Who pays for the date?

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Anonymous wrote:My mom also taught me not to let a man take me out and pay for me, if I am not really interested. So men should be happy to pay for dates - it is a subtle sign the woman is attracted

Feminism, independence will play when you move in together and split serious purchases and share chores. Nobody wins from being cheap at dates.

That makes no sense. A man pays for dates to show the woman he is a provider/has resources. In the marriage there will be no expectation that a woman would contribute financially or that the man does chores. The man is not dating the woman because she makes money, has a good job or has a financial upside.

No, the man pays to show HE can contribute equally and not cheap. I live in a good house, go to nice restaurants with my girlfriends and a cheap man who “reconciles” the receipts won’t fit in my lifestyle.
When I dated my husband, he paid for dates but our first trip abroad together was split. We contribute equally in the household but he always takes out his wallet when we go out as family

+1

If a guy doesn't pay the first few dates he's not that in to you - move on.

And if a woman don't put out to thank him, then she is not that into him. Move on.

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Anonymous wrote:He pays of course! I would offer to buy snacks or incidentals on dates and be ok with that. That is more about helping logistically if you can go up and buy snacks or get something you need when out. But if he wanted to split the check at dinner or split the entire date cost, I would happily agree but then phase him out.

are ALL women like this - cheap, manipulative gold diggers?

Gold digging is asking you to assign me your house deed without making a downpayment. By allowing you to pay for dates a woman shows you her respect of your masculinity. There is a huge difference

Are you out of your mind???? Gosh, I feel bad for my son who will soon start to date. I will teach him that any woman who panders to "his masculinity" by making him pay is a fraud. Pay for your own shit lady.

I have a son, too. He is 15 abs knows he buys an ice cream for girl

If he wants to buy her ice cream, there is nothing wrong with that. We can all be generous. I have a problem with your statement above that it's somehow his duty as a man to buy, and your duty as a woman to make him feel masculine by letting him buy you stuff. What a load of crap.

x a million - exactly!

the sense of entitlement of quite a number of women here never ceases to astonish me

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Anonymous wrote:He pays of course! I would offer to buy snacks or incidentals on dates and be ok with that. That is more about helping logistically if you can go up and buy snacks or get something you need when out. But if he wanted to split the check at dinner or split the entire date cost, I would happily agree but then phase him out.

are ALL women like this - cheap, manipulative gold diggers?

Gold digging is asking you to assign me your house deed without making a downpayment. By allowing you to pay for dates a woman shows you her respect of your masculinity. There is a huge difference

Are you out of your mind???? Gosh, I feel bad for my son who will soon start to date. I will teach him that any woman who panders to "his masculinity" by making him pay is a fraud. Pay for your own shit lady.

I have a son, too. He is 15 abs knows he buys an ice cream for girl

So sons get triple the allowance of daughters?

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Anonymous wrote:He pays of course! I would offer to buy snacks or incidentals on dates and be ok with that. That is more about helping logistically if you can go up and buy snacks or get something you need when out. But if he wanted to split the check at dinner or split the entire date cost, I would happily agree but then phase him out.

are ALL women like this - cheap, manipulative gold diggers?

Gold digging is asking you to assign me your house deed without making a downpayment. By allowing you to pay for dates a woman shows you her respect of your masculinity. There is a huge difference

Are you out of your mind???? Gosh, I feel bad for my son who will soon start to date. I will teach him that any woman who panders to "his masculinity" by making him pay is a fraud. Pay for your own shit lady.

I have a son, too. He is 15 abs knows he buys an ice cream for girl

So sons get triple the allowance of daughters?

Daughters are far more expensive in teens

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Anonymous wrote:He pays of course! I would offer to buy snacks or incidentals on dates and be ok with that. That is more about helping logistically if you can go up and buy snacks or get something you need when out. But if he wanted to split the check at dinner or split the entire date cost, I would happily agree but then phase him out.

are ALL women like this - cheap, manipulative gold diggers?

Gold digging is asking you to assign me your house deed without making a downpayment. By allowing you to pay for dates a woman shows you her respect of your masculinity. There is a huge difference

Are you out of your mind???? Gosh, I feel bad for my son who will soon start to date. I will teach him that any woman who panders to "his masculinity" by making him pay is a fraud. Pay for your own shit lady.

I have a son, too. He is 15 abs knows he buys an ice cream for girl

So sons get triple the allowance of daughters?

Daughters are far more expensive in teens

What? Some tampons and a prom dress? GTFOH

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Anonymous wrote:He pays of course! I would offer to buy snacks or incidentals on dates and be ok with that. That is more about helping logistically if you can go up and buy snacks or get something you need when out. But if he wanted to split the check at dinner or split the entire date cost, I would happily agree but then phase him out.

are ALL women like this - cheap, manipulative gold diggers?

Gold digging is asking you to assign me your house deed without making a downpayment. By allowing you to pay for dates a woman shows you her respect of your masculinity. There is a huge difference

Are you out of your mind???? Gosh, I feel bad for my son who will soon start to date. I will teach him that any woman who panders to "his masculinity" by making him pay is a fraud. Pay for your own shit lady.

I have a son, too. He is 15 abs knows he buys an ice cream for girl

So sons get triple the allowance of daughters?

Daughters are far more expensive in teens

What? Some tampons and a prom dress? GTFOH

Men here are like from a different planet. Teen boys don’t care about looks, can wear anything from Walmart until it’s too small or broken. Teen girls are on Instagram, into glam life, but lots of cosmetics, hair styling, fashionable dresses and shoes. Girls are way more expensive than boys !

