Upstairs is off-limits to guests

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I’d love to show this to my relatives abroad. They have a one-story house with one bathroom. Imagine — guests using the same bathroom as you and being in a hallway within three feet of your bedroom door!! This hangup about privacy is so sheltered and prissy.

Yup. This is a first world whine from a poster with too much time on their hands and not enough friends and family.

Quality not quantity. And, yes, I am fortunate that our guests have basic, good manners.

If your friends were quality, you wouldn’t be so afraid of having them enter your upstairs. Or there some paranoia going on.

This has been asked and answered many times. I do not entertain my guests in my bedroom. They do not entertain me in their bedrooms. We ONLY go into each other's private living quarters if we invite each other in to see something noteworthy - a new paint color, a bath remodel, etc.

As a general rule, we like and respect each other and avoid putting each other in awkward situations. I can leave a pile of laundry in the corner or the bed unmade or whatever and I do not have to worry about my guests wandering into my bedroom and seeing it.

I can relax and enjoy their company knowing that they are not the types to "accidentally" open a cabinet or wander into a room that they have no business being in. I give them the same sort of respect.

You make total sense, PP. Too bad the person you are responding to clearly has none. This idea that if you know "quality people" you give them full run of your home is weird.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I’d love to show this to my relatives abroad. They have a one-story house with one bathroom. Imagine — guests using the same bathroom as you and being in a hallway within three feet of your bedroom door!! This hangup about privacy is so sheltered and prissy.

Yup. This is a first world whine from a poster with too much time on their hands and not enough friends and family.

Quality not quantity. And, yes, I am fortunate that our guests have basic, good manners.

If your friends were quality, you wouldn’t be so afraid of having them enter your upstairs. Or there some paranoia going on.

This has been asked and answered many times. I do not entertain my guests in my bedroom. They do not entertain me in their bedrooms. We ONLY go into each other's private living quarters if we invite each other in to see something noteworthy - a new paint color, a bath remodel, etc.

As a general rule, we like and respect each other and avoid putting each other in awkward situations. I can leave a pile of laundry in the corner or the bed unmade or whatever and I do not have to worry about my guests wandering into my bedroom and seeing it.

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I can relax and enjoy their company knowing that they are not the types to "accidentally" open a cabinet or wander into a room that they have no business being in. I give them the same sort of respect.

[Anonymous]

People who wander into private rooms uninvited = people who show up early for parties.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:People who wander into private rooms uninvited = people who show up early for parties.

Yes. One and the same.

[Anonymous]

I wonder about the mental state of people who consider laundry "private." LOL. We keep ours in closets, but I certainly wouldn't be aghast if someone happened to see mine.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I wonder about the mental state of people who consider laundry "private." LOL. We keep ours in closets, but I certainly wouldn't be aghast if someone happened to see mine.

Good for you! Be sure to go upstairs to your host's bedroom without permission the next time your boss invites you over for a dinner party. Report back on how it goes!

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I wonder about the mental state of people who consider laundry "private." LOL. We keep ours in closets, but I certainly wouldn't be aghast if someone happened to see mine.

Good for you! Be sure to go upstairs to your host's bedroom without permission the next time your boss invites you over for a dinner party. Report back on how it goes!

Most people can see that not considering one's own laundry to be "private" does not also mean that one will walk uninvited to a boss's bedroom.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I’d love to show this to my relatives abroad. They have a one-story house with one bathroom. Imagine — guests using the same bathroom as you and being in a hallway within three feet of your bedroom door!! This hangup about privacy is so sheltered and prissy.

Yup. This is a first world whine from a poster with too much time on their hands and not enough friends and family.

Quality not quantity. And, yes, I am fortunate that our guests have basic, good manners.

If your friends were quality, you wouldn’t be so afraid of having them enter your upstairs. Or there some paranoia going on.

This has been asked and answered many times. I do not entertain my guests in my bedroom. They do not entertain me in their bedrooms. We ONLY go into each other's private living quarters if we invite each other in to see something noteworthy - a new paint color, a bath remodel, etc.

As a general rule, we like and respect each other and avoid putting each other in awkward situations. I can leave a pile of laundry in the corner or the bed unmade or whatever and I do not have to worry about my guests wandering into my bedroom and seeing it.

I can relax and enjoy their company knowing that they are not the types to "accidentally" open a cabinet or wander into a room that they have no business being in. I give them the same sort of respect.

You make total sense, PP. Too bad the person you are responding to clearly has none. This idea that if you know "quality people" you give them full run of your home is weird.

Nope, it's risk based rule making. I don't stress about my guests and where they're "allowed" to go in my home, because they're trustworthy people. If I had relatives who were grifters, I would lock my door.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I wonder about the mental state of people who consider laundry "private." LOL. We keep ours in closets, but I certainly wouldn't be aghast if someone happened to see mine.

Good for you! Be sure to go upstairs to your host's bedroom without permission the next time your boss invites you over for a dinner party. Report back on how it goes!

Most people can see that not considering one's own laundry to be "private" does not also mean that one will walk uninvited to a boss's bedroom.

Dude, they are literally called "unmentionables." I would say the majority of adults living in the United States would consider a basket of their laundry (especially containing dirty underwear) to be private. If there is a fetish-y black market for an item, it's probably considered to be private by most.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I’d love to show this to my relatives abroad. They have a one-story house with one bathroom. Imagine — guests using the same bathroom as you and being in a hallway within three feet of your bedroom door!! This hangup about privacy is so sheltered and prissy.

