Upstairs is off-limits to guests

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Anonymous wrote:The Pooper Snooper is off the list. Buh-bye!

Seriously. If someone EVER did this in my house, I'd never invite them back. I would consider them a really unmannered person who crosses boundaries.

I’m actually starting to waver on this. If it WAS my mom or sister, I wouldn’t care.

Yes, but they are your mom or your sister. So, that does not count as crossing boundaries, b/c there is less of a boundary b/c our close relatives and ourselves.

I think that's kind of the source of disagreement on this endlessly long thread. For me, close family is welcome to use any part of my home at any time. Others feel differently and that their master bathroom is their castle not to be invaded by anyone.

Huh? I've never had any reason to go into my adult siblings' master bedrooms/baths. I hang out with them in the family room or other common area. It's called a "Family Room" for a reason.

Well because you have never had a reason, then clearly this must be a rule that applies to the rest of the world. Are you always so narrow minded? My home doesn’t even have a “family room.”

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Anonymous wrote:The Pooper Snooper is off the list. Buh-bye!

Seriously. If someone EVER did this in my house, I'd never invite them back. I would consider them a really unmannered person who crosses boundaries.

I’m actually starting to waver on this. If it WAS my mom or sister, I wouldn’t care.

Yes, but they are your mom or your sister. So, that does not count as crossing boundaries, b/c there is less of a boundary b/c our close relatives and ourselves.

Agree on this, except if you have a very strained relationship or something. Otherwise of course there are exceptions for mom, sister, dad, etc. But that’s not what the diarrhea lady is talking about.

But the OP and her gang are adamant that family also cannot use the upstairs bathrooms.

Even family shouldn't be going into private rooms w/o asking or being invited in. Grown adult children/siblings should have the right to a certain amount of personal privacy in their own homes.

That's your opinion. I would think it's the height of rudeness to tell my mother that she can't enter my upstairs without being invited in. But your family operates differently.

+1 Pretty cold to act that way to someone whose belly you once inhabited.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:The Pooper Snooper is off the list. Buh-bye!

Seriously. If someone EVER did this in my house, I'd never invite them back. I would consider them a really unmannered person who crosses boundaries.

I’m actually starting to waver on this. If it WAS my mom or sister, I wouldn’t care.

Yes, but they are your mom or your sister. So, that does not count as crossing boundaries, b/c there is less of a boundary b/c our close relatives and ourselves.

Agree on this, except if you have a very strained relationship or something. Otherwise of course there are exceptions for mom, sister, dad, etc. But that’s not what the diarrhea lady is talking about.

I'm not sure that the "I will walk up to find the master bathroom and poop there whenever I'm at a party" poster is actually diarrhea lady (and I use the term "lady" veerrrryyyy loosely). Maybe the master bath party pooper is just going up for her daily poop.

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Anonymous wrote:The Pooper Snooper is off the list. Buh-bye!

Seriously. If someone EVER did this in my house, I'd never invite them back. I would consider them a really unmannered person who crosses boundaries.

I’m actually starting to waver on this. If it WAS my mom or sister, I wouldn’t care.

Yes, but they are your mom or your sister. So, that does not count as crossing boundaries, b/c there is less of a boundary b/c our close relatives and ourselves.

Agree on this, except if you have a very strained relationship or something. Otherwise of course there are exceptions for mom, sister, dad, etc. But that’s not what the diarrhea lady is talking about.

But the OP and her gang are adamant that family also cannot use the upstairs bathrooms.

Even family shouldn't be going into private rooms w/o asking or being invited in. Grown adult children/siblings should have the right to a certain amount of personal privacy in their own homes.

That's your opinion. I would think it's the height of rudeness to tell my mother that she can't enter my upstairs without being invited in. But your family operates differently.

+1 Pretty cold to act that way to someone whose belly you once inhabited.

My mom isn't a busy body nor does is she a pooper snooper so she really has no need to go into the bedroom that I share with my husband. And, besides, doesn't my dh deserve to have a sense of privacy in his own bedroom? My mother would never intrude on his (or my) personal space like that.

We have a nice guest room with attached private bathroom so there is pretty much no need for a relative staying at our house to ever go into our master bedroom/bath. Family coming over for dinner or a visit also have access to a perfectly good bathroom. I can't imagine my brother or sister wandering into my bedroom to look for something or use my things w/o asking first. They've been in my home and I've been in their home and we simply do not invade each other's privacy like that.

It would drive me nuts to have such an intrusive relative, wandering in/out of my bedroom and master bathroom. I'm surprised that your spouses put up with that nonsense.

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Anonymous wrote:The Pooper Snooper is off the list. Buh-bye!

