Dad’s girlfriend has officially taken over

[Anonymous]

I’m sorry, OP.

[Anonymous]

Where’s OP? Their disappearance makes me think this is a troll with a worn out story.

[Anonymous]

He’s a grown adult who can make his own choices.

Why blame her?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If he’s mentally competent, he is the only one to blame for not seeing his family. Would you let your spouse cut you off from your family if you wanted to see them? Of course not. Don’t blame her, blame him (and I’m a first wife married to a first husband, not an evil stepmother, lol).

I agree with this. He’s going along with her. She isn’t holding him hostage. Yes she sounds like a bad person, but he’s perfectly happy to oblige her.

Is she much younger? Attractive? Does she wait on him hand and foot?

Some people are just wusses

[Anonymous]

It does sound like early cognitive decline. My uncle who was the most stubborn independent minded person on earth became very dependent on my aunt to make decisions for him. It’s common.

This is sort of a lesson for women to take steps to put assets in trust for your kids before you die, rather than letting your husband inherit everything — it’s all going to go to second wives kids. If there are things of their moms they really want, like her jewelry, china, art, etc….they should try to get it now, in a nice way. Go visit when she might not be home, say “oh dad, I’d really love that painting mom loved, it makes me think of her — is it okay if I take it?”

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If she’s already preventing him from seeing his children and grandchildren at Christmas, the war is over and you lost. The inheritance is gone. There’s nothing you can do at this point.

She is still girl friend not wife.
Unless she is a wife and OP doesn’t know about it yet.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:With that attitude, I can't imagine why she doesn't want to spend time with you.

STFU

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It does sound like early cognitive decline. My uncle who was the most stubborn independent minded person on earth became very dependent on my aunt to make decisions for him. It’s common.

This is sort of a lesson for women to take steps to put assets in trust for your kids before you die, rather than letting your husband inherit everything — it’s all going to go to second wives kids. If there are things of their moms they really want, like her jewelry, china, art, etc….they should try to get it now, in a nice way. Go visit when she might not be home, say “oh dad, I’d really love that painting mom loved, it makes me think of her — is it okay if I take it?”

If you suspect congnitive decline, that is blatantly illegal.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:With that attitude, I can't imagine why she doesn't want to spend time with you.

What’s wrong with OP’s attitude? I think OP sounds more than reasonable. Are you dad’s GF?

Read the post again. Does that sound like someone who is pleasant to be around? You don't think that's going to come out other ways?

Yeah, I agree with you -- I had the same reaction to that first post. OP doesn't sound terribly credible, either (the whole thing about how the new wife supposedly wants the dad to come home and "open a jar or whatever" rings as exaggerated at best). DP

[Anonymous]

This is the almost inevitable legacy of divorce. Sometimes the new partner is benevolent, but it's rare. Most are at the very best neutral, which means they are going to look out for themselves and their kids. Many are horrible. And even with the benevolent ones some tension -- whether it has to do with time or financial resources or whatever -- is almost unavoidable.

People remarry (or move in with a SO), and that's their family now. It's really unfortunate, but that's almost always the way it is.

[Anonymous]

Many older men are more concerned with having a companion so they aren't lonely, and keeping them happy in hopes they will help them age to the end. And in their minds, the cost is keeping the companion happy.

The men know that many kids don't help with care, and definitely don't provide every day companionship.

[Anonymous]

Your dad is Bill Belichick?

[Anonymous]

OP, have you considered that the calls for help from the GF might be prearranged escape plans?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It does sound like early cognitive decline. My uncle who was the most stubborn independent minded person on earth became very dependent on my aunt to make decisions for him. It’s common.

This is sort of a lesson for women to take steps to put assets in trust for your kids before you die, rather than letting your husband inherit everything — it’s all going to go to second wives kids. If there are things of their moms they really want, like her jewelry, china, art, etc….they should try to get it now, in a nice way. Go visit when she might not be home, say “oh dad, I’d really love that painting mom loved, it makes me think of her — is it okay if I take it?”

If you suspect congnitive decline, that is blatantly illegal.

DP. Oh please. That’s what all those new girlfriends do yet you suggest that kids should just keel over and let them win?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:With that attitude, I can't imagine why she doesn't want to spend time with you.

You suck but you already knew that.