Husband Criticizing Me

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:She also posted the very similar thread, exact on Relationships forum!
Why?

Because she’s insufferable and hates that no one agrees with her

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:So, OCD? This is way beyond normal nesting!
OP, you've gone a little coocoo.
But, we forgive you as you are expecting.

OP here. I do suffer from mild OCD. The main thing is I will be the one to handle all of this stuff even after the baby comes, so I’m saving myself from doing it with it a baby. He hates clutter but never seems to mind when he buys stuff for no reason. All the stuff I bought fits in a walk-in closet in the guest room that we never use. The only things out are things for the baby like a swing, bouncer, and some stuff I will be making freezer meals with.

I think you need to dial it down. Admit that you went a bit overboard to him (and yourself) and ask him for some grace in return. You’re not going to be in a bunker you will be making plenty of trips to cvs. Meanwhile please see someone about your anxiety for many of us it gets worse after birth (although better for some) and you really want to have a therapist on hand you can talk to and get prescription from if necessary. Also you need to start outsourcing and letting dh take care of some things, even if it’s not to your standards.

OP here. No. I won’t be making any trips to the store. My husband works 11-12 hour days. We will not have any help because we are not comfortable given the pandemic. He has made it clear he doesn’t want any childcare help ( we considered a PT nanny at one point) because we want to protect our baby as much as possible. My husband hates having packages constantly delivered and gets annoyed. I decided to save myself the time since I will be doing all of the shopping, meal prep, and cooking once the baby gets here as I usually do.

On a side note, I had two friends says the pampers they bought from Amazon were counterfeit. Apparently that is becoming a thing with third party sellers. Also amazon has been called out for selling expired items like formula. I don’t really trust it for baby products like that.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:So, OCD? This is way beyond normal nesting!
OP, you've gone a little coocoo.
But, we forgive you as you are expecting.

OP here. I do suffer from mild OCD. The main thing is I will be the one to handle all of this stuff even after the baby comes, so I’m saving myself from doing it with it a baby. He hates clutter but never seems to mind when he buys stuff for no reason. All the stuff I bought fits in a walk-in closet in the guest room that we never use. The only things out are things for the baby like a swing, bouncer, and some stuff I will be making freezer meals with.

I think you need to dial it down. Admit that you went a bit overboard to him (and yourself) and ask him for some grace in return. You’re not going to be in a bunker you will be making plenty of trips to cvs. Meanwhile please see someone about your anxiety for many of us it gets worse after birth (although better for some) and you really want to have a therapist on hand you can talk to and get prescription from if necessary. Also you need to start outsourcing and letting dh take care of some things, even if it’s not to your standards.

OP here. No. I won’t be making any trips to the store. My husband works 11-12 hour days. We will not have any help because we are not comfortable given the pandemic. He has made it clear he doesn’t want any childcare help ( we considered a PT nanny at one point) because we want to protect our baby as much as possible. My husband hates having packages constantly delivered and gets annoyed. I decided to save myself the time since I will be doing all of the shopping, meal prep, and cooking once the baby gets here as I usually do.

On a side note, I had two friends says the pampers they bought from Amazon were counterfeit. Apparently that is becoming a thing with third party sellers. Also amazon has been called out for selling expired items like formula. I don’t really trust it for baby products like that.

Oh my, the excuses the excuses, now he doesn’t like packages delivered either! So you never plan to leave the house ever for the next few months? Well In that case good thing you stocked up.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:So, OCD? This is way beyond normal nesting!
OP, you've gone a little coocoo.
But, we forgive you as you are expecting.

OP here. I do suffer from mild OCD. The main thing is I will be the one to handle all of this stuff even after the baby comes, so I’m saving myself from doing it with it a baby. He hates clutter but never seems to mind when he buys stuff for no reason. All the stuff I bought fits in a walk-in closet in the guest room that we never use. The only things out are things for the baby like a swing, bouncer, and some stuff I will be making freezer meals with.

After a first couple of weeks, you will be desperate to get our of the house... with the baby!
Honestly, swing, bouncer all that might be unused! Safe your receipts. My kids hated every single one of those! Oh, if I could go back. I would probably have thousands of dollar more now!
Buying a few baby items is fine, it is the other stuff, toilet paper and cleaning supplies that is having me a bit stumped. When will you have the time for all that cleaning once your baby is born?

OP here. Those items were gifted to us from our registry. We did save the receipts so we can take them items we don’t she back.

I didn’t get much cleaning stuff. It was mostly things we will use. We buy almost everything from Costco. Laundry detergent stuff, TP, PT, NP, garbage bags, body wash, oral care items, dishwasher cleaner, medicine, frozen fruit/veggies, cooking oils, bulk can items, bulk granola bars, nuts, drinks, etc. My husband goes through ridiculous amount of peanut butter and we easily go through a 3lbs bag of frozen veggies and fruit in two weeks. I bought basically an extra of every non-food item and non-perishable food items. I stocked up our freezer with lots of meat and produce.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:She also posted the very similar thread, exact on Relationships forum!
Why?

