Is $200K A Negative?

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Anonymous wrote:Even on DCUM I think 200k is a very good salary. Most people who talk about 300k are talking HHI—- two GS 15s, or one firm lawyer and one lower salary

Um no.

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People who think a single guy earning $200k is a low salary for this area need to get out more.

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We take in 200K (I am a SAHM) and live pretty comfortably with 2 kids. Granted, we bought our house many years ago, but our income was also lower at the time. I guess it depends on how you define comfortable. If shopping at Neiman Marcus and vacationing at the Four Seasons is what you strive for, 200k won't cut it!

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Anonymous wrote:Depends what you think you're entitled to. Are you a 38 yr old guy who wants a thin pretty 28 yr old who is willing to put her career in the backseat to yours? Or are you a 33 yr old ready to date other 33 yr olds who also have established careers and expect to be treated as an equal?

OP here. No one is entitled to anyone or anything in this world.

I don’t have an age preference but I’m looking for a woman who is ready for marriage and kids. I’m 35 and and would prefer a woman 30-40. My only requirement is that she doesn’t have kids.

As for career, I want a woman who is ambitious and driven. I’m open to women who want to work PT to raise kids, but I’m equally fine with a woman who prefers to work. I don’t have any set preferences or expectations other than she be mature, driven, and wanting to settle down.

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Anonymous wrote:Just avoid women who have any desire to be SAH. That's a rare type of woman these days. Shouldn't be too hard. Discuss it early and be clear.

OP here. This is not a downside for me and many of my friends wives stay home or work PT while raising kids.

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Anonymous wrote:Just avoid women who have any desire to be SAH. That's a rare type of woman these days. Shouldn't be too hard. Discuss it early and be clear.

Why? What is so wrong with women who want to stay home and raise their family?

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Anonymous wrote:Just avoid women who have any desire to be SAH. That's a rare type of woman these days. Shouldn't be too hard. Discuss it early and be clear.

Avoid women who would rather work and have a stranger or daycare raise their kid. They won’t be very motherly or loving.

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Anonymous wrote:Are you making $200k and topped out? Or are you making $200k and have potential to be making $400k in a few years?

Also, do you expect to do 50% of the household work? Do you expect to date women making $200k or women making $85k?

You could be a catch, either as potential for someone who wants to SAH once you’re making more and is willing to put her career on the back burner later OR for someone who is driven who you are willing to be a team player with, go 50-50, and have an HHI closer to $500k and outsource more.

You also might not be a catch if you’re going to expect someone to be impressed with $200k in this area and/or sideline their own career and live on a $200k HHI here.

OP here. I live VA right outside of DC. There is potential for my salary to grow but I won’t ever make more than $250k in my field. I don’t have any expectations regarding a woman’s income. I don’t expect her to stay at home or put my career first. That’s up to her ahh if it makes sense financially down the road. A good buddy of mine has a super career driven wife who was adamant she will always work and then she quit after working PT for 6 months to raise her two boys until they go to school. Anything can happen and I don’t think that decision can be made until kids are here.

I don’t expect anyone to be impressed with my salary. The whole point of the thread was me being worried I wouldn’t make enough to attract a woman is this area.

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Omg, $200k is great and anyone who says otherwise is living in a privileged bubble. We make a combined $220 and live very comfortably in Burke both working full time with multiple children. You will be fine. No one worth having a relationship with is going to turn you down because of that salary!

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OP: in the District, in 2019, the median household income was $85,000. You're single and far above that. For your age, you are probably in the top four percent of men of any age in the US.

My advice to you is to read the threads on this board carefully, and avoid any long-term entanglements with women. Take some your income, invest it wisely, and with the rest of your income, spend it on yourself.

If you can afford a motorboat, you'll never be without plenty of female company. Just don't be dumb and marry one of them.

[Anonymous]

W...t....f....

Most women in DC have no interest in staying home. If you were a SAHM type you got married pretty much right out of college. 200K is fine.

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Anonymous wrote:W...t....f....

Most women in DC have no interest in staying home. If you were a SAHM type you got married pretty much right out of college. 200K is fine.

Lots of SAHMs in the DC suburbs, which is where OP will probably end up.

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Anonymous wrote:Just avoid women who have any desire to be SAH. That's a rare type of woman these days. Shouldn't be too hard. Discuss it early and be clear.

Avoid women who would rather work and have a stranger or daycare raise their kid. They won’t be very motherly or loving.

I’m a DP, but in DC $200k is not enough to have a nice house and send children to college without them assuming crushing debt. I don’t think having a parent home with you balances out going to a bad high school or being a quarter million dollars in debt when you graduate college. A SAHM is a huge asset (I had one!) but they need a partner whose salary enables their children to be set up for future financial security.

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I think 95 percent of women will be happy with a partner who makes 200k.

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Anonymous wrote:People who think a single guy earning $200k is a low salary for this area need to get out more.

It’s not that it’s low for the area, it’s that the area has a higher number of people who make more than $200k than most places, and that is who OP is in competition with. In a small town where only a few people make $200k he’s a more attractive prospect than here where lobbyists and consultants all make that much and our high proportion of lawyers makes even more. OP isn’t competing with the guy working checkout at Aldi, even though the aldi salary is also in the calculations to come to the average.