Private School Lacrosse Thread

[Anonymous]

Wow, this thread is interesting. What is it about lacrosse that brings out this childish behavior in adults? You don't see this with other sports like football, basketball, or soccer. Would love to hear any insight on this. It is quite the psychological phenomenon.

[Anonymous]

It's a 100x worst in basketball. You have clearly never been around a gym during the summer. Lacrosse for the most part is a sport played by upper middle class families, with a few exceptions. Of course you will find some obnoxious parents in the stands. My son happens to play lacrosse and while I have witnessed poor behavior in the stands, it's lags behind what I have experienced in the gym with my daughter. Basketball is a whole different crowd, and for some families, it's their ticket to get their kid into college.

I find this thread to be very entertaining and clearly there are some very disgruntled STA lacrosse parents on here.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It's a 100x worst in basketball. You have clearly never been around a gym during the summer. Lacrosse for the most part is a sport played by upper middle class families, with a few exceptions. Of course you will find some obnoxious parents in the stands. My son happens to play lacrosse and while I have witnessed poor behavior in the stands, it's lags behind what I have experienced in the gym with my daughter. Basketball is a whole different crowd, and for some families, it's their ticket to get their kid into college.

I find this thread to be very entertaining and clearly there are some very disgruntled STA lacrosse parents on here.

+100 A friend's son and daughter play basketball and the stories I hear from him makes lax parents look like tots in the sandbox. But a lot more is riding on basketball, as you pointed out, not only for college but then professional play afterwards.

[Anonymous]

No, I disagree... LAX parents are the worse (I know, I am one myself)

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Wow, this thread is interesting. What is it about lacrosse that brings out this childish behavior in adults? You don't see this with other sports like football, basketball, or soccer. Would love to hear any insight on this. It is quite the psychological phenomenon.

+1. This thread is awful. Are these full grown men (and women??) dishing on HIGH SCHOOL lacrosse?? who cares? Let the kids have fun playing sports in high school. Even the guys I knew who were excellent in high school and went on to play in college --> never picked up a lacrosse stick afterwards. Hopefully your children aren't learning this crazy from you.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Potomac School 7 St Alban's 6

Potomac has been playing well this year, but I was expecting St Alban's to win this one. Does St Alban's have injuries/suspensions or is Potomac just better?

Panthers played better that day. Obviously. We had the superior FOGO and our defense swallowed up STAs attackmen, who were also missing slam dunk goals and making a lot of unforced errors. There looked to be a few injured players not suited up, but my son said none were starters. Maybe STA will get their act together next time. But yesterday's loss was well deserved.

I think we found our embarrassing STA poster. They will finish 6th in IAC, same as always.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:How do you loose your job prior to the season?

Google Joseph S. Triginani you will find a news article from 2001 that has been making the rounds in the lax community.

That's how!

Very happy for Coach Speaks. Team is playing great. Nice rebound from potential Trig tsunami.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Wow, this thread is interesting. What is it about lacrosse that brings out this childish behavior in adults? You don't see this with other sports like football, basketball, or soccer. Would love to hear any insight on this. It is quite the psychological phenomenon.

I'm sure the answer is multi-layered and I do not profess to have all the answers save one. It has been, and I know this is changing, a sport populated by prep school boys and the wealthy east coast suburban public school set. There is a sense among both parents and students that this sport is somehow different in its exclusivity. Not many people play it. Not many people are given the opportunity to play it. It's like the Skull and Bones of sports. Those in the club skew rich, so there is already much potential for a sense of entitlement/arrogance, and this sense of clubbiness and exclusivity resulting from the LAX experience only fans the flames of asshole-ness.

[Anonymous]

As an old STA parent, I can tell you that losing to Potomac in any sport used to be an embarrassment. Even when STA teams were struggling, it was a given that Potomac would be a W. Congrats to the AD at Potomac, who has devoted his career to making Potomac competitive in sports. Apparently, it is a case of "Mission Accomplished." Wonder if he wants another challenge?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Wow, this thread is interesting. What is it about lacrosse that brings out this childish behavior in adults? You don't see this with other sports like football, basketball, or soccer. Would love to hear any insight on this. It is quite the psychological phenomenon.

I'm sure the answer is multi-layered and I do not profess to have all the answers save one. It has been, and I know this is changing, a sport populated by prep school boys and the wealthy east coast suburban public school set. There is a sense among both parents and students that this sport is somehow different in its exclusivity. Not many people play it. Not many people are given the opportunity to play it. It's like the Skull and Bones of sports. Those in the club skew rich, so there is already much potential for a sense of entitlement/arrogance, and this sense of clubbiness and exclusivity resulting from the LAX experience only fans the flames of asshole-ness.

In Baltimore and D.C. Area that's still true.

In New York State, it's the public schools that dominate the game.

