Yelling Coaches/ Yelling Parents

[Anonymous]

I agree with a lot of what the PP says, but not to the extent that he/she takes it. Yelling encouragement for good hustle, goals, defensive stops, saves are all positive things. Plus it is natural and fun for all to hear. At the end of the day it is a sport and should be fun. Yes, bitching about poor play, the coach, the ref, other team and parents is not good. Agreed. As far as why so few refs it is less about people yelling and more about the time commitment (usually a side gig) and commensurate pay level. I know as I used to ref (and coach and play and manage). Now I parent. Been there and done it all.

[Anonymous]

I like to yell.
I only yell positive things.
Complimenting.

I do however like to do so in the midst of the other team’s fans. I stand with them and start the game yelling complimentary things of their players. Then I start to sprinkle in positive things about our team.

I have always had good interactions with other parents this way. It’s an icebreaker and they often start to do the same.

I dont always do it but it always has the same result.
People are inherently pretty good they just need to interact with you and be given a chance.

It’s all good.

[Anonymous]

Snowflake is not a bad term.

Flower petal or blossom is also nice as it connotes uniqueness and specialness that should be handled delicately if at all

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I like to yell.
I only yell positive things.
Complimenting.

I do however like to do so in the midst of the other team’s fans. I stand with them and start the game yelling complimentary things of their players. Then I start to sprinkle in positive things about our team.

I have always had good interactions with other parents this way. It’s an icebreaker and they often start to do the same.

I dont always do it but it always has the same result.
People are inherently pretty good they just need to interact with you and be given a chance.

It’s all good.

m

Wtf?

For chrissakes:
The rule is you are supposed to sit directly on the half of the field across from your team bench.

So much shit happens when parents don’t respect these boundaries.

Most people know this except a few fools.

[Anonymous]

And, lady, you can’t stand behind the goal either. We had a group of idiots on the opposing team yelling right behind our goalie. The ref usually catches this and makes them move. Not always.

I’m amazed how many people don’t these simple things. I don’t put a chair down until I know what half our team bench is on.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Snowflake is not a bad term.

Flower petal or blossom is also nice as it connotes uniqueness and specialness that should be handled delicately if at all

It is a worn out term that is tired. Kinda like wearing white pants after Labor Day.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I like to yell.
I only yell positive things.
Complimenting.

I do however like to do so in the midst of the other team’s fans. I stand with them and start the game yelling complimentary things of their players. Then I start to sprinkle in positive things about our team.

I have always had good interactions with other parents this way. It’s an icebreaker and they often start to do the same.

I dont always do it but it always has the same result.
People are inherently pretty good they just need to interact with you and be given a chance.

It’s all good.

m

Wtf?

For chrissakes:
The rule is you are supposed to sit directly on the half of the field across from your team bench.

So much shit happens when parents don’t respect these boundaries.

Most people know this except a few fools.

Show me the rule.
There is'nt one.

Show me where they have parent cards?
There is'nt one.

Like I said, always been positive and always positive reactions.
Then again I understand the game and when I comment 'nice recognition', 'well done on the through ball" or ask parents if their team is taught to play through the pivot or just is doing that naturally I get responses from the knowledgable parents. I can speak in several languages as well.

Again no rule says I can't compliment an opposing team or be friendly with their parents. When done respectfully it is never an issue, quite the opposite: when I see those teams again parents come up to me and say hello and ask how seasons are going.

Get over it.

[Anonymous]

Crazy how people can take your post about being cordial and try to spin it into a negative. Keep doing what you do, hope we can come across on the sidelines someday. It would be a better interaction than the people living vicariously that you usually encounter.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I agree with a lot of what the PP says, but not to the extent that he/she takes it. Yelling encouragement for good hustle, goals, defensive stops, saves are all positive things. Plus it is natural and fun for all to hear. At the end of the day it is a sport and should be fun. Yes, bitching about poor play, the coach, the ref, other team and parents is not good. Agreed. As far as why so few refs it is less about people yelling and more about the time commitment (usually a side gig) and commensurate pay level. I know as I used to ref (and coach and play and manage). Now I parent. Been there and done it all.

Here’s a study about why refs quit. Give you three guesses why.

https://news.harvard.edu/gazette/story/2019/11/psychologist-explains-the-problem-of-angry-parents-and-coaches/

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I like to yell.
I only yell positive things.
Complimenting.

I do however like to do so in the midst of the other team’s fans. I stand with them and start the game yelling complimentary things of their players. Then I start to sprinkle in positive things about our team.

I have always had good interactions with other parents this way. It’s an icebreaker and they often start to do the same.

I dont always do it but it always has the same result.
People are inherently pretty good they just need to interact with you and be given a chance.

It’s all good.

m

Wtf?

For chrissakes:
The rule is you are supposed to sit directly on the half of the field across from your team bench.

So much shit happens when parents don’t respect these boundaries.

Most people know this except a few fools.

Show me the rule.
There is'nt one.

Show me where they have parent cards?
There is'nt one.

Like I said, always been positive and always positive reactions.
Then again I understand the game and when I comment 'nice recognition', 'well done on the through ball" or ask parents if their team is taught to play through the pivot or just is doing that naturally I get responses from the knowledgable parents. I can speak in several languages as well.

Again no rule says I can't compliment an opposing team or be friendly with their parents. When done respectfully it is never an issue, quite the opposite: when I see those teams again parents come up to me and say hello and ask how seasons are going.

Get over it.

Our league specifies it. There is an appointed volunteer of each team to enforce it.

You must have young kids. Teen games do this for a very good reason.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I like to yell.
I only yell positive things.
Complimenting.

I do however like to do so in the midst of the other team’s fans. I stand with them and start the game yelling complimentary things of their players. Then I start to sprinkle in positive things about our team.

I have always had good interactions with other parents this way. It’s an icebreaker and they often start to do the same.

I dont always do it but it always has the same result.
People are inherently pretty good they just need to interact with you and be given a chance.

It’s all good.

m

Wtf?

For chrissakes:
The rule is you are supposed to sit directly on the half of the field across from your team bench.

So much shit happens when parents don’t respect these boundaries.

Most people know this except a few fools.

Show me the rule.
There is'nt one.

Show me where they have parent cards?
There is'nt one.

Like I said, always been positive and always positive reactions.
Then again I understand the game and when I comment 'nice recognition', 'well done on the through ball" or ask parents if their team is taught to play through the pivot or just is doing that naturally I get responses from the knowledgable parents. I can speak in several languages as well.

Again no rule says I can't compliment an opposing team or be friendly with their parents. When done respectfully it is never an issue, quite the opposite: when I see those teams again parents come up to me and say hello and ask how seasons are going.

Get over it.

I love what you do. Please continue to do what you do.

[Anonymous]

Please don't come on our team's side. I don't care if you are complimenting my son. We don't want you there and don't want to hear it. Just saying. Thank you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Please don't come on our team's side. I don't care if you are complimenting my son. We don't want you there and don't want to hear it. Just saying. Thank you.

He might take it up a level and wear the colors of the other team . Start positive but work up to getting under the refs skin actually getting a card for the opposing team. (great idea)

[Anonymous]

This is getting heated.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Please don't come on our team's side. I don't care if you are complimenting my son. We don't want you there and don't want to hear it. Just saying. Thank you.

Why/Sad someone feel this way?

Sports is where cultures and people mix, it doesn’t have to be a collision
It’s a game not war

And the poster is right there is no rule, it’s county fields and anyone can stand there.
They don’t even have to have a kid on the team