person.

One would be crazy to not finance in this economy.

Sure but you can finance through trusts and existing LLCs and not deal with your banks loan officer, is my point.

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Anonymous wrote:Neve get married. There is no value for men to get married these days.

It’s true. Especially if your the type of guy who naturally would clean up and be good around the house. You won’t get any credit for it. Better to stay single.

It’s more so about divorce and less about marriage. Men have the deck stacked against them in divorce because courts usually side with mothers when it comes to custody. If if he’s a good and involved dad, he will almost always get less than 50/50 custody and have to pay child support. The main usually will lose the house, half his money, and might have to pay alimony. Divorce is high and men will lose half of their stuff and likely only get half or less than half custody of their kids. Women end up with the kids, home, and half of the mans money. Men are the ones screwed in this situation.

As to, “ what do you bring to the table?”, that’s a valid question. Too many women these days act like their P or looks will make up for everything. They expect so much from the many but bring nothing to the table. Sex will become less frequent and looks will fade - what else do you have to make the man stay? This does go for men too, but it seems women are the ones with high and unrealistic expectations but have nothing to offer.

Yeah but women lose the lost investment of their time, looks, childbearing ability, and ability to attract another partner. They should come away with more because of that frankly. They often don’t get another act.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Neve get married. There is no value for men to get married these days.

It’s true. Especially if your the type of guy who naturally would clean up and be good around the house. You won’t get any credit for it. Better to stay single.

It’s more so about divorce and less about marriage. Men have the deck stacked against them in divorce because courts usually side with mothers when it comes to custody. If if he’s a good and involved dad, he will almost always get less than 50/50 custody and have to pay child support. The main usually will lose the house, half his money, and might have to pay alimony. Divorce is high and men will lose half of their stuff and likely only get half or less than half custody of their kids. Women end up with the kids, home, and half of the mans money. Men are the ones screwed in this situation.

As to, “ what do you bring to the table?”, that’s a valid question. Too many women these days act like their P or looks will make up for everything. They expect so much from the many but bring nothing to the table. Sex will become less frequent and looks will fade - what else do you have to make the man stay? This does go for men too, but it seems women are the ones with high and unrealistic expectations but have nothing to offer.

Plenty of women make more than OP, I doubt they care for his half.

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I didnt read the thread but I hope it’s a joke. There are a million women who would date you if you’re an otherwise good guy. And plenty of dual income feds who each make less than that in this area living nice lives.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I just moved back to the area and I’m single after getting out of a longterm relationship. I’m serious about finding a partner because I’m ready and I want a family. The only issue for me is I make about $200k/year. While that is well above the average U.S. salary, I know that is below the average DC salary, at least from what I gathered on here. I worry that my salary will be a negative for most women who want a higher earning spouse. How challenging will it be to find a potential partner with my salary?

sorry but what woman would want to date a miserable pauper like you? What are you going to bring her home to your flophouse to eat government cheese?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:$200k is a great salary for a true partner. It’s just okay for a man who is going to offload all the domestic work/mental labor onto his wife. Sadly OP doesn’t really know which he will be. Lots of men go into marriage with the best intentions and then do a crappy job when push comes to shove.

OP here. I will be an equal partner. I grew up with parents who were amazing role models. They have been happily married for 40+ years and were true partners with working and raising us. My dad taught us the importance of being self-sufficient and that housework was not only a woman’s job. I have carried those same values into prior relationships. I love to cook and typically have been the main cook in prior relationships. I’m a very clean person and I keep things clean. I don’t know how it will go in terms of parenting, but I will be an equal partner when I’m comes to housework and being involved with raising kids.

How long have you been out of your last relationship? Honestly, you’re a catch and you should have no problem finding someone. But it sounds like you are doubting yourself. You need to work on that. You have a lot to offer.

+1. You sound like a good guy and you won’t have a problem finding people to date. Good luck.

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Anonymous wrote:I just moved back to the area and I’m single after getting out of a longterm relationship. I’m serious about finding a partner because I’m ready and I want a family. The only issue for me is I make about $200k/year. While that is well above the average U.S. salary, I know that is below the average DC salary, at least from what I gathered on here. I worry that my salary will be a negative for most women who want a higher earning spouse. How challenging will it be to find a potential partner with my salary?

sorry but what woman would want to date a miserable pauper like you? What are you going to bring her home to your flophouse to eat government cheese?

Government cheese is yummy.