Upstairs is off-limits to guests

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I’d love to show this to my relatives abroad. They have a one-story house with one bathroom. Imagine — guests using the same bathroom as you and being in a hallway within three feet of your bedroom door!! This hangup about privacy is so sheltered and prissy.

I'm from abroad as well and lived in a similar situation that you describe for much of my life right here in the states. None of my family members, including myself, would choose basic lack of privacy for personal space.

Ok, so what do you think when people say an entire floor of the house = private space? I live in a house that does not have that split of public downstairs and private upstairs so I truly do not get it. It is as if someone said of COURSE the right side of the house is public and the left side is private. Duh.

Sigh. Already been covered. Any adult with have a brain can assess a dwelling and figure out what the public and private spaces are. Bedrooms are private, duh. Bathrooms in bedrooms when another bathroom is available are private. Offices are private. Etc.

Sigh. Good luck identifying which bathroom is "available" in a ranch home. You must see a very narrow range of homes if you think it's that simple. And offices are often the least private parts of people's home. But yes, you know everything and your word on how other people manage their homes is the only valid option.

+1 I don't know why people are insistent that their way is the only way.

Funny how people would behave in their boss’s home but just would feel free to “not understand” a neighbor’s ranch house...

What are you babbling about? No one is talking about their boss's home.

[Anonymous]

OP, I have lived in all kinds of houses, one floor, two floors.....

The thing is, it is ALWAYS the same people who feel the need to barge into your closet or something like that. They have no mental deficiencies, other than being entitled pr*cks. If you pulled that crap in their home, you'd never hear the end of it.

If you have to, put a lock on the door, just for their visits, and watch them pull at the door, trying to get in, while you laugh at their idiocy.

Better yet, I just stopped inviting those kind of people over. Problem solved. No one has any "right" to your personal space in YOUR HOUSE.

[Anonymous]

I was in an old renovated mansion once and the woman was going on and on about all of these secret rooms upstairs. After she kept bragging I asked if she would escort me to show me. She said no. It was so weird.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I was in an old renovated mansion once and the woman was going on and on about all of these secret rooms upstairs. After she kept bragging I asked if she would escort me to show me. She said no. It was so weird.

Yup. Whenever I hear about people who are insistent that certain rooms that aren't accessible to guests, it makes they they're hoarders or are doing something kinky up there.

[Anonymous]

How many pages are you idiots going to blather on about this nonsense?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:How many pages are you idiots going to blather on about this nonsense?

Ask the OP who started this nonsense.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I’d love to show this to my relatives abroad. They have a one-story house with one bathroom. Imagine — guests using the same bathroom as you and being in a hallway within three feet of your bedroom door!! This hangup about privacy is so sheltered and prissy.

I'm from abroad as well and lived in a similar situation that you describe for much of my life right here in the states. None of my family members, including myself, would choose basic lack of privacy for personal space.

Ok, so what do you think when people say an entire floor of the house = private space? I live in a house that does not have that split of public downstairs and private upstairs so I truly do not get it. It is as if someone said of COURSE the right side of the house is public and the left side is private. Duh.

Sigh. Already been covered. Any adult with have a brain can assess a dwelling and figure out what the public and private spaces are. Bedrooms are private, duh. Bathrooms in bedrooms when another bathroom is available are private. Offices are private. Etc.

Sigh. Good luck identifying which bathroom is "available" in a ranch home. You must see a very narrow range of homes if you think it's that simple. And offices are often the least private parts of people's home. But yes, you know everything and your word on how other people manage their homes is the only valid option.

You ASK. It works every time. Try it!

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I wonder about the mental state of people who consider laundry "private." LOL. We keep ours in closets, but I certainly wouldn't be aghast if someone happened to see mine.

Good for you! Be sure to go upstairs to your host's bedroom without permission the next time your boss invites you over for a dinner party. Report back on how it goes!

Most people can see that not considering one's own laundry to be "private" does not also mean that one will walk uninvited to a boss's bedroom.

Dude, they are literally called "unmentionables." I would say the majority of adults living in the United States would consider a basket of their laundry (especially containing dirty underwear) to be private. If there is a fetish-y black market for an item, it's probably considered to be private by most.

That’s funny because I’ve heard of these very public spaces called LAUNDROMATS where people take their dirty laundry, and other people see it!

[Anonymous]

Miss Manners says if it bothers you, put locks on your doorknobs: https://www.washingtonpost.com/lifestyle/style/miss-manners-some-guests-think-off-limits-applies-to-others/2014/11/11/7e7fc4b0-669a-11e4-836c-83bc4f26eb67_story.html?utm_term=.7131b7172358

[Anonymous]

There's always 1 big bathroom off the hallway upstairs, it seems unreasonable to have all of your guests waiting to use the 1 or 2 downstairs. If I have the urge to tinkle I'm going to dart up those stairs and there's nothing you can do to stop me. It's not to snoop, it's just most practical. Stop being weird.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Miss Manners says if it bothers you, put locks on your doorknobs: https://www.washingtonpost.com/lifestyle/style/miss-manners-some-guests-think-off-limits-applies-to-others/2014/11/11/7e7fc4b0-669a-11e4-836c-83bc4f26eb67_story.html?utm_term=.7131b7172358

Not quite. She said lock the doors as a last resort. First, she said the writer was not wrong to view certain rooms as private. Second, she suggested that the writer try different methods of verbally telling the guests that certain spaces were off limits. Locking doors was a last resort for those who are too rude to realize private rooms exist and too dumb to understand when they are explained as much.

[Anonymous]

Sorry if I’m at a dinner party and I have to poop, I’m not using the powder room. I’m going upstairs and getting some privacy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Sorry if I’m at a dinner party and I have to poop, I’m not using the powder room. I’m going upstairs and getting some privacy.

So you'll invade your host's privacy so that you can have some privacy. Gotcha.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Sorry if I’m at a dinner party and I have to poop, I’m not using the powder room. I’m going upstairs and getting some privacy.

So you'll invade your host's privacy so that you can have some privacy. Gotcha.

Yes. Thanks for playing! Don’t want the whole party listening to me poop or walking in after me.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Sorry if I’m at a dinner party and I have to poop, I’m not using the powder room. I’m going upstairs and getting some privacy.

So you'll invade your host's privacy so that you can have some privacy. Gotcha.

Yes. Thanks for playing! Don’t want the whole party listening to me poop or walking in after me.

So you'll leave a stench for the host to find when she goes upstairs to get her 3 year old ready for bed. Awesome.