Would you be okay with your wife visiting her male best friend

[Anonymous]

No way

[Anonymous]

Has he ever visited your house or interacted with your child? I'd be uncomfortable with him being in the dad role for a week.

[Anonymous]

Pp here - you’re giving me ideas! I’d love to go back to England, where my friend now lives, and DH doesn’t really like to travel. Between Covid and traveling with small kids I wouldn’t do it now, but maybe in a year or two I should take them to visit my friend! (I also have a cousin who lives near my friend.) DH would be welcome, but I could imagine him being more excited for some quiet time at home.

[Anonymous]

My husband has had a girl friend from when he was about 5 years old and 40+ years later they are still great friends and she and I are now very good friends. Two years ago they drove across the country together (why is irrelevant) and I was fine with it. She is like a sister to him and she was one of my bridesmaids because he doesn’t have a sister. They had a ton of fun and they’d Facetime me and our kids every night. My mother was aghast that I was okay with it. Obviously I trusted both of them.

[Anonymous]

Wow, surprised so many "no" responses.

Sure, I would be ok with it. If she is going to cheat, she will do it at some point

[Anonymous]

Only if he is gay. 🌈

Am serious.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Wow, surprised so many "no" responses.

Sure, I would be ok with it. If she is going to cheat, she will do it at some point

+1. Sounds like there are a lot of fragile marriages here. Do you trust her or not? Sounds like a "no" for OP.

[Anonymous]

If my wife was going to f——- someone other than me she wouldn’t be telling me about it. I wouldn’t be thrilled about it but I do trust her. If I didn’t know her male best friend I would be concerned that he might try something and I’d have to kill him. If I knew him he’d know what would happen if he tried something.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My DH has a best friend that is a very attractive female. At first, before I knew their dynamic I was a little jealous. I asked him if he had ever hooked up with her. He said she was a great friend, but that he wouldn’t touch her any intimate way with a ten foot pole. He shared her not great past with guys and all of the associated drama. DH hates drama, she isn’t his type at all, he needs more than a “fling” type situation to be intimate with someone, and as he eloquently stated “I don’t want an STD let alone several”. Given their relationship I would be fine with him spending a week with her but there would never be a need for that to happen.

I think you know your wife better than we do. Do you have anything to worry about?

Of course there is the possibility your husband and the woman friend have been intimate, he might someday want another shot, told you something that sidetracked your concern nicely and you bought it. lol

[Anonymous]

No.

[Anonymous]

I’m my wife’s male best friend. Period.

[Anonymous]

Kidding me right? Nothing good can come of this for you my
Friend. I would not allow it, And it she insists then you have y all the answer you need . Good luck.

[Anonymous]

What is the point of the trip? If it is just to catch up as old friends could he come to where you guys are and stay at a hotel? Just seems like a ton of effort from your wife. Toddlers come with a lot of gear on vacation.

[Anonymous]

No. Just no. So weird for your spouse to think that's ok.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’m my wife’s male best friend. Period.

+1