Upstairs is off-limits to guests

[Anonymous]

If you are a guest in someone's home--for a brief viist or for an overnight stay--why, exactly, do you think you can go upstairs without being invited, or without being given express permission?

You've been welcomed into the "public spaces" like the living room, dining room, kitchen, and main powder rooms. If you are an overnight guest, you've been given your own room, bathroom, and a full living space. In my house, you literally have an entire floor of my home at your private disposal.

Why would you "need" to go upstairs, and why do you think you are welcome to do so?

And yeah, this goes for family, too. If the kids invite you to go upstairs to see their rooms, fine. But otherwise, there's nothing for you up there.

[Anonymous]

I mean, I guess I agree but don’t care enough to post about it. Maybe take some deep breaths. And a Xanax.

[Anonymous]

I think it’s both weird to wander someone’s house without being invited...but also weird to be hung up about it.

[Anonymous]

Go back to sleep, Barb

[Anonymous]

I agree it's rude, but if this is happening often to you, OP, it might be you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I agree it's rude, but if this is happening often to you, OP, it might be you.

How so? -np

[Anonymous]

Are they maybe wanting company or looking for some kind of supplies like tampons, towels or the laundry room?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Are they maybe wanting company or looking for some kind of supplies like tampons, towels or the laundry room?

Wanting company? I spend the majority of the day with my overnight guests, but not all day. Bring a book or a magazine. Call a friend. If your host is taking a break, don't go sniffing upstairs after them.

Need some supplies? First, check the fully stocked guest bathroom. Then, *ask for them.*

The laundry room is usually not upstairs. If you need it and can't find it on the floor you've been given, *ask.*

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Are they maybe wanting company or looking for some kind of supplies like tampons, towels or the laundry room?

I’ll bet big bucks it’s one of OP’s inlaws whom she doesn’t like in general. To OP, the guest is being “nosy.”

[Anonymous]

Team OP. Guests are the worst.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Are they maybe wanting company or looking for some kind of supplies like tampons, towels or the laundry room?

I’ll bet big bucks it’s one of OP’s inlaws whom she doesn’t like in general. To OP, the guest is being “nosy.”

OP here. I've had both members of my family and my husband's familly do this. I've also had near-strangers do this, who were invited for a holiday party. I don't get how people don't get that this is not how you act in someone's home.

[Anonymous]

People over for a party shouldn’t go upstairs without an invitation, but I think when you’re a houseguest staying overnight it isn’t crazy to venture upstairs...most of the time you’re an intimate friend or relative and the guest room is upstairs. Are they coming up to see the kids’ rooms?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:People over for a party shouldn’t go upstairs without an invitation, but I think when you’re a houseguest staying overnight it isn’t crazy to venture upstairs...most of the time you’re an intimate friend or relative and the guest room is upstairs. Are they coming up to see the kids’ rooms?

If the parents or kids invite you up to see the kids’ rooms? Fine.

If not, what do you need? What are you doing? Why are you not asking?

[Anonymous]

Agree about party guests. But I would never tell my parents or my husband’s parents they are not welcome upstairs in my home.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Agree about party guests. But I would never tell my parents or my husband’s parents they are not welcome upstairs in my home.

Unless they are invited, or ask for something and told it is OK, what do they need up there?

They have living space, kitchen, bathroom, bedroom available to them. What do they need?