Upstairs is off-limits to guests

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:To the op & others- please reconsider hosting things at your house. If you have sensitivies about your house, please either state them to your guests or stop inventing folks over. To draw imaginary lines in the sand- then become offended (in silent) is nuts.
Just stop having folks over...

Just stop trying to rationalize that you are rude.

People who wander into closed rooms, bedrooms, bathrooms off of bedrooms, home offices etc. are R-U-D-E.

Get it through your brain that there is a spectrum of appropriate behavior that lies between not hosting people at all and having to give guests full run of your house when you have a party or invite someone to stay with you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:To the op & others- please reconsider hosting things at your house. If you have sensitivies about your house, please either state them to your guests or stop inventing folks over. To draw imaginary lines in the sand- then become offended (in silent) is nuts.
Just stop having folks over...

Just stop trying to rationalize that you are rude.

People who wander into closed rooms, bedrooms, bathrooms off of bedrooms, home offices etc. are R-U-D-E.

Get it through your brain that there is a spectrum of appropriate behavior that lies between not hosting people at all and having to give guests full run of your house when you have a party or invite someone to stay with you.

Miss Manners disagrees. Get a lock or stop inviting people over.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:To the op & others- please reconsider hosting things at your house. If you have sensitivies about your house, please either state them to your guests or stop inventing folks over. To draw imaginary lines in the sand- then become offended (in silent) is nuts.
Just stop having folks over...

Allow me to state a "sensitivity" that I think must be shared by 99% of well adjusted people: please don't think you're welcome to go and poop in someone else's master bathroom unless you've been specifically told that you're welcome to use it.

Sorry not sorry. If I have to poop or get the runs, I’m not using the powder room. I am going to use the most private bathroom available which is the master bath.

And if you enter my house I will be sure to padlock my master bedroom door. Sorry not sorry.

And this is it in a nutshell. People who have these problems have family or friends who are untrustworthy. Don't invite people over if you don't trust them.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:To the op & others- please reconsider hosting things at your house. If you have sensitivies about your house, please either state them to your guests or stop inventing folks over. To draw imaginary lines in the sand- then become offended (in silent) is nuts.
Just stop having folks over...

Just stop trying to rationalize that you are rude.

People who wander into closed rooms, bedrooms, bathrooms off of bedrooms, home offices etc. are R-U-D-E.

Get it through your brain that there is a spectrum of appropriate behavior that lies between not hosting people at all and having to give guests full run of your house when you have a party or invite someone to stay with you.

Miss Manners disagrees. Get a lock or stop inviting people over.

No. she doesn't. She agreed with the person who wrote her. First line of her response. You are rude AND lack reading comprehension skills.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:To the op & others- please reconsider hosting things at your house. If you have sensitivies about your house, please either state them to your guests or stop inventing folks over. To draw imaginary lines in the sand- then become offended (in silent) is nuts.
Just stop having folks over...

Allow me to state a "sensitivity" that I think must be shared by 99% of well adjusted people: please don't think you're welcome to go and poop in someone else's master bathroom unless you've been specifically told that you're welcome to use it.

Sorry not sorry. If I have to poop or get the runs, I’m not using the powder room. I am going to use the most private bathroom available which is the master bath.

And if you enter my house I will be sure to padlock my master bedroom door. Sorry not sorry.

And this is it in a nutshell. People who have these problems have family or friends who are untrustworthy. Don't invite people over if you don't trust them.

Yep. Take them right off that list.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:To the op & others- please reconsider hosting things at your house. If you have sensitivies about your house, please either state them to your guests or stop inventing folks over. To draw imaginary lines in the sand- then become offended (in silent) is nuts.
Just stop having folks over...

Just stop trying to rationalize that you are rude.

People who wander into closed rooms, bedrooms, bathrooms off of bedrooms, home offices etc. are R-U-D-E.

Get it through your brain that there is a spectrum of appropriate behavior that lies between not hosting people at all and having to give guests full run of your house when you have a party or invite someone to stay with you.

Miss Manners disagrees. Get a lock or stop inviting people over.

No. she doesn't. She agreed with the person who wrote her. First line of her response. You are rude AND lack reading comprehension skills.

+1. Actually read the column. She agrees that it is rude, and outlines steps for the reader to take to deal with the rudeness/come up with some solutions.

[Anonymous]

The only way to keep some of you people out of a host's master bedroom is to LOCK it. That is absolutely beyond crazy. How can you not see how out of line that is? You are making your host feel so uneasy that they have to LOCK you out of certain rooms because they can not trust you to stay out of them.

What an unpleasant person to have over....yikes.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The only way to keep some of you people out of a host's master bedroom is to LOCK it. That is absolutely beyond crazy. How can you not see how out of line that is? You are making your host feel so uneasy that they have to LOCK you out of certain rooms because they can not trust you to stay out of them.

