Yelling Coaches/ Yelling Parents

[Anonymous]

Our u9 boys played in the rec tournament this past week and the SYA coach was completely insane-yelling all kinds of crazy shite. At 8 year olds. He looked too young to be a parent. I would not be happy if my child was screamed at like that.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Our u9 boys played in the rec tournament this past week and the SYA coach was completely insane-yelling all kinds of crazy shite. At 8 year olds. He looked too young to be a parent. I would not be happy if my child was screamed at like that.

You mean the SYA Dad. These are not coaches at Rec. Say it to yourself 1,000 times. They do not reflect the club at all.

[Anonymous]

I see parents losing their minds every week, parents are being sent off more than coaches these days

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:It isn't just the parents. The coaches screaming, "Brayden, cross it to Jayden. Hayden, take it up the right. Aiden, take the throw in." How are these kids going to be able to make their own decisions when their Coach barks out every move they should make.

I was at Pine Ridge for the Rec All Star tournament this past weekend. The BRYC coach for the U10 girls (Either U9 or U10) was AWFULLLLLLLLL!!!!! He did not stop screaming. I don't know how anyone and I mean anyone can stand to be around that guy. Joysticking everyone! After the game, they wanted all the girls in the goal for a quick picture. He still couldn't stop yelling. Yelling at kids. Yelling at parents. Yelling at asst coaches. Thank GOD the games were only 30 minutes. Painful!

Must be a BRYC thing. We played one of the boys teams in a tournament this year and he was SCREAMING at the U9 boys

No, that is a Rec Dad coach thing.

This was a travel tournament.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Our u9 boys played in the rec tournament this past week and the SYA coach was completely insane-yelling all kinds of crazy shite. At 8 year olds. He looked too young to be a parent. I would not be happy if my child was screamed at like that.

You mean the SYA Dad. These are not coaches at Rec. Say it to yourself 1,000 times. They do not reflect the club at all.

This was the Herndon recreational all stars tournament. I recognized this guy from my older son’s travel games last year. He is one of SYA’s travel coaches and he was there with the boys rec u9 team. They won. Not sure how much is the coaching vs the kids on the team at a rec tournament!

[Anonymous]

The worst I have saw was a female coach. She was vicious to 10 and 11 year old girls. Really just a mean and nasty woman.

[Anonymous]

Parents stand and scream at 15 year old refs at rec games

[Anonymous]

Travel coach here, Not saying we are perfect by any means. As a paid coach we are paid to coach your kids. Please understand from the time your kid arrives until they leave. They should be under our direction only. When parents scream out instructions from the sideline your doing nothing more than hindering your teams progress. Leave it us to coach please. Did you ever think we may be watching your kid develop and think out the correct soccer play on their own without shouting instructions constantly. Youth soccer at any and all levels is about developing the athlete and team to be the best they can be , get the most out of their talent. When we have some clueless parent (most are clueless even when they think they know the game) screaming instructions out to players it just clouds the development. We would rather you just sit back enjoy your childs game as a proud parent not an extra coach. Ive banned more than a few parents from games and even training sessions for overstepping their boundaries . Im happy you want to be a part of your childs life. If you want to coach them volunteer at the rec level or take time to get your coaching license apply to coach at an academy and bring you child with you. Just remember nobody is perfect and please don't disrupt your childs soccer experience.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Travel coach here, Not saying we are perfect by any means. As a paid coach we are paid to coach your kids. Please understand from the time your kid arrives until they leave. They should be under our direction only. When parents scream out instructions from the sideline your doing nothing more than hindering your teams progress. Leave it us to coach please. Did you ever think we may be watching your kid develop and think out the correct soccer play on their own without shouting instructions constantly. Youth soccer at any and all levels is about developing the athlete and team to be the best they can be , get the most out of their talent. When we have some clueless parent (most are clueless even when they think they know the game) screaming instructions out to players it just clouds the development. We would rather you just sit back enjoy your childs game as a proud parent not an extra coach. Ive banned more than a few parents from games and even training sessions for overstepping their boundaries . Im happy you want to be a part of your childs life. If you want to coach them volunteer at the rec level or take time to get your coaching license apply to coach at an academy and bring you child with you. Just remember nobody is perfect and please don't disrupt your childs soccer experience.