Seriously. If someone EVER did this in my house, I'd never invite them back. I would consider them a really unmannered person who crosses boundaries.

I’m actually starting to waver on this. If it WAS my mom or sister, I wouldn’t care.

Yes, but they are your mom or your sister. So, that does not count as crossing boundaries, b/c there is less of a boundary b/c our close relatives and ourselves.

Agree on this, except if you have a very strained relationship or something. Otherwise of course there are exceptions for mom, sister, dad, etc. But that’s not what the diarrhea lady is talking about.

But the OP and her gang are adamant that family also cannot use the upstairs bathrooms.

Even family shouldn't be going into private rooms w/o asking or being invited in. Grown adult children/siblings should have the right to a certain amount of personal privacy in their own homes.

That's your opinion. I would think it's the height of rudeness to tell my mother that she can't enter my upstairs without being invited in. But your family operates differently.

+1 Pretty cold to act that way to someone whose belly you once inhabited.

My mom isn't a busy body nor does is she a pooper snooper so she really has no need to go into the bedroom that I share with my husband. And, besides, doesn't my dh deserve to have a sense of privacy in his own bedroom? My mother would never intrude on his (or my) personal space like that.

We have a nice guest room with attached private bathroom so there is pretty much no need for a relative staying at our house to ever go into our master bedroom/bath. Family coming over for dinner or a visit also have access to a perfectly good bathroom. I can't imagine my brother or sister wandering into my bedroom to look for something or use my things w/o asking first. They've been in my home and I've been in their home and we simply do not invade each other's privacy like that.

It would drive me nuts to have such an intrusive relative, wandering in/out of my bedroom and master bathroom. I'm surprised that your spouses put up with that nonsense.

And I'm surprised that a household would put so many restrictions on close family members. Bottom line: families are different. Insisting your way is the only way is pretty dumb.

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Anonymous wrote:So many extremes here!

Guests shouldn't go snooping into private places in a guests home.

Hosts shouldn't blow their top if someone walks into the wrong bathroom if the bathroom isn't inside of a closed door bedroom. When you gotta go you gotta go.

Guests have no business walking down hallways and opening doors to find a bathroom that they have not been invited to use. Wait for the powder room.

Again, I’m using the upstairs master to poop during a party. Not sure why it’s so hard to accept

I can’t imagine you’re invited to many parties....you sound dreadful.

I totally agree. I can almost 100% guarantee this person does not move in the same types of circles I do. No one I know would ever dream of doing this. It is just unimaginable, really.

I don't know WHAT circles these types of people move in; but they are not in mine.

No kidding.

I think the Master Bath Party Pooper is probably one of the posters who said on an older thread that they let their in-laws sleep in their master bed when they visit. They all just live like kids, basically. Mine is yours because I've got nothing anyway, and all that.

When they grow up and get a real house and a real marriage (if anyone would have them) then they might figure out that their behavior is grossly inappropriate. We can only hope.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:The Pooper Snooper is off the list. Buh-bye!

Seriously. If someone EVER did this in my house, I'd never invite them back. I would consider them a really unmannered person who crosses boundaries.

I’m actually starting to waver on this. If it WAS my mom or sister, I wouldn’t care.

Yes, but they are your mom or your sister. So, that does not count as crossing boundaries, b/c there is less of a boundary b/c our close relatives and ourselves.

I think that's kind of the source of disagreement on this endlessly long thread. For me, close family is welcome to use any part of my home at any time. Others feel differently and that their master bathroom is their castle not to be invaded by anyone.

Huh? I've never had any reason to go into my adult siblings' master bedrooms/baths. I hang out with them in the family room or other common area. It's called a "Family Room" for a reason.

Well because you have never had a reason, then clearly this must be a rule that applies to the rest of the world. Are you always so narrow minded? My home doesn’t even have a “family room.”

Your home is one gigantic master bedroom with a big old bed and a toilet in it that everyone is just clamoring to use. Come on. You have common areas in your home you just choose to include your bedroom and master bathroom among the common spaces - your home, your choice, whatever.

But it is not rude to NOT grant unfettered access to your own personal quarters like that.

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Anonymous wrote:So many extremes here!

Guests shouldn't go snooping into private places in a guests home.

Hosts shouldn't blow their top if someone walks into the wrong bathroom if the bathroom isn't inside of a closed door bedroom. When you gotta go you gotta go.

Guests have no business walking down hallways and opening doors to find a bathroom that they have not been invited to use. Wait for the powder room.

Again, I’m using the upstairs master to poop during a party. Not sure why it’s so hard to accept

I can’t imagine you’re invited to many parties....you sound dreadful.

