Upstairs is off-limits to guests

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Are they maybe wanting company or looking for some kind of supplies like tampons, towels or the laundry room?

Wanting company? I spend the majority of the day with my overnight guests, but not all day. Bring a book or a magazine. Call a friend. If your host is taking a break, don't go sniffing upstairs after them.

Need some supplies? First, check the fully stocked guest bathroom. Then, *ask for them.*

The laundry room is usually not upstairs. If you need it and can't find it on the floor you've been given, *ask.*

Wow. Why are you even inviting people into your home? You sound delightful.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Are they maybe wanting company or looking for some kind of supplies like tampons, towels or the laundry room?

Wanting company? I spend the majority of the day with my overnight guests, but not all day. Bring a book or a magazine. Call a friend. If your host is taking a break, don't go sniffing upstairs after them.

Need some supplies? First, check the fully stocked guest bathroom. Then, *ask for them.*

The laundry room is usually not upstairs. If you need it and can't find it on the floor you've been given, *ask.*

Wow. Why are you even inviting people into your home? You sound delightful.

Why are you nosing around other people's homes? Why are you treating their homes like a CVS, instead of bringing your own tampons? YOU sound delightful.

If you need or want something, or even want a tour upstairs, all you have to do is ask me. You are not entiteld access to the private spaces of my home.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Team OP. Guests are the worst.

So don’t host.

[Anonymous]

If they’re overnight guests, they should have access to the house. Maybe not the master bath or master bedroom, but everywhere else is fine. I have nothing to hide. If it’s a party, I generally agree with staying in “public” areas unless they aren’t feeling well, are breastfeeding, or something.

[Anonymous]

Are you afraid OP that if they open up your bedroom closet, they just may be inundated w/your skeleton “collection??!”

All joking aside, if party guests venture upstairs & you have an unoccupied bathroom downstairs....well that could be considered borderline rude.

But why in the world would you be offended if a houseguest went upstairs??
If they went into your bedroom/on-suite bathroom, then yes that would be inappropriate for obvious reasons.

But perhaps you have a bookcase of good books in the den that your houseguest may want to browse.
Or a craft room where they may be interested to check out.

Unless you EXPLICITLY ask them not to wander upstairs, there is no need to be upset if they want to see what your home looks like.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If they’re overnight guests, they should have access to the house. Maybe not the master bath or master bedroom, but everywhere else is fine. I have nothing to hide. If it’s a party, I generally agree with staying in “public” areas unless they aren’t feeling well, are breastfeeding, or something.

Why would they need or want to be upstairs? When everything they need is downstairs, tell me why. Make the case.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Are you afraid OP that if they open up your bedroom closet, they just may be inundated w/your skeleton “collection??!”

All joking aside, if party guests venture upstairs & you have an unoccupied bathroom downstairs....well that could be considered borderline rude.

But why in the world would you be offended if a houseguest went upstairs??
If they went into your bedroom/on-suite bathroom, then yes that would be inappropriate for obvious reasons.

But perhaps you have a bookcase of good books in the den that your houseguest may want to browse.
Or a craft room where they may be interested to check out.

Unless you EXPLICITLY ask them not to wander upstairs, there is no need to be upset if they want to see what your home looks like.

They can ask to go to the den. See how that works? Most houses in this area only have bedrooms and bathrooms upstairs. If there is a den or an office, that is private space. Ask.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Are they maybe wanting company or looking for some kind of supplies like tampons, towels or the laundry room?

Wanting company? I spend the majority of the day with my overnight guests, but not all day. Bring a book or a magazine. Call a friend. If your host is taking a break, don't go sniffing upstairs after them.

Need some supplies? First, check the fully stocked guest bathroom. Then, *ask for them.*

The laundry room is usually not upstairs. If you need it and can't find it on the floor you've been given, *ask.*

Wow. Why are you even inviting people into your home? You sound delightful.

Why are you nosing around other people's homes? Why are you treating their homes like a CVS, instead of bringing your own tampons? YOU sound delightful.

If you need or want something, or even want a tour upstairs, all you have to do is ask me. You are not entiteld access to the private spaces of my home.

Jesus. Get on some meds. I’m not interested in your sad ass upper level, trust me. Just stop entertaining. There’s no way your guests enjoy their time with you. Hell, 97% of DCUM think you are bat shit crazy and have never even met you

[Anonymous]

I don’t like it when dinner guests wonder upstairs. But if Ive invited you to stay the night, you’re a good friend. My house is yours for however long your here. If I’m hanging out in my bed watching tv and you knock and want to talk, chances are pretty high I’ll scoot over.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If they’re overnight guests, they should have access to the house. Maybe not the master bath or master bedroom, but everywhere else is fine. I have nothing to hide. If it’s a party, I generally agree with staying in “public” areas unless they aren’t feeling well, are breastfeeding, or something.

Why would they need or want to be upstairs? When everything they need is downstairs, tell me why. Make the case.

Seriously woman, give it a rest before your head spins right off your scrawny little neck

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Agree about party guests. But I would never tell my parents or my husband’s parents they are not welcome upstairs in my home.

Unless they are invited, or ask for something and told it is OK, what do they need up there?

They have living space, kitchen, bathroom, bedroom available to them. What do they need?

They don’t need to. But they raised us and we love them and they love us and our kids and it would be very mean and hurtful to tell them they are not welcome upstairs.

I sincerely hope you are not discussing your children’s grandparents OP, but instead a distant relative.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Agree about party guests. But I would never tell my parents or my husband’s parents they are not welcome upstairs in my home.

Unless they are invited, or ask for something and told it is OK, what do they need up there?

They have living space, kitchen, bathroom, bedroom available to them. What do they need?

They don’t need to. But they raised us and we love them and they love us and our kids and it would be very mean and hurtful to tell them they are not welcome upstairs.

I sincerely hope you are not discussing your children’s grandparents OP, but instead a distant relative.

If a kid invites them up to see their room, that’s fine. If they ask, that’s fine. Otherwise, what are they doing? I’m honestly asking.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don’t like it when dinner guests wonder upstairs. But if Ive invited you to stay the night, you’re a good friend. My house is yours for however long your here. If I’m hanging out in my bed watching tv and you knock and want to talk, chances are pretty high I’ll scoot over.

Who acts like that? Chances are, your host spent tons of time with you during the day. Including a movie in the living room. If your host retreats to bed, leave them alone.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Team OP. Guests are the worst.

So don’t host.

Do you live alone? Or do you always have final say?

I hate hosting (see post about guests making comments every time they are in my home), DH lives for it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Agree about party guests. But I would never tell my parents or my husband’s parents they are not welcome upstairs in my home.

Unless they are invited, or ask for something and told it is OK, what do they need up there?

They have living space, kitchen, bathroom, bedroom available to them. What do they need?

They don’t need to. But they raised us and we love them and they love us and our kids and it would be very mean and hurtful to tell them they are not welcome upstairs.

I sincerely hope you are not discussing your children’s grandparents OP, but instead a distant relative.

If a kid invites them up to see their room, that’s fine. If they ask, that’s fine. Otherwise, what are they doing? I’m honestly asking.

NP. I'm wondering too. Haven't seen one good reason. But I'm not the type to be inapproprately curious. I've never seen my bff's upstairs. I'm not frequently a houseguest, but last time I was, I stayed on our level and the main level only.