Yelling Coaches/ Yelling Parents

[Anonymous]

The only thing I'll yell at our team (I'm a parent and an assistant coach) is to spread out. Because they have a tendency to bunch up, despite us telling them 1,000,000 times in practice to spread out, and they don't realize they are doing it, and it has directly contributed to some losses for us. We yell "spread out," and they do it and sometimes they even stay spread out. We'll also tell a girl she is off-sides so she can get on-side before the ref whistles.

The other thing I hear a lot of is "great idea!" or "nice try" or "good save, Goalie!" We try to keep it positive.

Our coach is not a yeller, which is one reason we like him.

[Anonymous]

Our top team has a cabal of dads/moms who are all way into soccer, and they constantly joystick their kids playing techniques. The girls look to the dads for instruction, rather than the coach. I'd rather my kid learn their soccer technique by making mistakes and adjusting for the next situation.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It’s normal. My kid plays rec and everyone yells, but it’s mostly positive reinforcement or instructions. Some parents get ugly and us other parents try to shut them down. Being loud and yelling in general is part of soccer.

+1
yelling is not always negative, then yes, of course it's problem in general.
i don't mind the positive yelling, encouragement and some loose guidance (not play-by-play joy stick). shesh, soccer isn't suppose to be like golf or tennis; cheering is part of the fun.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Our coach got a yellow card yesterday because of our parents yelling at players and refs. I've tried several times to tell the parents to cool it, but ultimately I cannot force them and the coach has asked a few times for them to just enjoy and not yell. It has become youth sports culture unfortunately.

I'm sorry, but why the hell would stay on a team like that? It's not good for your child.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I saw a ref yesterday tell a coach off mid game. He told he he didn’t want to listen to her putting the kids down. She was welcome to shout instructions or encouragement, but needed to stop all the negative feedback. I thought it was awesome. The kids were about 10-11.

Was this the GFR 2009 team? I've never seen a coach scream and belittle her players as much as that coach.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I saw a ref yesterday tell a coach off mid game. He told he he didn’t want to listen to her putting the kids down. She was welcome to shout instructions or encouragement, but needed to stop all the negative feedback. I thought it was awesome. The kids were about 10-11.

Was this the GFR 2009 team? I've never seen a coach scream and belittle her players as much as that coach.

Is Dudley Hawkins back at GFR?

[Anonymous]

Our SYC U9 team beat PAC U9 in the championship yesterday at the McLean tournament . Their coach got so mad at one of his own parents. He sent her away from the field because she ran on the field to console an injured player. After the game we talked with the other teams parents. Many were glad. their coach sent off the parent, They were all saying she deserved it and has been a problem all year at every game. Jm not sure how things are run over at PAC. I know our club would drop the kid if the parent was a season long problem.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Our SYC U9 team beat PAC U9 in the championship yesterday at the McLean tournament . Their coach got so mad at one of his own parents. He sent her away from the field because she ran on the field to console an injured player. After the game we talked with the other teams parents. Many were glad. their coach sent off the parent, They were all saying she deserved it and has been a problem all year at every game. Jm not sure how things are run over at PAC. I know our club would drop the kid if the parent was a season long problem.

Poor kid, though. I hear clubs say this sort of thing but I have never heard of a club actually cutting a player because of a parent.

[Anonymous]

We had a dad who yelled at his daughter to “Get in her face!”

The girls are 8.

Sigh.

[Anonymous]

What’s PAC?

[Anonymous]

I thought soccer was bad until my kid did travel basketball. Those parents are CRAZY. And standing right on the line coaching their kids and calling plays. I've never seen anything like it. This is AAU games. It was far too intense for 10-11 year olds.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I thought soccer was bad until my kid did travel basketball. Those parents are CRAZY. And standing right on the line coaching their kids and calling plays. I've never seen anything like it. This is AAU games. It was far too intense for 10-11 year olds.

Maybe. Baseball parents are pretty crazy too. I think parents of girls (at least on this forum) are much sicker than boys. I hadn't suspected that until seeing it here. You can't have a simple conversation, share any experience. Girl soccer brings out a special breed of crazy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What’s PAC?

Premier Athletics club based out of Falls Church, VA. They are a smaller club but have a few really good teams. Their boys U-13 team is ranked higher than some area ECNL teams.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I thought soccer was bad until my kid did travel basketball. Those parents are CRAZY. And standing right on the line coaching their kids and calling plays. I've never seen anything like it. This is AAU games. It was far too intense for 10-11 year olds.

My son did a season on travel basketball last year (6th grade) and I thought it was very calm. The only time it got a little tense was when we played in this one gym that was TIGHT. The parents were right on the out of bound lines and it was a close game. All the other games were very relaxed on the parent side.

[Anonymous]

21:53 - I've never seen that at all and I've been a soccer parent at 3 levels of soccer (rec, travel, in-between) and a coach in the last 6 years. The boys' games I've seen generate SO much more yelling, negative and positive, than the girls' games. I don't know if that's because the boys themselves are more vocal (especially when they score) or not, but at the girls' games, it's generally pretty social. We've had a couple of games with obnoxious parents on the sidelines, but it's typically 1 game per 8-game season, which isn't too bad.