I totally agree. I can almost 100% guarantee this person does not move in the same types of circles I do. No one I know would ever dream of doing this. It is just unimaginable, really.

I don't know WHAT circles these types of people move in; but they are not in mine.

No kidding.

I think the Master Bath Party Pooper is probably one of the posters who said on an older thread that they let their in-laws sleep in their master bed when they visit. They all just live like kids, basically. Mine is yours because I've got nothing anyway, and all that.

When they grow up and get a real house and a real marriage (if anyone would have them) then they might figure out that their behavior is grossly inappropriate. We can only hope.

One would hope.

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Anonymous wrote:The Pooper Snooper is off the list. Buh-bye!

Seriously. If someone EVER did this in my house, I'd never invite them back. I would consider them a really unmannered person who crosses boundaries.

I’m actually starting to waver on this. If it WAS my mom or sister, I wouldn’t care.

Yes, but they are your mom or your sister. So, that does not count as crossing boundaries, b/c there is less of a boundary b/c our close relatives and ourselves.

Agree on this, except if you have a very strained relationship or something. Otherwise of course there are exceptions for mom, sister, dad, etc. But that’s not what the diarrhea lady is talking about.

But the OP and her gang are adamant that family also cannot use the upstairs bathrooms.

Even family shouldn't be going into private rooms w/o asking or being invited in. Grown adult children/siblings should have the right to a certain amount of personal privacy in their own homes.

That's your opinion. I would think it's the height of rudeness to tell my mother that she can't enter my upstairs without being invited in. But your family operates differently.

+1 Pretty cold to act that way to someone whose belly you once inhabited.

My mom isn't a busy body nor does is she a pooper snooper so she really has no need to go into the bedroom that I share with my husband. And, besides, doesn't my dh deserve to have a sense of privacy in his own bedroom? My mother would never intrude on his (or my) personal space like that.

We have a nice guest room with attached private bathroom so there is pretty much no need for a relative staying at our house to ever go into our master bedroom/bath. Family coming over for dinner or a visit also have access to a perfectly good bathroom. I can't imagine my brother or sister wandering into my bedroom to look for something or use my things w/o asking first. They've been in my home and I've been in their home and we simply do not invade each other's privacy like that.

It would drive me nuts to have such an intrusive relative, wandering in/out of my bedroom and master bathroom. I'm surprised that your spouses put up with that nonsense.

And I'm surprised that a household would put so many restrictions on close family members. Bottom line: families are different. Insisting your way is the only way is pretty dumb.

This. I don't restrict my mother or siblings in my house. But clearly others do.

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Anonymous wrote:The Pooper Snooper is off the list. Buh-bye!

Seriously. If someone EVER did this in my house, I'd never invite them back. I would consider them a really unmannered person who crosses boundaries.

I’m actually starting to waver on this. If it WAS my mom or sister, I wouldn’t care.

Yes, but they are your mom or your sister. So, that does not count as crossing boundaries, b/c there is less of a boundary b/c our close relatives and ourselves.

Agree on this, except if you have a very strained relationship or something. Otherwise of course there are exceptions for mom, sister, dad, etc. But that’s not what the diarrhea lady is talking about.

But the OP and her gang are adamant that family also cannot use the upstairs bathrooms.

Even family shouldn't be going into private rooms w/o asking or being invited in. Grown adult children/siblings should have the right to a certain amount of personal privacy in their own homes.

That's your opinion. I would think it's the height of rudeness to tell my mother that she can't enter my upstairs without being invited in. But your family operates differently.

+1 Pretty cold to act that way to someone whose belly you once inhabited.

My mom isn't a busy body nor does is she a pooper snooper so she really has no need to go into the bedroom that I share with my husband. And, besides, doesn't my dh deserve to have a sense of privacy in his own bedroom? My mother would never intrude on his (or my) personal space like that.

We have a nice guest room with attached private bathroom so there is pretty much no need for a relative staying at our house to ever go into our master bedroom/bath. Family coming over for dinner or a visit also have access to a perfectly good bathroom. I can't imagine my brother or sister wandering into my bedroom to look for something or use my things w/o asking first. They've been in my home and I've been in their home and we simply do not invade each other's privacy like that.

It would drive me nuts to have such an intrusive relative, wandering in/out of my bedroom and master bathroom. I'm surprised that your spouses put up with that nonsense.

And I'm surprised that a household would put so many restrictions on close family members. Bottom line: families are different. Insisting your way is the only way is pretty dumb.

This. I don't restrict my mother or siblings in my house. But clearly others do.