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Anonymous wrote:He pays of course! I would offer to buy snacks or incidentals on dates and be ok with that. That is more about helping logistically if you can go up and buy snacks or get something you need when out. But if he wanted to split the check at dinner or split the entire date cost, I would happily agree but then phase him out.

are ALL women like this - cheap, manipulative gold diggers?

Gold digging is asking you to assign me your house deed without making a downpayment. By allowing you to pay for dates a woman shows you her respect of your masculinity. There is a huge difference

Are you out of your mind???? Gosh, I feel bad for my son who will soon start to date. I will teach him that any woman who panders to "his masculinity" by making him pay is a fraud. Pay for your own shit lady.

I have a son, too. He is 15 abs knows he buys an ice cream for girl

So sons get triple the allowance of daughters?

Daughters are far more expensive in teens

What? Some tampons and a prom dress? GTFOH

Men here are like from a different planet. Teen boys don’t care about looks, can wear anything from Walmart until it’s too small or broken. Teen girls are on Instagram, into glam life, but lots of cosmetics, hair styling, fashionable dresses and shoes. Girls are way more expensive than boys !

It's so rich that you call me clueless. I am a woman and have a teenage son. Your daughter doesn't have to be on Instagram following every trend the same way my son doesn't HAVE to have $100 sneakers, yet here we are. So please, before you call someone else clueless and proclaim that teen boys "dont care about looks" educate yourself, please.

[Anonymous]

... I am working on leading with a more feminine energy....

I can't believe no one picked up on this from the OP. Who pays for a date has nothing to do with 'energy'. It's more of a reflection of your upbringing or the dating/hospitality rules of your culture - and the dating rules within the US vary as we see on this thread. It doesn't make them wrong, it's just different.

Recognizing customs differ, I always offer to split the cost when invited to do something. If I'm inviting, I only do so if I'm willing to cover the entire cost and take no offense if, at least on the first couple occasions, my date doesn't offer to contribute. What I look for, though, is reciprocity. We either alternate paying or my date does something reciprocal. It's when there isn't reciprocity that I recognize it isn't a good match. This is true whether it's a romantic interest or a friend.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:after all the $$$ i spend on grooming and primping etc etc, yeah he should pay in the beginning. maybe I am old fashioned.

for some peculiar reason... this part flies over the heads of many women who advocate for splitting the bills like the dummies they are!

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Anonymous wrote:Look at all these independent feminists here! Pay or hit the road jack.

LOL

I am a perfectly capable woman with 300k annual income. A man who doesn’t know rules of courtship and asks to split movie tickets is not my man.

Exactly. Good way of sorting out the trash.

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Anonymous wrote:He pays of course! I would offer to buy snacks or incidentals on dates and be ok with that. That is more about helping logistically if you can go up and buy snacks or get something you need when out. But if he wanted to split the check at dinner or split the entire date cost, I would happily agree but then phase him out.

are ALL women like this - cheap, manipulative gold diggers?

Gold digging is asking you to assign me your house deed without making a downpayment. By allowing you to pay for dates a woman shows you her respect of your masculinity. There is a huge difference

I think my great grandmother has risen from the dead, hallelujah!

You wouldn't get it because youre an incel. Keep calling all women who expect you to pay for their $3.50 jujubees golddiggers, you pathetic clown. It's always the men with no gold to dig worrying about this 🤣

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Anonymous wrote:He pays of course! I would offer to buy snacks or incidentals on dates and be ok with that. That is more about helping logistically if you can go up and buy snacks or get something you need when out. But if he wanted to split the check at dinner or split the entire date cost, I would happily agree but then phase him out.

are ALL women like this - cheap, manipulative gold diggers?

Gold digging is asking you to assign me your house deed without making a downpayment. By allowing you to pay for dates a woman shows you her respect of your masculinity. There is a huge difference

Are you out of your mind???? Gosh, I feel bad for my son who will soon start to date. I will teach him that any woman who panders to "his masculinity" by making him pay is a fraud. Pay for your own shit lady.

I have a son, too. He is 15 abs knows he buys an ice cream for girl

And youre raising a gentleman who will know how to get a woman. There are more male virgins and incels than ever before nowadays and the numbers keep rising...

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Anonymous wrote:after all the $$$ i spend on grooming and primping etc etc, yeah he should pay in the beginning. maybe I am old fashioned.

This is so stupid. All of your primping is optional, so a man has no obligation to “reimburse” you for it. Grow up.

Please. And you'd be outraged if a woman showed up to the date with zero makeup on, unkempt hair, sweatpants, etc. Anyway, I'm sure no woman wants to appeal to you anyway, so your opinion is irrelevant. Next!

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Anonymous wrote:after all the $$$ i spend on grooming and primping etc etc, yeah he should pay in the beginning. maybe I am old fashioned.

This is so stupid. All of your primping is optional, so a man has no obligation to “reimburse” you for it. Grow up.

Please. And you'd be outraged if a woman showed up to the date with zero makeup on, unkempt hair, sweatpants, etc. Anyway, I'm sure no woman wants to appeal to you anyway, so your opinion is irrelevant. Next!

Well I'm sure your man got exactly what he paid for

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Anonymous wrote:after all the $$$ i spend on grooming and primping etc etc, yeah he should pay in the beginning. maybe I am old fashioned.

This is so stupid. All of your primping is optional, so a man has no obligation to “reimburse” you for it. Grow up.

Please. And you'd be outraged if a woman showed up to the date with zero makeup on, unkempt hair, sweatpants, etc. Anyway, I'm sure no woman wants to appeal to you anyway, so your opinion is irrelevant. Next!

Well I'm sure your man got exactly what he paid for

I'm not sure what this means, I dont speak incel