OP here. It’s a relationship issue and I realized it would be better put in that category.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:So, OCD? This is way beyond normal nesting!
OP, you've gone a little coocoo.
But, we forgive you as you are expecting.

OP here. I do suffer from mild OCD. The main thing is I will be the one to handle all of this stuff even after the baby comes, so I’m saving myself from doing it with it a baby. He hates clutter but never seems to mind when he buys stuff for no reason. All the stuff I bought fits in a walk-in closet in the guest room that we never use. The only things out are things for the baby like a swing, bouncer, and some stuff I will be making freezer meals with.

I think you need to dial it down. Admit that you went a bit overboard to him (and yourself) and ask him for some grace in return. You’re not going to be in a bunker you will be making plenty of trips to cvs. Meanwhile please see someone about your anxiety for many of us it gets worse after birth (although better for some) and you really want to have a therapist on hand you can talk to and get prescription from if necessary. Also you need to start outsourcing and letting dh take care of some things, even if it’s not to your standards.

OP here. No. I won’t be making any trips to the store. My husband works 11-12 hour days. We will not have any help because we are not comfortable given the pandemic. He has made it clear he doesn’t want any childcare help ( we considered a PT nanny at one point) because we want to protect our baby as much as possible. My husband hates having packages constantly delivered and gets annoyed. I decided to save myself the time since I will be doing all of the shopping, meal prep, and cooking once the baby gets here as I usually do.

On a side note, I had two friends says the pampers they bought from Amazon were counterfeit. Apparently that is becoming a thing with third party sellers. Also amazon has been called out for selling expired items like formula. I don’t really trust it for baby products like that.

Oh my, the excuses the excuses, now he doesn’t like packages delivered either! So you never plan to leave the house ever for the next few months? Well In that case good thing you stocked up.

OP here. He doesn’t. He whines about the boxes.

We will get out for walks but I will not be taking a newborn to the store with me in the middle of the pandemic. We are not vaccinated.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:So, OCD? This is way beyond normal nesting!
OP, you've gone a little coocoo.
But, we forgive you as you are expecting.

OP here. I do suffer from mild OCD. The main thing is I will be the one to handle all of this stuff even after the baby comes, so I’m saving myself from doing it with it a baby. He hates clutter but never seems to mind when he buys stuff for no reason. All the stuff I bought fits in a walk-in closet in the guest room that we never use. The only things out are things for the baby like a swing, bouncer, and some stuff I will be making freezer meals with.

After a first couple of weeks, you will be desperate to get our of the house... with the baby!
Honestly, swing, bouncer all that might be unused! Safe your receipts. My kids hated every single one of those! Oh, if I could go back. I would probably have thousands of dollar more now!
Buying a few baby items is fine, it is the other stuff, toilet paper and cleaning supplies that is having me a bit stumped. When will you have the time for all that cleaning once your baby is born?

OP here. I will also be doing a lot of cleaning because my husband likes a clean home.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:So, OCD? This is way beyond normal nesting!
OP, you've gone a little coocoo.
But, we forgive you as you are expecting.

OP here. I do suffer from mild OCD. The main thing is I will be the one to handle all of this stuff even after the baby comes, so I’m saving myself from doing it with it a baby. He hates clutter but never seems to mind when he buys stuff for no reason. All the stuff I bought fits in a walk-in closet in the guest room that we never use. The only things out are things for the baby like a swing, bouncer, and some stuff I will be making freezer meals with.

I think you need to dial it down. Admit that you went a bit overboard to him (and yourself) and ask him for some grace in return. You’re not going to be in a bunker you will be making plenty of trips to cvs. Meanwhile please see someone about your anxiety for many of us it gets worse after birth (although better for some) and you really want to have a therapist on hand you can talk to and get prescription from if necessary. Also you need to start outsourcing and letting dh take care of some things, even if it’s not to your standards.

OP here. No. I won’t be making any trips to the store. My husband works 11-12 hour days. We will not have any help because we are not comfortable given the pandemic. He has made it clear he doesn’t want any childcare help ( we considered a PT nanny at one point) because we want to protect our baby as much as possible. My husband hates having packages constantly delivered and gets annoyed. I decided to save myself the time since I will be doing all of the shopping, meal prep, and cooking once the baby gets here as I usually do.

On a side note, I had two friends says the pampers they bought from Amazon were counterfeit. Apparently that is becoming a thing with third party sellers. Also amazon has been called out for selling expired items like formula. I don’t really trust it for baby products like that.

Ok, I see why you annoy your husband.

You will have to take the baby to the doctor. You will need a 6 week checkup.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:So, OCD? This is way beyond normal nesting!
OP, you've gone a little coocoo.
But, we forgive you as you are expecting.