So glad you’re letting parents know they need to stay in their lane. So many coaches won’t do that. When my travel player DS was younger, he had a teammate whose idiotic father directed the kids literally every minute of the game. The kids actually started looking at him for direction, which is so wrong. The coach did nothing because he was too intimidated to say anything. When this parent started trying to tell my kid what to do, and actually tried to debrief my kid after a match, well, I put a stop to it really fast. And you know what my kid did? He thanked me (and also asked me why that dad was always telling his teammates what to do because “he doesn’t even know what he’s talking about”)! Anyhow, thanks for standing up.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Travel coach here, Not saying we are perfect by any means. As a paid coach we are paid to coach your kids. Please understand from the time your kid arrives until they leave. They should be under our direction only. When parents scream out instructions from the sideline your doing nothing more than hindering your teams progress. Leave it us to coach please. Did you ever think we may be watching your kid develop and think out the correct soccer play on their own without shouting instructions constantly. Youth soccer at any and all levels is about developing the athlete and team to be the best they can be , get the most out of their talent. When we have some clueless parent (most are clueless even when they think they know the game) screaming instructions out to players it just clouds the development. We would rather you just sit back enjoy your childs game as a proud parent not an extra coach. Ive banned more than a few parents from games and even training sessions for overstepping their boundaries . Im happy you want to be a part of your childs life. If you want to coach them volunteer at the rec level or take time to get your coaching license apply to coach at an academy and bring you child with you. Just remember nobody is perfect and please don't disrupt your childs soccer experience.

I remember this dad did quite a bit of coaching from the sideline on my son's team. I think it was U10. The coach asked him to relax and he told the coach, "I pay too much G-- D--n money for my kid to play soccer and not be coached. If you aren't going to do it. I'm going to." The coach just walked away. It was awesome. : )

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Travel coach here, Not saying we are perfect by any means. As a paid coach we are paid to coach your kids. Please understand from the time your kid arrives until they leave. They should be under our direction only. When parents scream out instructions from the sideline your doing nothing more than hindering your teams progress. Leave it us to coach please. Did you ever think we may be watching your kid develop and think out the correct soccer play on their own without shouting instructions constantly. Youth soccer at any and all levels is about developing the athlete and team to be the best they can be , get the most out of their talent. When we have some clueless parent (most are clueless even when they think they know the game) screaming instructions out to players it just clouds the development. We would rather you just sit back enjoy your childs game as a proud parent not an extra coach. Ive banned more than a few parents from games and even training sessions for overstepping their boundaries . Im happy you want to be a part of your childs life. If you want to coach them volunteer at the rec level or take time to get your coaching license apply to coach at an academy and bring you child with you. Just remember nobody is perfect and please don't disrupt your childs soccer experience.

I remember this dad did quite a bit of coaching from the sideline on my son's team. I think it was U10. The coach asked him to relax and he told the coach, "I pay too much G-- D--n money for my kid to play soccer and not be coached. If you aren't going to do it. I'm going to." The coach just walked away. It was awesome. : )

I hope that kid was cut before U11 started. I can't stand especially U9 and U10 parents that come from rec programs. They all seem to think they are gonna be the assistant coach. Or they all want to set up snacks for post games and trophies at the end of the year.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:Travel coach here, Not saying we are perfect by any means. As a paid coach we are paid to coach your kids. Please understand from the time your kid arrives until they leave. They should be under our direction only. When parents scream out instructions from the sideline your doing nothing more than hindering your teams progress. Leave it us to coach please. Did you ever think we may be watching your kid develop and think out the correct soccer play on their own without shouting instructions constantly. Youth soccer at any and all levels is about developing the athlete and team to be the best they can be , get the most out of their talent. When we have some clueless parent (most are clueless even when they think they know the game) screaming instructions out to players it just clouds the development. We would rather you just sit back enjoy your childs game as a proud parent not an extra coach. Ive banned more than a few parents from games and even training sessions for overstepping their boundaries . Im happy you want to be a part of your childs life. If you want to coach them volunteer at the rec level or take time to get your coaching license apply to coach at an academy and bring you child with you. Just remember nobody is perfect and please don't disrupt your childs soccer experience.

