husband wants to keep baby and I don't

[Anonymous]

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Your husband is very selfish indeed for moving the goalposts.

You have every right to abort.

One option is to give up the baby for adoption, but I understand you might not want to carry a baby to term in those conditions.

+1. Everyone jumping on OP conveniently forgets this point. Not once but twice. Grossly unfair.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:It’s your body.

And her husband's baby and her DD's sibling.

No, it's a fetus. Not a baby.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It’s your body.

And her husband's baby and her DD's sibling.

You think her 13 yo kid has a say in this woman’s bodily choices? Wow, next thing you know her kid will be voting in 2020 for her.

Canada seems to think this is a good idea.

https://www.thepostmillennial.com/ontario-ndp-passes-resolution-to-lower-voting-age-to-14/

[Anonymous]

You are newly pregnant. There is still a lot of time for something to naturally go wrong (miscarriage and stillbirth). I had two at 6 weeks and 10 weeks. An inconclusive NIPT or NT could make him worry about genetic issues. The bigger issue to me would be a partner who is so not supportive.

[Anonymous]

Plenty of people would give anything to adopt your baby.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:
Your husband is very selfish indeed for moving the goalposts.

You have every right to abort.

One option is to give up the baby for adoption, but I understand you might not want to carry a baby to term in those conditions.

+1. Everyone jumping on OP conveniently forgets this point. Not once but twice. Grossly unfair.

Did I miss the part where OP got her tubes tied? Didn’t think so.

[Anonymous]

OP I wouldn’t trade my siblings for all the money in the world.

[Anonymous]

There's no way for you to stay married unless you get a chemical abortion and tell your spouse you had a miscarriage. He's going to be suspicious anyway.

Not the best idea but the only way you keep an intact marriage.

And if you get through this - go get your tubes tied.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Plenty of people would give anything to adopt your baby.

So what? She doesn’t owe a stranger a baby.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’m sorry OP. I got PG unexpectedly after having kids/feeling our family was complete- and did have an abortion. I had DHs support though. So- no judgment at all for considering abortion.

I don’t think the inheritance issue is a valid reason, and is part of why some are criticizing you.

How is your marriage otherwise? Day to day logistics? Is DH the point “parent”? Enough $$ to hire things out, quality nanny etc etc?

If DH was willing to be the hands on parent day to day, $ was good, and I was happy in my marriage otherwise- I’d probably have the DB.

If I was unhappy or shaky in my marriage in the first place, or DH was “all talk no action” (leaving the bulk of parenting to me)- I’d terminate.

I’d call and make an appt for an abortion now- I was very surprised at how long it took to get in (and can always be cancelled)

If I agreed to continue the pregnancy it would be contingent on a clean CVS result (I am assuming you are older)- which I would schedule at first opportunity.

Just what my thought process would be. It would really hinge on my feelings about my marriage. Either way- good luck- it will be ok!!

And you know it is DCUM and there are lots of judgy bitches on here- don’t take it personally.

Np if op didn't want any opinions she would NOT have posted here. If you can't take the heat then stay out of the kitchen!

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It’s your body.

And her husband's baby and her DD's sibling.

You think her 13 yo kid has a say in this woman’s bodily choices? Wow, next thing you know her kid will be voting in 2020 for her.

Canada seems to think this is a good idea.

https://www.thepostmillennial.com/ontario-ndp-passes-resolution-to-lower-voting-age-to-14/

Learn to read. PP is implying that the 11 year old child has a say in a 30+ yo woman's body.

[Anonymous]

You could live to be 100 yrs old or older. Your kid better be able to support herself without the inheritance. Ultimately it is your choice. Make sure you are okay being a single parent though.

[Anonymous]

Ugh, with your attitude, it might be best to terminate.

Oh, my God. I have never even had a fleeting thought that my oldest was "my real child" and entitled to everything I have or all the love in my heart, and that it would be taking anything away from her, at all, to have a sibling.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:OP I bet your child will love the baby. But having been in a similar situation, where my mom didn't want to have me, I suggest you go to therapy if you do decide to.keep the child.

If you only wanted one and no.more, why didn't you have your tubes tied when you had your first, instead of messing around with birth control? Something isn't adding up in this story.

Another option would be to have the baby, get tubes tied, get a divorce and give dad full custody of both children and you have visitation rights. That way you are done, and he gets to have the kids he wanted.

I asked to get my tubes tied after the birth of dd and the doctors wouldn't do it incase my husband wants more kids. We were both sitting there and said we were done and the doctor kept saying what if we change our minds. at the end we just decided to be very careful.

Hard to believe. I had mine done after DC#2 at a Catholic hospital and no one asked for DH’s permission.

In that middle of my c-section at Georgetown the dr asked me “hey, while we’re in here do you want your tubes tied?” So if they asked at GUH where there is a picture of the Pope on the wall I find it really hard to believe other places say no.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP I bet your child will love the baby. But having been in a similar situation, where my mom didn't want to have me, I suggest you go to therapy if you do decide to.keep the child.

If you only wanted one and no.more, why didn't you have your tubes tied when you had your first, instead of messing around with birth control? Something isn't adding up in this story.

Another option would be to have the baby, get tubes tied, get a divorce and give dad full custody of both children and you have visitation rights. That way you are done, and he gets to have the kids he wanted.

I asked to get my tubes tied after the birth of dd and the doctors wouldn't do it incase my husband wants more kids. We were both sitting there and said we were done and the doctor kept saying what if we change our minds. at the end we just decided to be very careful.

This is highly unusual. Are you very young?

I was 27 and he was 29 at the time.