Husband Criticizing Me

[Anonymous]

I find it funny that in these threads everyone was saying the wife was right for doing exactly what OP is doing.

https://www.dcurbanmom.com/jforum/posts/list/909776.page

https://www.dcurbanmom.com/jforum/posts/list/950888.page

[Anonymous]

I have a large house with a walk-in pantry and I get overwhelmed just thinking about $5k worth of household stuff. And yes, I do shop at Costco in bulk. Why would you do this to yourself? Nowadays, Amazon and Target will deliver through subscribe and save without much thought or effort on your part. The 6 months of diapers is crazy, you don’t know what will work and how quickly your baby will grow.

I advise new parents to buy the bare minimum (that’s all you need with a newborn anyways) and everything from there is a trial and error.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I find it funny that in these threads everyone was saying the wife was right for doing exactly what OP is doing.

https://www.dcurbanmom.com/jforum/posts/list/909776.page

https://www.dcurbanmom.com/jforum/posts/list/950888.page

Yeah, there is a difference between buying an expensive crib at RH (go for it if you can afford it) and cluttering your home with $5k of paper goods.

New expecting moms is like a dream target market, they will spend with abandon, even sell a kidney to get the best for their baby.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have a large house with a walk-in pantry and I get overwhelmed just thinking about $5k worth of household stuff. And yes, I do shop at Costco in bulk. Why would you do this to yourself? Nowadays, Amazon and Target will deliver through subscribe and save without much thought or effort on your part. The 6 months of diapers is crazy, you don’t know what will work and how quickly your baby will grow.

I advise new parents to buy the bare minimum (that’s all you need with a newborn anyways) and everything from there is a trial and error.

Yeah the diapers part is insane as well we switched brands and sizes Bc of diaper rash and some weren’t as tight or too tight and I’m dying to know what sizes she bought too.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I find it funny that in these threads everyone was saying the wife was right for doing exactly what OP is doing.

https://www.dcurbanmom.com/jforum/posts/list/909776.page

https://www.dcurbanmom.com/jforum/posts/list/950888.page

If you haven't noticed, DCUM is full of groupthink and sheeple, how the thread will go is determined by the first few responses.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have a large house with a walk-in pantry and I get overwhelmed just thinking about $5k worth of household stuff. And yes, I do shop at Costco in bulk. Why would you do this to yourself? Nowadays, Amazon and Target will deliver through subscribe and save without much thought or effort on your part. The 6 months of diapers is crazy, you don’t know what will work and how quickly your baby will grow.

I advise new parents to buy the bare minimum (that’s all you need with a newborn anyways) and everything from there is a trial and error.

OP said she bought the rest of her baby registry items, stroller system, and the Snoo with that money. I’m assuming she maybe spent half of that money on actual household stuff. It’s really not that bad.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:So, OCD? This is way beyond normal nesting!
OP, you've gone a little coocoo.
But, we forgive you as you are expecting.

OP here. I do suffer from mild OCD. The main thing is I will be the one to handle all of this stuff even after the baby comes, so I’m saving myself from doing it with it a baby. He hates clutter but never seems to mind when he buys stuff for no reason. All the stuff I bought fits in a walk-in closet in the guest room that we never use. The only things out are things for the baby like a swing, bouncer, and some stuff I will be making freezer meals with.

I think you need to dial it down. Admit that you went a bit overboard to him (and yourself) and ask him for some grace in return. You’re not going to be in a bunker you will be making plenty of trips to cvs. Meanwhile please see someone about your anxiety for many of us it gets worse after birth (although better for some) and you really want to have a therapist on hand you can talk to and get prescription from if necessary. Also you need to start outsourcing and letting dh take care of some things, even if it’s not to your standards.

OP here. No. I won’t be making any trips to the store. My husband works 11-12 hour days. We will not have any help because we are not comfortable given the pandemic. He has made it clear he doesn’t want any childcare help ( we considered a PT nanny at one point) because we want to protect our baby as much as possible. My husband hates having packages constantly delivered and gets annoyed. I decided to save myself the time since I will be doing all of the shopping, meal prep, and cooking once the baby gets here as I usually do.

On a side note, I had two friends says the pampers they bought from Amazon were counterfeit. Apparently that is becoming a thing with third party sellers. Also amazon has been called out for selling expired items like formula. I don’t really trust it for baby products like that.

