husband wants to keep baby and I don't

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Anonymous wrote:I can’t believe you guys are feeding this for 20 pages. Do you seriously think someone would consider abortion over their child inheriting less? OP is trying to propagate the idea that pro-choice women are just cold, greedy and selfish. Prolifers think all women who have an abortion are heartless and selfish and every one of you who is pro choice know that’s not true. Please stop feeding this troll.

My sister had an abortion when she found out she was having a boy. She and her husband only want one child and they want that child to be a girl.

Not in the US, no.

Huh?

This is a gross misuse of abortion. She should be ashamed.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:OP’s daughter is going to be seriously messed up when she finds out her family was wrecked because her mom insisted on aborting her sibling (especially over money when there’s no indication they are living hand to mouth).

Nah, by 11 she is well used to being an only child, and would probably be quite put out to have a squalling infant introduced into her life.

I’m not thinking she is going to find out at 11. More likely as a teen or young adult.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP’s daughter is going to be seriously messed up when she finds out her family was wrecked because her mom insisted on aborting her sibling (especially over money when there’s no indication they are living hand to mouth).

DD will probably never hear about it and OPs DH will probably forget the whole thing in 6 months. Just a whim of his. OP is right to think about finances. She doesn’t need extensive therapy to know that kids are expensive. Especially later in life.
It seems like some of the PPs need therapy more for getting so worked up about it.

[Anonymous]

“Honey way back in 2019 I had a pregnancy that didn’t work out. I miscarried...” 15 years from now ...

[Anonymous]

What does PP mean? How would a miscarriage explain a divorce?

Anyway, I cannot understand how OP or her DH didn’t take precautions to have surgical birth control in 11 years! Even if a doctor said it wasn’t wise after 1st child, 11 years is more than enough time to get a vasectomy or tubal ligation especially when they were so set against future children.

[Anonymous]

This has to be one of the saddest threads I’ve read in a long time. There just aren’t any winners and I can’t see a way that this couple gets over this.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:“Honey way back in 2019 I had a pregnancy that didn’t work out. I miscarried...” 15 years from now ...

I think the 11 year old won’t wait 15 years to ask what happened. The parents weren’t fighting and suddenly they were.
And if the DD asks the dad? Or more likely, the stepmother lets it slip or the child overhears the father and stepmother discussing it?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:“Honey way back in 2019 I had a pregnancy that didn’t work out. I miscarried...” 15 years from now ...

I think the 11 year old won’t wait 15 years to ask what happened. The parents weren’t fighting and suddenly they were.
And if the DD asks the dad? Or more likely, the stepmother lets it slip or the child overhears the father and stepmother discussing it?

I’m sure they were fighting. Anyone who reacts to have this baby or I’m out of here is not a very understanding person. People who are divorced fling statements back and forth. DD is not going to care as much as you PPs about a possible baby that was never born.

[Anonymous]

No one will ever be able to prove it wasn’t a miscarriage. It’s his word against hers. But I doubt he will really divorce her and if he does she will be ok and he will be the divorced dad. We all know how marginal that can be.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:“Honey way back in 2019 I had a pregnancy that didn’t work out. I miscarried...” 15 years from now ...

I think the 11 year old won’t wait 15 years to ask what happened. The parents weren’t fighting and suddenly they were.
And if the DD asks the dad? Or more likely, the stepmother lets it slip or the child overhears the father and stepmother discussing it?

I’m sure they were fighting. Anyone who reacts to have this baby or I’m out of here is not a very understanding person. People who are divorced fling statements back and forth. DD is not going to care as much as you PPs about a possible baby that was never born.

OP hasn’t mentioned any prior fighting.

And a person who thinks a big inheritance is a sensible reason for an abortion of a baby the spouse wants lacks understanding, too.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:No one will ever be able to prove it wasn’t a miscarriage. It’s his word against hers. But I doubt he will really divorce her and if he does she will be ok and he will be the divorced dad. We all know how marginal that can be.

Now, OP will also have to lie.

Not to mention that it is illogical that they would divorce because the mom miscarried. How is that supposed to play out believably:

Mom miscarries in late Dec and in early Jan, Dad files for divorce, but he’s lying when he says she aborted my younger sibling?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:No one will ever be able to prove it wasn’t a miscarriage. It’s his word against hers. But I doubt he will really divorce her and if he does she will be ok and he will be the divorced dad. We all know how marginal that can be.

Now, OP will also have to lie.

Not to mention that it is illogical that they would divorce because the mom miscarried. How is that supposed to play out believably:

Mom miscarries in late Dec and in early Jan, Dad files for divorce, but he’s lying when he says she aborted my younger sibling?

He's lying or she's lying. The kid has to choose one. Why is Dad more believable than Mom?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP’s daughter is going to be seriously messed up when she finds out her family was wrecked because her mom insisted on aborting her sibling (especially over money when there’s no indication they are living hand to mouth).

How so? I wouldn't especially care, if it were my mother.

Even if that is true, OP's daughter is going to be seriously messed up if her mother has a baby and doesn't want it. That's a recipe for misery and a divorce.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:“Honey way back in 2019 I had a pregnancy that didn’t work out. I miscarried...” 15 years from now ...

I think the 11 year old won’t wait 15 years to ask what happened. The parents weren’t fighting and suddenly they were.
And if the DD asks the dad? Or more likely, the stepmother lets it slip or the child overhears the father and stepmother discussing it?

I’m sure they were fighting. Anyone who reacts to have this baby or I’m out of here is not a very understanding person. People who are divorced fling statements back and forth. DD is not going to care as much as you PPs about a possible baby that was never born.

OP hasn’t mentioned any prior fighting.

And a person who thinks a big inheritance is a sensible reason for an abortion of a baby the spouse wants lacks understanding, too.

Just stop. Pro Birth is not a reason to not terminate a pregnancy.

OP has left the thread. You do you. She will do her and what is best for her.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:OP’s daughter is going to be seriously messed up when she finds out her family was wrecked because her mom insisted on aborting her sibling (especially over money when there’s no indication they are living hand to mouth).

How so? I wouldn't especially care, if it were my mother.

Even if that is true, OP's daughter is going to be seriously messed up if her mother has a baby and doesn't want it. That's a recipe for misery and a divorce.

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