I remember this dad did quite a bit of coaching from the sideline on my son's team. I think it was U10. The coach asked him to relax and he told the coach, "I pay too much G-- D--n money for my kid to play soccer and not be coached. If you aren't going to do it. I'm going to." The coach just walked away. It was awesome. : )

I hope that kid was cut before U11 started. I can't stand especially U9 and U10 parents that come from rec programs. They all seem to think they are gonna be the assistant coach. Or they all want to set up snacks for post games and trophies at the end of the year.

I feel bad for that kid...life ain’t gonna be easy with a dad like that. But +1 on the rec/snacks/participation trophy thing.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Travel coach here, Not saying we are perfect by any means. As a paid coach we are paid to coach your kids. Please understand from the time your kid arrives until they leave. They should be under our direction only. When parents scream out instructions from the sideline your doing nothing more than hindering your teams progress. Leave it us to coach please. Did you ever think we may be watching your kid develop and think out the correct soccer play on their own without shouting instructions constantly. Youth soccer at any and all levels is about developing the athlete and team to be the best they can be , get the most out of their talent. When we have some clueless parent (most are clueless even when they think they know the game) screaming instructions out to players it just clouds the development. We would rather you just sit back enjoy your childs game as a proud parent not an extra coach. Ive banned more than a few parents from games and even training sessions for overstepping their boundaries . Im happy you want to be a part of your childs life. If you want to coach them volunteer at the rec level or take time to get your coaching license apply to coach at an academy and bring you child with you. Just remember nobody is perfect and please don't disrupt your childs soccer experience.

I remember this dad did quite a bit of coaching from the sideline on my son's team. I think it was U10. The coach asked him to relax and he told the coach, "I pay too much G-- D--n money for my kid to play soccer and not be coached. If you aren't going to do it. I'm going to." The coach just walked away. It was awesome. : )

I hope that kid was cut before U11 started. I can't stand especially U9 and U10 parents that come from rec programs. They all seem to think they are gonna be the assistant coach. Or they all want to set up snacks for post games and trophies at the end of the year.

Where else would u9 kids come from but u8 rec programs?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:Travel coach here, Not saying we are perfect by any means. As a paid coach we are paid to coach your kids. Please understand from the time your kid arrives until they leave. They should be under our direction only. When parents scream out instructions from the sideline your doing nothing more than hindering your teams progress. Leave it us to coach please. Did you ever think we may be watching your kid develop and think out the correct soccer play on their own without shouting instructions constantly. Youth soccer at any and all levels is about developing the athlete and team to be the best they can be , get the most out of their talent. When we have some clueless parent (most are clueless even when they think they know the game) screaming instructions out to players it just clouds the development. We would rather you just sit back enjoy your childs game as a proud parent not an extra coach. Ive banned more than a few parents from games and even training sessions for overstepping their boundaries . Im happy you want to be a part of your childs life. If you want to coach them volunteer at the rec level or take time to get your coaching license apply to coach at an academy and bring you child with you. Just remember nobody is perfect and please don't disrupt your childs soccer experience.

I remember this dad did quite a bit of coaching from the sideline on my son's team. I think it was U10. The coach asked him to relax and he told the coach, "I pay too much G-- D--n money for my kid to play soccer and not be coached. If you aren't going to do it. I'm going to." The coach just walked away. It was awesome. : )

I hope that kid was cut before U11 started. I can't stand especially U9 and U10 parents that come from rec programs. They all seem to think they are gonna be the assistant coach. Or they all want to set up snacks for post games and trophies at the end of the year.

Where else would u9 kids come from but u8 rec programs?

Most travel clubs have a pre-travel program. The kids train in a more structured setting without the games.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The only thing I'll yell at our team (I'm a parent and an assistant coach) is to spread out. Because they have a tendency to bunch up, despite us telling them 1,000,000 times in practice to spread out, and they don't realize they are doing it, and it has directly contributed to some losses for us. We yell "spread out," and they do it and sometimes they even stay spread out. We'll also tell a girl she is off-sides so she can get on-side before the ref whistles..

This.

I think yelling can be fine when it's used productively. All things being equal, being competitive is more fun than getting blown away. And the only way the kids are going to be competitive is if they do what they are supposed to be doing based on what they've been instructed to do in practice. There's a huge difference between yelling instruction (fine) and berating kids (never fine).

As for yelling per se, let's not pretend that this is a recent phenomenon. The Bad News Bears came out in 1976. Neither Walter Matthau's or Vic Morrow's characters would ever be mistaken for Mr. Rogers...