Ok, I see why you annoy your husband.

You will have to take the baby to the doctor. You will need a 6 week checkup.

OP here. Actually no we won’t. My husband found a service where the pediatrician and doctors come to your house. He did not want our baby in a doctors office.

Your husband sounds nuts.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:So, OCD? This is way beyond normal nesting!
OP, you've gone a little coocoo.
But, we forgive you as you are expecting.

OP here. I do suffer from mild OCD. The main thing is I will be the one to handle all of this stuff even after the baby comes, so I’m saving myself from doing it with it a baby. He hates clutter but never seems to mind when he buys stuff for no reason. All the stuff I bought fits in a walk-in closet in the guest room that we never use. The only things out are things for the baby like a swing, bouncer, and some stuff I will be making freezer meals with.

I think you need to dial it down. Admit that you went a bit overboard to him (and yourself) and ask him for some grace in return. You’re not going to be in a bunker you will be making plenty of trips to cvs. Meanwhile please see someone about your anxiety for many of us it gets worse after birth (although better for some) and you really want to have a therapist on hand you can talk to and get prescription from if necessary. Also you need to start outsourcing and letting dh take care of some things, even if it’s not to your standards.

OP here. No. I won’t be making any trips to the store. My husband works 11-12 hour days. We will not have any help because we are not comfortable given the pandemic. He has made it clear he doesn’t want any childcare help ( we considered a PT nanny at one point) because we want to protect our baby as much as possible. My husband hates having packages constantly delivered and gets annoyed. I decided to save myself the time since I will be doing all of the shopping, meal prep, and cooking once the baby gets here as I usually do.

On a side note, I had two friends says the pampers they bought from Amazon were counterfeit. Apparently that is becoming a thing with third party sellers. Also amazon has been called out for selling expired items like formula. I don’t really trust it for baby products like that.

He can't have it both ways. Either he goes out and gets what you need, deals with delivery, or deals with the stockpile. Those are the choices. The only issues is the diapers as others have pointed out.

[Anonymous]

You need a network to rely on. Friends and family who will check on you. Doulas, lactation consultants. This is not a time for bunker mentality op, you don’t want to be isolated with a newborn especially if your dh is working those hours. Please don’t set yourself apart like this.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I find it funny that in these threads everyone was saying the wife was right for doing exactly what OP is doing.

https://www.dcurbanmom.com/jforum/posts/list/909776.page

https://www.dcurbanmom.com/jforum/posts/list/950888.page

Yeah, there is a difference between buying an expensive crib at RH (go for it if you can afford it) and cluttering your home with $5k of paper goods.

New expecting moms is like a dream target market, they will spend with abandon, even sell a kidney to get the best for their baby.

OP here. I already clarified I didn’t spend the entire 5k on household stuff. I spent most of that on the baby. We spent 2k ( not included in the 5k) on the nursery. We didn’t buy an expensive crib or anything like that. The most expensive item was the glider.

I spent about $1200 at Costco and $200 at Target for post-partum items. The rest of the 5k was baby stuff ( registry and diapers - $500), the UppaBaby stroller travel system ( $1200), The Snoo ( $1500).

[Anonymous]

OP is prepared for a nuclear winter

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:So, OCD? This is way beyond normal nesting!
OP, you've gone a little coocoo.
But, we forgive you as you are expecting.

OP here. I do suffer from mild OCD. The main thing is I will be the one to handle all of this stuff even after the baby comes, so I’m saving myself from doing it with it a baby. He hates clutter but never seems to mind when he buys stuff for no reason. All the stuff I bought fits in a walk-in closet in the guest room that we never use. The only things out are things for the baby like a swing, bouncer, and some stuff I will be making freezer meals with.

I think you need to dial it down. Admit that you went a bit overboard to him (and yourself) and ask him for some grace in return. You’re not going to be in a bunker you will be making plenty of trips to cvs. Meanwhile please see someone about your anxiety for many of us it gets worse after birth (although better for some) and you really want to have a therapist on hand you can talk to and get prescription from if necessary. Also you need to start outsourcing and letting dh take care of some things, even if it’s not to your standards.