OP here. I do suffer from mild OCD. The main thing is I will be the one to handle all of this stuff even after the baby comes, so I’m saving myself from doing it with it a baby. He hates clutter but never seems to mind when he buys stuff for no reason. All the stuff I bought fits in a walk-in closet in the guest room that we never use. The only things out are things for the baby like a swing, bouncer, and some stuff I will be making freezer meals with.

After a first couple of weeks, you will be desperate to get our of the house... with the baby!
Honestly, swing, bouncer all that might be unused! Safe your receipts. My kids hated every single one of those! Oh, if I could go back. I would probably have thousands of dollar more now!
Buying a few baby items is fine, it is the other stuff, toilet paper and cleaning supplies that is having me a bit stumped. When will you have the time for all that cleaning once your baby is born?

OP here. I will also be doing a lot of cleaning because my husband likes a clean home.

Then he can clean it. Your husband sounds controlling.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:So, OCD? This is way beyond normal nesting!
OP, you've gone a little coocoo.
But, we forgive you as you are expecting.

OP here. I do suffer from mild OCD. The main thing is I will be the one to handle all of this stuff even after the baby comes, so I’m saving myself from doing it with it a baby. He hates clutter but never seems to mind when he buys stuff for no reason. All the stuff I bought fits in a walk-in closet in the guest room that we never use. The only things out are things for the baby like a swing, bouncer, and some stuff I will be making freezer meals with.

I think you need to dial it down. Admit that you went a bit overboard to him (and yourself) and ask him for some grace in return. You’re not going to be in a bunker you will be making plenty of trips to cvs. Meanwhile please see someone about your anxiety for many of us it gets worse after birth (although better for some) and you really want to have a therapist on hand you can talk to and get prescription from if necessary. Also you need to start outsourcing and letting dh take care of some things, even if it’s not to your standards.

OP here. No. I won’t be making any trips to the store. My husband works 11-12 hour days. We will not have any help because we are not comfortable given the pandemic. He has made it clear he doesn’t want any childcare help ( we considered a PT nanny at one point) because we want to protect our baby as much as possible. My husband hates having packages constantly delivered and gets annoyed. I decided to save myself the time since I will be doing all of the shopping, meal prep, and cooking once the baby gets here as I usually do.

On a side note, I had two friends says the pampers they bought from Amazon were counterfeit. Apparently that is becoming a thing with third party sellers. Also amazon has been called out for selling expired items like formula. I don’t really trust it for baby products like that.

Ok, I see why you annoy your husband.

You will have to take the baby to the doctor. You will need a 6 week checkup.

OP here. Actually no we won’t. My husband found a service where the pediatrician and doctors come to your house. He did not want our baby in a doctors office.

[Anonymous]

I find it funny that in these threads everyone was saying the wife was right for doing exactly what OP is doing.

https://www.dcurbanmom.com/jforum/posts/list/909776.page

https://www.dcurbanmom.com/jforum/posts/list/950888.page

[Anonymous]

I have a large house with a walk-in pantry and I get overwhelmed just thinking about $5k worth of household stuff. And yes, I do shop at Costco in bulk. Why would you do this to yourself? Nowadays, Amazon and Target will deliver through subscribe and save without much thought or effort on your part. The 6 months of diapers is crazy, you don’t know what will work and how quickly your baby will grow.

I advise new parents to buy the bare minimum (that’s all you need with a newborn anyways) and everything from there is a trial and error.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I find it funny that in these threads everyone was saying the wife was right for doing exactly what OP is doing.

https://www.dcurbanmom.com/jforum/posts/list/909776.page

https://www.dcurbanmom.com/jforum/posts/list/950888.page

Yeah, there is a difference between buying an expensive crib at RH (go for it if you can afford it) and cluttering your home with $5k of paper goods.

New expecting moms is like a dream target market, they will spend with abandon, even sell a kidney to get the best for their baby.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have a large house with a walk-in pantry and I get overwhelmed just thinking about $5k worth of household stuff. And yes, I do shop at Costco in bulk. Why would you do this to yourself? Nowadays, Amazon and Target will deliver through subscribe and save without much thought or effort on your part. The 6 months of diapers is crazy, you don’t know what will work and how quickly your baby will grow.

I advise new parents to buy the bare minimum (that’s all you need with a newborn anyways) and everything from there is a trial and error.

Yeah the diapers part is insane as well we switched brands and sizes Bc of diaper rash and some weren’t as tight or too tight and I’m dying to know what sizes she bought too.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I find it funny that in these threads everyone was saying the wife was right for doing exactly what OP is doing.

https://www.dcurbanmom.com/jforum/posts/list/909776.page

https://www.dcurbanmom.com/jforum/posts/list/950888.page

If you haven't noticed, DCUM is full of groupthink and sheeple, how the thread will go is determined by the first few responses.