I'm from abroad as well and lived in a similar situation that you describe for much of my life right here in the states. None of my family members, including myself, would choose basic lack of privacy for personal space.

Ok, so what do you think when people say an entire floor of the house = private space? I live in a house that does not have that split of public downstairs and private upstairs so I truly do not get it. It is as if someone said of COURSE the right side of the house is public and the left side is private. Duh.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’d love to show this to my relatives abroad. They have a one-story house with one bathroom. Imagine — guests using the same bathroom as you and being in a hallway within three feet of your bedroom door!! This hangup about privacy is so sheltered and prissy.

I'm from abroad as well and lived in a similar situation that you describe for much of my life right here in the states. None of my family members, including myself, would choose basic lack of privacy for personal space.

Ok, so what do you think when people say an entire floor of the house = private space? I live in a house that does not have that split of public downstairs and private upstairs so I truly do not get it. It is as if someone said of COURSE the right side of the house is public and the left side is private. Duh.

This is a thread for people with very big houses and too much time on their hands to clutch their pearls.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’d love to show this to my relatives abroad. They have a one-story house with one bathroom. Imagine — guests using the same bathroom as you and being in a hallway within three feet of your bedroom door!! This hangup about privacy is so sheltered and prissy.

I'm from abroad as well and lived in a similar situation that you describe for much of my life right here in the states. None of my family members, including myself, would choose basic lack of privacy for personal space.

Ok, so what do you think when people say an entire floor of the house = private space? I live in a house that does not have that split of public downstairs and private upstairs so I truly do not get it. It is as if someone said of COURSE the right side of the house is public and the left side is private. Duh.

Sigh. Already been covered. Any adult with have a brain can assess a dwelling and figure out what the public and private spaces are. Bedrooms are private, duh. Bathrooms in bedrooms when another bathroom is available are private. Offices are private. Etc.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’d love to show this to my relatives abroad. They have a one-story house with one bathroom. Imagine — guests using the same bathroom as you and being in a hallway within three feet of your bedroom door!! This hangup about privacy is so sheltered and prissy.

I'm from abroad as well and lived in a similar situation that you describe for much of my life right here in the states. None of my family members, including myself, would choose basic lack of privacy for personal space.

Ok, so what do you think when people say an entire floor of the house = private space? I live in a house that does not have that split of public downstairs and private upstairs so I truly do not get it. It is as if someone said of COURSE the right side of the house is public and the left side is private. Duh.

Sigh. Already been covered. Any adult with have a brain can assess a dwelling and figure out what the public and private spaces are. Bedrooms are private, duh. Bathrooms in bedrooms when another bathroom is available are private. Offices are private. Etc.

Sigh. Good luck identifying which bathroom is "available" in a ranch home. You must see a very narrow range of homes if you think it's that simple. And offices are often the least private parts of people's home. But yes, you know everything and your word on how other people manage their homes is the only valid option.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’d love to show this to my relatives abroad. They have a one-story house with one bathroom. Imagine — guests using the same bathroom as you and being in a hallway within three feet of your bedroom door!! This hangup about privacy is so sheltered and prissy.

I'm from abroad as well and lived in a similar situation that you describe for much of my life right here in the states. None of my family members, including myself, would choose basic lack of privacy for personal space.

Ok, so what do you think when people say an entire floor of the house = private space? I live in a house that does not have that split of public downstairs and private upstairs so I truly do not get it. It is as if someone said of COURSE the right side of the house is public and the left side is private. Duh.

Sigh. Already been covered. Any adult with have a brain can assess a dwelling and figure out what the public and private spaces are. Bedrooms are private, duh. Bathrooms in bedrooms when another bathroom is available are private. Offices are private. Etc.

Sigh. Good luck identifying which bathroom is "available" in a ranch home. You must see a very narrow range of homes if you think it's that simple. And offices are often the least private parts of people's home. But yes, you know everything and your word on how other people manage their homes is the only valid option.

+1 I don't know why people are insistent that their way is the only way.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’d love to show this to my relatives abroad. They have a one-story house with one bathroom. Imagine — guests using the same bathroom as you and being in a hallway within three feet of your bedroom door!! This hangup about privacy is so sheltered and prissy.

I'm from abroad as well and lived in a similar situation that you describe for much of my life right here in the states. None of my family members, including myself, would choose basic lack of privacy for personal space.

Ok, so what do you think when people say an entire floor of the house = private space? I live in a house that does not have that split of public downstairs and private upstairs so I truly do not get it. It is as if someone said of COURSE the right side of the house is public and the left side is private. Duh.

Sigh. Already been covered. Any adult with have a brain can assess a dwelling and figure out what the public and private spaces are. Bedrooms are private, duh. Bathrooms in bedrooms when another bathroom is available are private. Offices are private. Etc.

Sigh. Good luck identifying which bathroom is "available" in a ranch home. You must see a very narrow range of homes if you think it's that simple. And offices are often the least private parts of people's home. But yes, you know everything and your word on how other people manage their homes is the only valid option.

+1 I don't know why people are insistent that their way is the only way.

Funny how people would behave in their boss’s home but just would feel free to “not understand” a neighbor’s ranch house...