You allow your mil, fil, bil, sil and nieces/nephews to wander in and out of your master bedroom and bath too? Or does that only apply to your family?

What about your husband's good friend Barney or his buddy Harold down the street. Are they allowed to roam at will around your bedroom, too?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:The Pooper Snooper is off the list. Buh-bye!

Seriously. If someone EVER did this in my house, I'd never invite them back. I would consider them a really unmannered person who crosses boundaries.

Someone actually *did* do this in my house years ago and we've never invited her back.

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Anonymous wrote:The Pooper Snooper is off the list. Buh-bye!

Seriously. If someone EVER did this in my house, I'd never invite them back. I would consider them a really unmannered person who crosses boundaries.

Someone actually *did* do this in my house years ago and we've never invited her back.

I think that is the best policy. There are people who do this sort of thing and there are people who never would. Stick to the folks who never would.

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Anonymous wrote:The Pooper Snooper is off the list. Buh-bye!

Seriously. If someone EVER did this in my house, I'd never invite them back. I would consider them a really unmannered person who crosses boundaries.

I’m actually starting to waver on this. If it WAS my mom or sister, I wouldn’t care.

Yes, but they are your mom or your sister. So, that does not count as crossing boundaries, b/c there is less of a boundary b/c our close relatives and ourselves.

Agree on this, except if you have a very strained relationship or something. Otherwise of course there are exceptions for mom, sister, dad, etc. But that’s not what the diarrhea lady is talking about.

But the OP and her gang are adamant that family also cannot use the upstairs bathrooms.

Even family shouldn't be going into private rooms w/o asking or being invited in. Grown adult children/siblings should have the right to a certain amount of personal privacy in their own homes.

That's your opinion. I would think it's the height of rudeness to tell my mother that she can't enter my upstairs without being invited in. But your family operates differently.

+1 Pretty cold to act that way to someone whose belly you once inhabited.

My mom isn't a busy body nor does is she a pooper snooper so she really has no need to go into the bedroom that I share with my husband. And, besides, doesn't my dh deserve to have a sense of privacy in his own bedroom? My mother would never intrude on his (or my) personal space like that.

We have a nice guest room with attached private bathroom so there is pretty much no need for a relative staying at our house to ever go into our master bedroom/bath. Family coming over for dinner or a visit also have access to a perfectly good bathroom. I can't imagine my brother or sister wandering into my bedroom to look for something or use my things w/o asking first. They've been in my home and I've been in their home and we simply do not invade each other's privacy like that.

It would drive me nuts to have such an intrusive relative, wandering in/out of my bedroom and master bathroom. I'm surprised that your spouses put up with that nonsense.

And I'm surprised that a household would put so many restrictions on close family members. Bottom line: families are different. Insisting your way is the only way is pretty dumb.

This. I don't restrict my mother or siblings in my house. But clearly others do.

You allow your mil, fil, bil, sil and nieces/nephews to wander in and out of your master bedroom and bath too? Or does that only apply to your family?

What about your husband's good friend Barney or his buddy Harold down the street. Are they allowed to roam at will around your bedroom, too?

Yup, my in-laws have free reign. I love my in-laws and trust them. Your family is different. I know that is shocking to you that not everyone thinks the same way that you do.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:The Pooper Snooper is off the list. Buh-bye!

Seriously. If someone EVER did this in my house, I'd never invite them back. I would consider them a really unmannered person who crosses boundaries.

Someone actually *did* do this in my house years ago and we've never invited her back.

Please tell me you warned your other friends as well though.

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Anonymous wrote:The Pooper Snooper is off the list. Buh-bye!

Seriously. If someone EVER did this in my house, I'd never invite them back. I would consider them a really unmannered person who crosses boundaries.

I’m actually starting to waver on this. If it WAS my mom or sister, I wouldn’t care.

Yes, but they are your mom or your sister. So, that does not count as crossing boundaries, b/c there is less of a boundary b/c our close relatives and ourselves.

Agree on this, except if you have a very strained relationship or something. Otherwise of course there are exceptions for mom, sister, dad, etc. But that’s not what the diarrhea lady is talking about.

But the OP and her gang are adamant that family also cannot use the upstairs bathrooms.

Even family shouldn't be going into private rooms w/o asking or being invited in. Grown adult children/siblings should have the right to a certain amount of personal privacy in their own homes.

That's your opinion. I would think it's the height of rudeness to tell my mother that she can't enter my upstairs without being invited in. But your family operates differently.

+1 Pretty cold to act that way to someone whose belly you once inhabited.

Seriously! OP would embarrass her mom or dad by forcing them to use the powder room if they needed to use a more private bathroom! What’s wrong with you?!?!