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Anonymous
Or conversely, having family and friends that you feel you need to lock out is sad. Sorry that you have that situation. |
Anonymous
It doesn’t sound like you’re very concerned with the comfort of your guests. |
Anonymous
NP. You know what? It actually is sad, but it is a reality for many of us who have family members facing addiction. I love my cousin, and I can't trust him in any bathroom except the powder room because of a history with prescription drugs. Not a hard, super-crazy, insurmountable sort of struggle (thank goodness), but a reality nonetheless. But what I think you're talking about is just garden-variety nosiness, which--*as evidenced by this very thread*--is more common than you might think... |
Anonymous
NP. If you provide a bathroom and an area to sit comfortably, you're provided enough to host people in your home. Period. Nothing else is required. As it says in the Sesame Street toilet training book, "Before we leave the house, we sit on the potty." Take care of your business, then enjoy your visit. |
Anonymous
I have IBS. Diarrhea can strike at any time. Literally any time. Thanks for telling me I should have taken care of that at home (impossible), and enjoy the cacophony coming out of my a$$ along with the oh so pleasant aroma. I hope when I open the door the stench hits you like a ton of bricks. Enjoy! |
Anonymous
So you think it is preferable to unleash your diarrhea in a host's master bathroom without mentioning it rather than risk your own embarrassment at using the powder room? And where do you get off with your hostility? It is not the fault of anyone who would ever host you at a party that you have IBS. Your IBS does not obligate anyone to open their entire home to you. What do you do when you visit friends who have only one bathroom? Also, as a fellow IBS sufferer, perhaps you need to speak with a medical professional about ways to manage your IBS. |
Anonymous
| It’s actually startling what pretentious, snobby, outright nasty a-holes the “non snooping crowd” are. First of all just because someone wanders upstairs looking for a bathroom or a guest room to nurse in doesn’t mean they’re looking through your drawers. But really, substantive arguments aside, I don’t know if it’s one person maniacally posting over and over but you’re just an a-hole. You’re extremely rude and short sighted and can’t see any other side to a coin. Stop inviting people over. I’m sure this vitriol and rudeness bleeds over into your “real” life and most people would probably rather stay home than hang out at your precious palace anyway. You need a clue on just being a good person. |
Anonymous
No, it is not an either/or. I have large gathering of family and friends all the time. We have a great time. I let people know where the powder room is. In my house, guests also know they can use the bath in the upstairs hall. Two baths in "public" spaces in my house is plenty. We also are not uptight about bodily functions. Everyone has them. We also were raised to understand basic decency, common sense, and courtesy. There are guidelines to be a good host: make sure you are ready for your guests to arrive, make sure you provide enough comfortable seating, food, and beverages for everyone, make sure the bathroom that is available is well-stocked with towels, toilet paper etc. There are also guidelines to be a good guest, and they include not going into rooms that are obviously private (bedrooms, master bathrooms or any bathroom off of a bedroom, separate home offices, studios, etc) without asking. If you want a tour, you ask. If you need something like a tampon or a band aid and you don't know where to find it, you ask. These are simple things. The fact that you don't get it suggests you probably have personal boundaries issues all around and are more than just a rude guest at parties. So many PPs on here trying to rationalize that they are rude. Nope, you are just rude. |
Anonymous
It's multiple PPs, because it is a widely held standard that you don't wander around other peoples' houses. How is asking people not to go in your bedroom pretentious or snobby? You are one of those rude people, aren't you? |
Anonymous
Exhibit A |
Anonymous
Of a reasonable person, yes. 
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Anonymous
| Please. It’s so obvious. The people who don’t want anyone upstairs are either horders or are just awful housekeepers. I know people just like that. They lock doors to avoid being embarrassed. If you go to someone’s house and they make a big deal about staying in one part of the house, or they have closed/locked doors, you can safely assume they are slobs. Behind the door you’ll find stacks of papers, mounds of laundry, and chaos. |
Anonymous
Or their personal, tidy, cozy sanctuary with a clean bathroom that they don't appreciate being splattered with entitled, gross people's diarrhea. |
Anonymous
I'm the poster who was recently invited to the home of a former university president and his wife. It was a social visit with the entire family for brunch, and I was their only guest. During the time I was there, I was offered a limited tour, and only stayed in the main parlor, dining room, and powder room after the tour. Do you really think I was free to go upstairs? Do you really think I should have just wandered up to "check out the layout" or poop? Or do you know, without question, that doing any of that would have been absurd? And if I had gone wandering and offended my hosts, who have a small staff and whose neighbors include Ivanka, that they would be offended because they are "either hoarders or just awful housekeepers." Now ask yourself, and answer here: If you wouldn't feel free to go wandering about a posh row house in D.C., why WOULD you feel free to go wandering around, say, a modest Virginia SFH? |
Anonymous
As has been stated multiple times on multiple pages of this thread, ***exceptions include health issues.*** And you certainly have...issues. Enjoy, yourself! |