What an unpleasant person to have over....yikes.

And if the host is so uneasy they should find a better class of guests. I love my family and friends. They are welcome anywhere in my home.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The only way to keep some of you people out of a host's master bedroom is to LOCK it. That is absolutely beyond crazy. How can you not see how out of line that is? You are making your host feel so uneasy that they have to LOCK you out of certain rooms because they can not trust you to stay out of them.

What an unpleasant person to have over....yikes.

And if the host is so uneasy they should find a better class of guests. I love my family and friends. They are welcome anywhere in my home.

You just don't value personal privacy. I would hate to stay in your home because I'll bet you feel free to wander in/out of the guest bedroom at will, too. You probably don't even knock first because you LOOOOVVVEEE your guests so much.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The only way to keep some of you people out of a host's master bedroom is to LOCK it. That is absolutely beyond crazy. How can you not see how out of line that is? You are making your host feel so uneasy that they have to LOCK you out of certain rooms because they can not trust you to stay out of them.

What an unpleasant person to have over....yikes.

And if the host is so uneasy they should find a better class of guests. I love my family and friends. They are welcome anywhere in my home.

You just don't value personal privacy. I would hate to stay in your home because I'll bet you feel free to wander in/out of the guest bedroom at will, too. You probably don't even knock first because you LOOOOVVVEEE your guests so much.

You're not invited to my home because you sound creepy. My friends and family are. Enjoy locking your relatives out. Your home sounds like a very "special" place.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The only way to keep some of you people out of a host's master bedroom is to LOCK it. That is absolutely beyond crazy. How can you not see how out of line that is? You are making your host feel so uneasy that they have to LOCK you out of certain rooms because they can not trust you to stay out of them.

What an unpleasant person to have over....yikes.

And if the host is so uneasy they should find a better class of guests. I love my family and friends. They are welcome anywhere in my home.

You just don't value personal privacy. I would hate to stay in your home because I'll bet you feel free to wander in/out of the guest bedroom at will, too. You probably don't even knock first because you LOOOOVVVEEE your guests so much.

You're not invited to my home because you sound creepy. My friends and family are. Enjoy locking your relatives out. Your home sounds like a very "special" place.

OMG how can some of you not see that personal boundaries are okay and actually go so far off the deep end of all or nothing?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The only way to keep some of you people out of a host's master bedroom is to LOCK it. That is absolutely beyond crazy. How can you not see how out of line that is? You are making your host feel so uneasy that they have to LOCK you out of certain rooms because they can not trust you to stay out of them.

What an unpleasant person to have over....yikes.

And if the host is so uneasy they should find a better class of guests. I love my family and friends. They are welcome anywhere in my home.

You just don't value personal privacy. I would hate to stay in your home because I'll bet you feel free to wander in/out of the guest bedroom at will, too. You probably don't even knock first because you LOOOOVVVEEE your guests so much.

You're not invited to my home because you sound creepy. My friends and family are. Enjoy locking your relatives out. Your home sounds like a very "special" place.

I'm not the one wandering in/out of other people's bedrooms. I respect other people's basic right to privacy and I expect the same amount of respect in return. If that is creepy to you, oh well.

And, yes, I would MUCH prefer to stay in a hotel than have someone wandering in/out of the room I'm staying in. It would be hard to relax under those circumstances.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The only way to keep some of you people out of a host's master bedroom is to LOCK it. That is absolutely beyond crazy. How can you not see how out of line that is? You are making your host feel so uneasy that they have to LOCK you out of certain rooms because they can not trust you to stay out of them.

What an unpleasant person to have over....yikes.

And if the host is so uneasy they should find a better class of guests. I love my family and friends. They are welcome anywhere in my home.

You just don't value personal privacy. I would hate to stay in your home because I'll bet you feel free to wander in/out of the guest bedroom at will, too. You probably don't even knock first because you LOOOOVVVEEE your guests so much.

You're not invited to my home because you sound creepy. My friends and family are. Enjoy locking your relatives out. Your home sounds like a very "special" place.

OMG how can some of you not see that personal boundaries are okay and actually go so far off the deep end of all or nothing?

And I would add that not having personal boundaries and basic understanding of said boundaries is what is creepy.

[Anonymous]

I think DCUM needs the ability to create a poll. It’s hard to tell how many crazies there are who think creeping into the master bedroom is acceptable, but Im guessing it’s a very small percentage.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think DCUM needs the ability to create a poll. It’s hard to tell how many crazies there are who think creeping into the master bedroom is acceptable, but Im guessing it’s a very small percentage.

Here's a rudimentary poll:

http://www.strawpoll.me/17204665

I'm not sure if it will prevent people from answering more than once, but what can you do...it's DCUM!