[Anonymous]

It is not a fight over scholarships and $, but securing spots at the Ivies and top public schools. I think this is the biggest factor in creating a perception that this is a snobby sport. And please don't respond that that there are scholarships for lacrosse in college. A full ride or even 1/2 is a unicorn at a top public and no athletic aid at Ivies.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Wow, this thread is interesting. What is it about lacrosse that brings out this childish behavior in adults? You don't see this with other sports like football, basketball, or soccer. Would love to hear any insight on this. It is quite the psychological phenomenon.

I'm sure the answer is multi-layered and I do not profess to have all the answers save one. It has been, and I know this is changing, a sport populated by prep school boys and the wealthy east coast suburban public school set. There is a sense among both parents and students that this sport is somehow different in its exclusivity. Not many people play it. Not many people are given the opportunity to play it. It's like the Skull and Bones of sports. Those in the club skew rich, so there is already much potential for a sense of entitlement/arrogance, and this sense of clubbiness and exclusivity resulting from the LAX experience only fans the flames of asshole-ness.

+1 Could not agree more. the parents are just insufferable. Any time my kid has a game, I sit far away from anyof the parents. The Fathers are all reliving past glory or hoping to achieve some through their kids. They all walk around with their chests puffed out thinking they are really it. The Coaches are barely tolerable as well. My kids have done just about every sport except rugby and the lacrosse coaches are the least supportive of any of the other sports. It is always about them.
Lacrosse is a great game but the adults have ruined it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Wow, this thread is interesting. What is it about lacrosse that brings out this childish behavior in adults? You don't see this with other sports like football, basketball, or soccer. Would love to hear any insight on this. It is quite the psychological phenomenon.

I'm sure the answer is multi-layered and I do not profess to have all the answers save one. It has been, and I know this is changing, a sport populated by prep school boys and the wealthy east coast suburban public school set. There is a sense among both parents and students that this sport is somehow different in its exclusivity. Not many people play it. Not many people are given the opportunity to play it. It's like the Skull and Bones of sports. Those in the club skew rich, so there is already much potential for a sense of entitlement/arrogance, and this sense of clubbiness and exclusivity resulting from the LAX experience only fans the flames of asshole-ness.

+1 Could not agree more. the parents are just insufferable. Any time my kid has a game, I sit far away from anyof the parents. The Fathers are all reliving past glory or hoping to achieve some through their kids. They all walk around with their chests puffed out thinking they are really it. The Coaches are barely tolerable as well. My kids have done just about every sport except rugby and the lacrosse coaches are the least supportive of any of the other sports. It is always about them.
Lacrosse is a great game but the adults have ruined it.

My kid plays JV lacrosse at a highly respected private school mentioned on this forum quite often. I have to say I have met some nice parents and some a-holes too. Interestingly, the nice parents I know have kids playing most of the time. The a-holes tend the be the ones whose kids are mostly on the sidelines. Perhaps it is a frustration factor. My kid hardly plays, and while that is frustrating, I don't feel the urge to scream at the other players if they do something wrong (or right for that matter). I'm a mom by the way.

[Anonymous]

Every sport has their faire share of lunatic parents.

I see no difference between a lacrosse parents and soccer parents. I have years of experience of watching both sports from the sidelines.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Wow, this thread is interesting. What is it about lacrosse that brings out this childish behavior in adults? You don't see this with other sports like football, basketball, or soccer. Would love to hear any insight on this. It is quite the psychological phenomenon.

I'm sure the answer is multi-layered and I do not profess to have all the answers save one. It has been, and I know this is changing, a sport populated by prep school boys and the wealthy east coast suburban public school set. There is a sense among both parents and students that this sport is somehow different in its exclusivity. Not many people play it. Not many people are given the opportunity to play it. It's like the Skull and Bones of sports. Those in the club skew rich, so there is already much potential for a sense of entitlement/arrogance, and this sense of clubbiness and exclusivity resulting from the LAX experience only fans the flames of asshole-ness.

+1 Could not agree more. the parents are just insufferable. Any time my kid has a game, I sit far away from anyof the parents. The Fathers are all reliving past glory or hoping to achieve some through their kids. They all walk around with their chests puffed out thinking they are really it. The Coaches are barely tolerable as well. My kids have done just about every sport except rugby and the lacrosse coaches are the least supportive of any of the other sports. It is always about them.
Lacrosse is a great game but the adults have ruined it.

My kid plays JV lacrosse at a highly respected private school mentioned on this forum quite often. I have to say I have met some nice parents and some a-holes too. Interestingly, the nice parents I know have kids playing most of the time. The a-holes tend the be the ones whose kids are mostly on the sidelines. Perhaps it is a frustration factor. My kid hardly plays, and while that is frustrating, I don't feel the urge to scream at the other players if they do something wrong (or right for that matter). I'm a mom by the way.

Are the a-hole ones also those who describe their kids' school as "a highly respected private...?"