OP here. No. I won’t be making any trips to the store. My husband works 11-12 hour days. We will not have any help because we are not comfortable given the pandemic. He has made it clear he doesn’t want any childcare help ( we considered a PT nanny at one point) because we want to protect our baby as much as possible. My husband hates having packages constantly delivered and gets annoyed. I decided to save myself the time since I will be doing all of the shopping, meal prep, and cooking once the baby gets here as I usually do.

On a side note, I had two friends says the pampers they bought from Amazon were counterfeit. Apparently that is becoming a thing with third party sellers. Also amazon has been called out for selling expired items like formula. I don’t really trust it for baby products like that.

Ok, I see why you annoy your husband.

You will have to take the baby to the doctor. You will need a 6 week checkup.

OP here. Actually no we won’t. My husband found a service where the pediatrician and doctors come to your house. He did not want our baby in a doctors office.

Your husband sounds nuts.

Don’t believe the OP, I doubt any of this is real except her buying 2K plus of house junk. So her husband works 24/7, hates boxes delivery, wants a clean house always, and hires magical doctors and pediatricians so the OP never leaves the house. Or is it just that her husband called her out for her ridiculous spending? The easiest answer is the right answer.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:So, OCD? This is way beyond normal nesting!
OP, you've gone a little coocoo.
But, we forgive you as you are expecting.

OP here. I do suffer from mild OCD. The main thing is I will be the one to handle all of this stuff even after the baby comes, so I’m saving myself from doing it with it a baby. He hates clutter but never seems to mind when he buys stuff for no reason. All the stuff I bought fits in a walk-in closet in the guest room that we never use. The only things out are things for the baby like a swing, bouncer, and some stuff I will be making freezer meals with.

I think you need to dial it down. Admit that you went a bit overboard to him (and yourself) and ask him for some grace in return. You’re not going to be in a bunker you will be making plenty of trips to cvs. Meanwhile please see someone about your anxiety for many of us it gets worse after birth (although better for some) and you really want to have a therapist on hand you can talk to and get prescription from if necessary. Also you need to start outsourcing and letting dh take care of some things, even if it’s not to your standards.

OP here. No. I won’t be making any trips to the store. My husband works 11-12 hour days. We will not have any help because we are not comfortable given the pandemic. He has made it clear he doesn’t want any childcare help ( we considered a PT nanny at one point) because we want to protect our baby as much as possible. My husband hates having packages constantly delivered and gets annoyed. I decided to save myself the time since I will be doing all of the shopping, meal prep, and cooking once the baby gets here as I usually do.

On a side note, I had two friends says the pampers they bought from Amazon were counterfeit. Apparently that is becoming a thing with third party sellers. Also amazon has been called out for selling expired items like formula. I don’t really trust it for baby products like that.

He can't have it both ways. Either he goes out and gets what you need, deals with delivery, or deals with the stockpile. Those are the choices. The only issues is the diapers as others have pointed out.

OP here. All of this items fit in our walk-in closet in the guest room that we never use. The only things that are out are the baby items.

I did get a bunch of diapers but we can always save them or gift them. I got about 2 boxes of each size ( newborn, 1, and 2). Two of our friends are expecting later this year. We can give them any unused diapers. I don’t think it’s that big of a deal.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I find it funny that in these threads everyone was saying the wife was right for doing exactly what OP is doing.

https://www.dcurbanmom.com/jforum/posts/list/909776.page

https://www.dcurbanmom.com/jforum/posts/list/950888.page

Yeah, there is a difference between buying an expensive crib at RH (go for it if you can afford it) and cluttering your home with $5k of paper goods.

New expecting moms is like a dream target market, they will spend with abandon, even sell a kidney to get the best for their baby.

OP here. I already clarified I didn’t spend the entire 5k on household stuff. I spent most of that on the baby. We spent 2k ( not included in the 5k) on the nursery. We didn’t buy an expensive crib or anything like that. The most expensive item was the glider.

I spent about $1200 at Costco and $200 at Target for post-partum items. The rest of the 5k was baby stuff ( registry and diapers - $500), the UppaBaby stroller travel system ( $1200), The Snoo ( $1500).

NP. That’s not bad. The Snoo and the UppaBaby Stroller are big ticket items. I have no idea how many batteries and saltines you bought at Costco though.

JK. You’re nesting.

[Anonymous]

From my experience on stocking up, a lot of things I didn't need/use. Spending 5K is a lot of money. I'm with your husband on this. Unless you live hours from any store, there is no need to go crazy.